divorce and kids
By aprces
@aprces (1082)
China
May 8, 2009 6:00am CST
i watched tv program about when a couple divorce each other just a moment ago.it said that when this situation happened,both two parents should not extend their hate to their own child.but i think this speech is pointless and meaningless.because as a kid of themselves,i think there's no reason to hate their own kid.i consider that more often there has no parent who don't love their own kid in the world
now let's talk more deeply about the relation between divorce and kids.what we must talk about is when the couple remarriage and each of them has rebuilt a family again,the key we must pay attention to is the digamous' attitude to the previous kid,yes,the attitude of stepmother and stepfather.in reality,it will often happens this situation below : maybe you don't mind your partner has married with others in the past,but maybe you will care a lot about the kid who is not your own of your partner,because the kid is just like a reminder that remind you your partner has made love with another guy in the past,that will bring your heart umbrage and fantom.actually,married=fcuked=had kid,but sometimes someone cannot get rid of this confusion by themselves
just my viewpoint,all of you can talk about yours in succession... 
1 response
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
8 May 09
I think Maybe you took it wrong, could they have been saying that you should put your anger aside and still be a family for the children involved. As in still do things with your children and ex, birthdays, school events. do not disrupt your childs life because you could not work things out with your ex.
Many parents do take the anger out on their children they let their pride get in their way and no longer put the child first. Yes you have a right to be mad, but you can be civil at the same time and allow those children you brought into this world to still have two parents.
