It's Over

@jess07 (319)
May 9, 2009 11:02am CST
Hi everyone, Well for those who have followed the many arguments and questions i posted to myLot about my boyfriend and I, Well it's over. Finally over.I couldn't take it anymore the lies,the big words and no action, and sometimes the things he did and said that hurt deep down. The last straw was whan he was smoking (no not just cigarettes) I couldn't take that i tld him he needed to stop, and to my suprise he said "Okay, you're worth it baby".So i was happy i mean i was over the moon.He stopped for a month then he came to me and said "baby i'm smoking it again" and it hurt i mean it wasworst than a slap in the face cos to me it meant that in a way, i wasn't worth it anymore. From then on it got worst, the arguments,the lies... My best friend made me see reason , she made me see i was unhappy and depressed.We split up.But then he started telling horrible stories about me to his and My friends,he made me look like a sl*ut i felt so down,But now i think what the hey? I have my real fiends by my side, my best friends,my family and my belief. He broke my heart and hurt my ego,but i still miss him. I don't know what to do to get over this.
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@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
10 May 09
I completely understand and you did the right thing. You have to do what is right for you in the long run. I was engaged 10 years ago before I got married to my current husband and the relationship was not right. So I ended it because it was making me miserable. In time, you will get better. I know that sounds cliche, but it is true. In the mean time, do things that you enjoy and hang out with your friends.
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@jess07 (319)
12 May 09
hi, Thanks for sharing that. I'm sure i'll end up getting over it.I hope so. Thanks again =) Jess =)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Hmmmm! the Last X that did that to me, I hunt him down together with my frat mates and even dragging him to his own house and told the whole story to his parents. That guy of your was horrible, I think he was going very deep down as a Looser and deeper than the hell hole. You made the right decision by letting this looser go because it tears your soul apart being with this guy.Don't worry you'll get over him and be a much better person..believe it.
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@jess07 (319)
12 May 09
Hi, thanks for your response, yeah he's got very low indeed, even lower now i've left him. But i'll get over it.With time. Thanks again, Jess.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Hi jess07, I think it's not easy to forget, and just let it go what you feel the hurts and the pains of what you felt. But use the pain to make you stronger, and a better person. What I can tell you yes your right never let go of your beliefs, your principle, and your own reasoning with life. You just don't deserve someone who will not make you feel happy, but only thinks what he wants. Your concern that was just taken for granted. The lies that was an excuse. It takes time to adjust, gradual sometimes to carry on. But you can do it, cause you can let go of him. It's only time can heal and faith to yourself to get over your feelings. Have a nice day to you jess07!
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@jess07 (319)
10 May 09
Hi, Thanks for your response, Yes it did feel sometimes that he could do what he wanted because he knew I would always come back.But i experienced a really weird thing a few days ago, i was with a male friend, and i mean i've always been attracted by him, but i just could not make tha step, it felt like i was cheating on my ex.It just feels that my heart and my mind are not ready just yet...Maybe one day. Thanks again for yor response. Jess =)
@jellymonty (2354)
9 May 09
Sweeetheart, you done the right thing. No relationship is worth hanging on to if there is more misery than happiness. Its going to be hard to let go of him but if you really want to move on then you have to take the bull by its horns. When I broke up with my bf because of his infidelity this is ehat I did to get over it: 1) threw away everything he evr gave me. Burnt it all (sold the jewels on ebay!) 2) Every picture that had him on it I cut out 3) Enrolled in a dance class (dance is an excellent theraputic method) 4) I occupied myself with as much as I could find. (knitting, video games, cooking, reading etc) 5) Got sexy! I had a massive make over change (cut my lovely black hair and had a Halle Berry hair cut 6) Totally cut off our mutual friends (this was the hardest part as we did have some close friends but it had to be done. 7) Moved to another country (in your case maybe city) Its been six years now and i'm the happiest bunny on the planet. The most important thing is not to contact him ever again even if he tries to contact you, you ignore him ignore him ignore him! This worked for me and I hope if you decide to give it a go it will work for you. I wish you all the best and keep us posted of your progress. I'm already rooting for you!
@jess07 (319)
10 May 09
hi jellymonty, It's hard to not stay in contact with him cos he has my msn and will come on and try and make my life a misery, He will keep on and on, it's often after he has been smoking that he will come and just be nasty or not even nasty but try and get on my nerves.But i've learnt to be stronger, i know that I will get over him someday, I have a very supportive family and the best friends any one could have. Your seven step plan sounds good, lol but i won't change cities for him, i'm still in school here and my family is here. Thanks so much for your kind response.May i add you to my friends ? Jess =)
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