She Just Rejected My Friendship Offer Seeing That I Am Indian...!!!

India
May 9, 2009 2:39pm CST
hi guys and gals, today is the worst day as i am really pissed off by a girl from Malaysia. I simply asked her name and she replied-"I am not a Indian". at that time i said nothing to her. but now this answer is really pinching me like needles. What Does She mean to say? I have other friends too from Malaysia but they never pointed out this thing to me. Does it mean i don't have a good English, so she doesn't want to talk to me. I never really felt so. Do you feel so? the more i am thinking of it the worse i am feeling. please help me in figuring out what she meant to say?
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54 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
9 May 09
Well, I'm not a mind reader but it does seem that this person has some prejudice against Indians but don't let it upset you. There are people on this Earth who are like that and they do not deserve your concern. Forget about her and focus on the nice people who do not judge others like that. By the way, your English is fine.
9 May 09
oh sorry dude. But maybe she's had a bad experience with indians and so she's decided that I dont want anything to do with y'all. Or she may just be prejudice against Indians.. don't take it personally.. some people are just haters of other races but really I wouldnt worry.. be happy with the people who have accepted you as a friend..
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• India
9 May 09
hi jelly i really liked your advise and also the cat with watermelon in your pic :-)
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• India
9 May 09
that's a cool advise. well doing the same things. looking over to the nice people.
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@substance (585)
• India
9 May 09
maybe she does not like personal questions who knows?? But you seem to like asian girls. haha!! anyway, don't worry, you will soon get a good online friend if you keep looking. best of luck!! happy mylotting.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
13 May 09
I also think most of the Asian people are very nice.
• India
13 May 09
ya.... of course.. we are nice...
• India
9 May 09
being a Asian i like Asian girls, in fact i like all the girls who are well behaved and are friendly in nature. i have find some really good friends here on mylot but all of them are married and have kids. and may be i am the youngest here on mylot so some girls don't take me seriously! well still looking for some good online friends.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
9 May 09
Welcome Deepak,and frankly I don't care if you are Indian or not. It's how you conduct yourself online that counts, and so far I've no complaints! Don't let people like this Malaysian girl get under your skin. She's just one person with an obvious 'culture' problem and probably will never have as many online friends as you do and will have in the future. And for the record....I now know three Deepak's from India, and they are all terrific people who, if they already have good English, are getting better everyday, so don't let language barriers bother you either. Like others have said.........her loss, and here on the lot, we care and protect our friends.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
9 May 09
You've discovered the magic of mylot Deepak. You won't get finacially rich here, but as long as you respect people, you will become VERY rich in friends. As you said, this is an international site, and there are ALL kinds of people here. Good, bad and just plain mean. The difference here though, is that if you have a problem with someone, just call on your friends, and they will back you up and take care of anyone who gets nasty with you. I've put in a friends request to you and I hope you will accept. Again........welcome to the love of the lot! lol
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
9 May 09
Thanks for accepting my friends request. Now turn on your 'notifications' and join in my rather insane discussions and be prepared to have some FUN and make some really good friends! Happy mylotting Deepak!
• India
9 May 09
i am feeling good after hearing so much from you all. actually now i understand what was the purpose behind making this website. I arrived here to gain some money but now found that this is the best platform where you can express your views and take advise from people. there is no chance of getting a biased advise here as the people are from all over the world and from all the religions and views. sitting together here just to listen to you and give you best advise possible. earlier i used to think that its only my family that thinks good of me. and all friends are selfish. but this discussion of mine changed my complete point of view. now i think there are people who thinks good of me and really try to help me. seriously saying this problem would have haunted me for days. but you all made it disappear in minutes. you people are so soft hearted. i am feeling really better and the credit goes to you all.
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• India
9 May 09
She just said that she is not Indian. U r thinking so much about it. She may understand that u dont know the meaning of her name. Just, u hav to take it easy. Dont be serious abt it. If u take examples abt some genious persons here in our finance Capital, Mumbai,,, a survey is telling that most of the genious persons are rejecting girls if they hurt them. They just have taking them easy, but not serious as like this. Take it easy, Guruji...
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• India
9 May 09
u just commenting? or taking following up our suggestions?
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• India
9 May 09
taking follow up. really you people are so good and helping.
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• India
9 May 09
really a good one! okay trying not to be serious about it.
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@Tonton01 (235)
• Philippines
10 May 09
she may have been asked the question far too many times by other people before meeting you. It's her decision. Don't worry, you can meet new people everyday and sort. :)
@tabsnlos (587)
• United States
9 May 09
Hmmmm I am not sure what she meant by that? But don't let her ruin your day. Keep on doing what you do and kick her to the curb! =)
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@tabsnlos (587)
• United States
9 May 09
well then, where is she?? want me to take care of this for you?? Lol.. just kidding But seriously you are wasting your time with this one... In life, you are going to come across many ignorant people, but there is just nothing we can do about it. She will get what she deserves one day or another. Karma will be out to get her
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• India
9 May 09
she ruined it already! i am not able to divert my mind from the topic
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
10 May 09
hi, I don't really know what did she mean about that. I just guess it ok, she might know that you are Indian guy and was about to flirt with her or something and she might not like Indian guy either. But why you have to worry about, if she doesn't want to talk to you or be friend with you then just forget her. But before you let her goes, you should say " do you think you are petty than everyone in this world? Dream on, my friend" I am sure, she will be more piss off than you. Good luck
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• India
10 May 09
i don't flirt with every one. Do I? (sometimes i do:-D) I think she was prettier than you (kidding :-S) come on yahoo!
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@pree70 (525)
• India
10 May 09
please don't waste your time and energy thinking about this matter. If she has any prejudice about making friends with indians, then consider it to be her problem and not yours. Just move ahead and make friends with a lot of other worthy people...
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
10 May 09
Who was She? sounds like she is a Racist. That is not good, we have people here from all culures.
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
10 May 09
Hey Deepak! I'm guilty of rejecting your friend offer before because i saw you don't have any post. I hope you won't think that i rejected you because you're indian. I was just being cautious ok? I'm glad you invited me again and so i accepted your offer. I think that girl is pretty mean and ignorant. I mean there's really not much difference if you're indian or not. I believe your english is quite good and i understand what you are saying fairly well. I guess we just can't please everybody so i guess you should just move on and don't think much about it. Maybe she's looking for a boyfriend here and she prefers a guy to be Malaysian too!
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• India
10 May 09
hey modstar! you are nice. i think you are right. she might be looking for a boyfriend material, rathar than a friend. she also told me that she was private! now what does that mean? i am not a girl so i just can't understand what she want to say.
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• India
13 May 09
Hey just keep one thing in mind, "If you like me, raise your hand, if you don't raise your standard...". Let this be your message to all those who are rude to you... What say buddy ???
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• India
10 May 09
Think this way 'the burden just went away'. Actually, she is the loser. Did she refused you even after seeing your glamorous photo? (partially lol but partially serious). Just leave it and don't waste your time thinking about those useless events. You have a lot of girl friends. Right? You will get even more in future. So don't worry about those things dude. Just think about me. I have no girl friends. Not even a single one yet. I don't know why? I would never bother about those. Because, I have no other option. But, I am ambitious. That's why, I am fond of online money making.
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• India
10 May 09
don't worry friend it happens, some day you will also meet her. have patience and enjoy your life.
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
9 May 09
I would not stress over it, it is her loss and not yours.
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• India
9 May 09
Really!!! thanks for that!
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
9 May 09
you do not need friends like that there are tons of nice people on here that will not treat you in that manner and who do not care about your background, religion etc.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
12 May 09
I also think there are lots of nice people in the world and our lives are for them.
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• United States
9 May 09
HMMM... I'm not sure why she said that.I wouldn't worry about it, Like the other "lotters" said her loss! I know that it's hard to forget when someone is mean and disrespectful, But all she is showing you is her true colors! You should ask yourself do you realy want to be friends with someone like that anyways!
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• India
10 May 09
Very well said! Dude, just follow this advice and your worries will vanish. ;)
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• India
9 May 09
i agree to you. i don't want such friends so i never messaged her again. but as this is for the first time any stranger said such bad words to me.
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• United States
9 May 09
I have had a stranger make rude comments about me and it's upseting, cause I think this person doesn't even know me. I just have to remind myself thats right they don't know me and what they say doesn't matter. I also sometimes think "what comes around goes around" one day someone will treat her like that, then maybe she'll think about twice about doing it to others.
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@noorhizat (209)
• Malaysia
13 May 09
Hi there, I am from Malaysia. This matters of arrogance and raciest are well distributed in this world of ours. regardless of race and origin, people are actually scared of something new and different. It is their loss if they prefer not to take up on something new and different. Almost all of us have eaten a burger. I think it is not the native food to almost all of us. but we all like it even thought it is new to us. Then there is pizza, sushi, hot dogs, pretzel and others. you try new things you will like it, maybe. but at least you try and experience it. that is what I think.
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@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
10 May 09
I don't understand why this girl would say so to you. Perhaps she isn't good in English so that she said so. As she didn't know what is the right subject to talk about. I am not sure. I think most people from everywhere are nice. The internet is a global world. I like Indians:) I love China
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
11 May 09
U need not feel so bad nor hurt.. Maybe she just doesn't like indian friends and that's it.. We cant force them if they dun wanna be our frenz right?? haha =D Just give and take, but dun harp over it.. Since there are other malaysian frenz out there, and it does not hurt to miss out on her, right?? There will be some others whom are more willing to make more frenz instead of finding that they already have more than enough frenz.. haha =D
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@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
10 May 09
Hi Deepak, If all she said was "I am not an Indian" I don't know how anyone could really determine what she meant. It seems everyone is assuming that she meant something bad. Why would she mean something bad? I see your picture, you are obviously a handsome young man. Maybe she meant simply, "wow, what a cute guy, I'd love to meet him but darn, I'm here in Malaysia and I just can't afford to travel. He is Indian, and maybe I should tell him up front that I don't live in India. Otherwise, if a relationship develops, and we can't actually meet, he'll be hurt. I know I will." Or, she may have talked before to someone on line, fallen in love, wanted to meet and then the guy discovered she wasn't Indian and was mad at her. "I should tell this guy up front. If its not an issue, then we can go from there." Just thinking that maybe you misunderstood her.
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@cicisnana (772)
• United States
10 May 09
Did you send a friends request along with your question and she rejected the request? If so, steer clear of her. I would! A person with prejudices has no place in my life and I hope you feel the same way. If you didn't send a request, there could just be a little misunderstanding and I would message her again and ask what she meant by her statement.
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@tuckersheri (1321)
• United States
10 May 09
I will be you friend just add me I don't reject I think everyone deserves a chance at friendship. I hope you find out what she's talking bout that's confusing to me even
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@nidz_16 (61)
• India
10 May 09
hey deepak....just chill n erase that reply.....there good n bad girls.......stay in touch with good grls n dnt bother abt others.........u b nice n all will b nice............so keep smiling.....