Would you put your parents in the nursing home or would you tend them at home?

No I will never send them to nursing home. Even if there will be some problems or mis-understanding in our family I will try to resolve them. I love and admire my parents and don't want to leave them. I know how hard they have worked to give us happiness.

Hello laydee! I don't think I would ever see myself bringing my parents to the nursing home. I believe I can take good care of them. Yeah, the way they took good care of me when I was younger. If, for any reason, they can't stay with me at home, I will make sure that they are within reach. If at times, I can't personally take care of them, I would most likely hire a nurse to take over. But only for a while. I will still do my best to be the one to take care of them.

I live over 700 miles from my Dad so I really don't know who will care for him, it'll be up to my stepmom to decide. As for my Mom, she won't go into a nursing home. One of us kids will take her, more than likely it'll be me. My grandma took care of her mother, my Mom takes care of my grandma so I'll probably be the one to take care of my Mom. Years ago I used to go with my Mom and grandma to nursing homes to deliver booklets and you wouldn't believe some of the horrors I saw. Naked men walking around, ppl lying in puddles of urine, one place had a locked door and all you could hear was screaming coming from the room. They said the woman in there was crazy. I know not all places are like that but some are and there's no way to know what they do when your not there...I couldn't live with myself if I let my Mom go to a home. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

I work in a nursing home for people who have dementia. And I also help in the care for my parents now. It's not so bad right now because it mainly is all about making sure the meds are filled and taken...and they do basically everything for themselves. And there is no history of dementia in our family so I am hoping it's just going to be normal old age stuff with my parents as they get older. But when there is dementia involved it is a hard decision. And at one point unless you can afford to hire a nurse/sitter for 24 hour care assisted living facilities can help not only them, but you knowing you chose the best for them. Also if you do hire at home care....install a nanny cam. I know if I ever have to have someone sit with one of my parents that will be the case. Because now days you can't trust people with property much less a loved one.

I personally dont want to live with my kids (I've told them ) because its so hard on the family. When the time comes I want to go into an assisted home where I still have my own apparment & do my own thing when I want to, they just make sure your ok & have what you need such as meds. They clean for you,they assist you whatever your need is. thats the way to go for me!! ya'll have a great week! happy myloting

That would be a nice idea laydee....but what if your parents have other ideas? My mom for one is thinking of making her own nursing home and keeping everyone there (my two other "moms" and whoever cares to join them:p). She has this idea that it'll be fun for them if they have companions of the same age. The environment would be different though...sort of like a home. Personally, I'd prefer to let them stay at my place juts like what you've said.

Hello laydee, I will never send my parents to the old folks' home. I will take care of them or any of my siblings won't mind to take care of them. They sacrificed a lot for us, to give us what we have now and I don't have the heart to see my parents feel sad because they have to be away from their loved ones. I will hire a maid or a nurse just to take care of them.

Now this is the time to do our responsibility to our parents for they need us which we have to take care of our parents as what they did to us when we are not capable to do the things until we become a professional with their effort to gave us the education and become a successful one. So this time it it is time to take care of our parents.

In an ideal world, keeping my parents at home would be easy. However, their medical conditions call for 24/7 care that I and my siblings cannot offer. We all have to have jobs to keep our own immediate families taken care of and aren't qualified to help them out with certain aspects of their care. We all stay very involved and keep them an important part of our lives. The nursing home is just their new address, not who they are to us now. Medical insurances for the elderly isn't what it should be...it doesn't pay what it should for our older generation to be able to stay at home and have care offered to them there. It would be wonderful if the government stopped taking away their benefits, but in deed just took care of them. They have worked all their lives in this country, that is the least we can do for them.

I will make sure my parents either live with me or one of my sisters...whichever is closest. It would not always be convienent but I can't stand teh hough of them being all alone in a strange place while their children have room for them. I think it's the least I can do after all they've done for me and sacrificing a lot of what they wanted for me. I am close to my parents though so that probably has a lot to do with it

I would never put my parents in a nursing home. It would feel as if they are a bother. But considering what they have gone through raising me, I'd do anything to make them feel loved and unabandoned in my home. I think that's the humane thing to do. Although ofcourse sometimes there are things to consider like if everybody leaves home to go to work and there is nobody there to help them all day, then maybe a nursing home would do. But there are options like hiring a nurse.

I know this may seem bad, but personally I would rather place my mother in a nursing home. :-( My mother is a very rude and impatient person who tends to become upset easily when things do not go her way. I honestly would not be able to care for her because I would not want to cause her any harm. :-) There are times when my mother is act like the most hideous person in the world and for that reason, I know it would be best to "leave it up to the proefessionals." I normally have a lot patience, and that is something I pride myself, but my patience --even though I always remain calm-- can become quite thin when I have to deal with my mother. :-) So, the best and most kind way (in my situation) would be to let others care for her. :-)

I could never put my parents in a nursing home. I could never put my grandmother in a nursing home for that matter. They are great people and I know some people couldn't slow their career to take care of their parents who need a lot of help, but I would find a way to make helping a loved one work on one income if need be. I will never allow a family member to become a burden on myself. They have been through a lot with me and I owe it to them to be there for them.

This is a very, very hard question for me. I saw my maternal Grandmother live in a nursing home for 18 months. It wasnt all that great. It was really hard on my Grandfather. My Grandmother hated being incapacited like she was from her stroke. On the other hand, I saw my paternal Grandfather take care of my paternal Grandmother for several years as she was degrading from Alzheimer's. It got really bad towards the end. My Grandfather was a very healthy person. Because of the stress of having to take care of my Grandmother constantly, he had a heart attack about 16 months ago. Taking care of my Grandmother took a serious toll on my Grandfather. I would absolutley help out my parents as much as possible. But I dont think I could give up my own heath for them. I also dont think they would want me to. If I were ever in need of a lot of care, I would rather my children and husband place me in a nursing home so they wouldnt have to suffer the consequences of my poor health. I wouldnt want to harm them because they were trying to help me. It really is a hard choice with no good answers. I hope it never comes up for me in any capacity.

Depends on where I was living and what would be best for parents. At the moment I live in upstairs maisonette and dont have any children. I would have to discuss it with my brothers, both my step parents depending on which parent would need care. I would also ask advice from my other parent and listen to their suggestions. I would try and keep them at their house, hire home help or if need be move them into my home before putting them in a nursing home. Mainly the parent in question, if they were able to speak for themselves, I think they would have to have an input in what would happen to them. Putting them in a nursing home would be the last resort to me!!!

We had to put my mother in a nursing home. We sold my mother's home and she went to live with my sister. Then she got real sick and went to the hospital and when she was ready to leave the hospital they said she needed help and my sister was working at the time and I live about an hour away and she couldn't live in my house since I have a two story house and it was hard for her to climb my stairs so we had to put her in a nursing home.

I would rather have my parents at home rather than some old age homes or nursing homes. I would hire nurses 24 hours and see to it that they have been cared for. I love too much to let them go far away from home.

No , I will never send my parents in oldage homes. I will stay with them and would always keep them happy.

They're responsible for my existence here in this world,so I will take care of them until they expire,and if I can afford to hire a private nurse for each one of them,I will do.

As a man, thinking of puttin parents into a nursing home is terrible ...they gave life to us and gave their hand in every moment of our life... they r like god, they stuggled so much to give a better position to u s in a society .... we also hav treat them in a similar manner n we hav to take care of them ... and give them happiness as much as possible ......i would tend them at home n take care of them