How much proud do you are? Your EGO is very important for you?

The EGO is important for every person i think...I am very proud and i would never ask anyones help as you are...I try to avoid it as mush as possible..And you know why?..Because i'm afraid of not getting a NO answer..It happened a lot to me and i felt horiblle, like the wall fall into my head and then i blamed myself for asking for any help...ofcourse there are persons who are not shame of asking for anything and sometimes i;m jelous and i wish i could have their courage..i guess that it matters a lot the background u've been raised into and the education u've been given..

My ego is not very big but the situation you are describing is hurting you because you expected help and was turned away without any reason. The same thing happened to me a few days back...I was given a huge task on a project which another girl is sharing with me...her part of the work is different from mine and I was supposed to finish my part and then she could start her. Well, seeing the volume of my work I suggested we work together with my part and then I will help her with her's. She refused point blank saying that it was not her job! I definitley felt more hurt thatn insulted coz this is no personal work and in office we are supposed to work together and many times I have helped her without thinking about my own benefits. Well, now that I have known her, I would think twice before helping her of my own.

That's sad to hear for you. must have been proud of yourself too much that you may have refused a lot of helped and even said some bad words to those who attempted to help you. Ego is good but can be bad if it's too much for any one to put up with. I believe that No man or woman is an island, and two brains are better than one. at one point i thought i could do anything myself too until I was betrayed, i was offered helped but they tricked me and betray me in the end..

I always strive for self. if I'm able to do their own. I certainly do own. but if I need help from other people, I will resort to people who want to help me. I will not be angry if people can not help me. I will look for people who can help me.

i guess i am a proud person too because i don't like to ask someone for help either and i don't very often and i have had people to say no and maybe that is why i don't ask for help more often,i don't like to be humilited either. i will help any one that i can i can't understand why some people won't.

Well, honestly, we all are proud ourselves individually. Due to selfishness and jealousy, many people are not helping others, you have to help yourself because they are insecured and afraid that someone is better than them and might fired from the boss.. You know something like that. It's normal. Even myself, i hurt a lot of my Ego. but at the end, i always think of it as a challenge that I need to face the reality about this.. like fighting for the rights through good words ... =)

I don't have a huge ego. I was brought up to be humble and caring. Sometimes I actually put others before myself way too much. I have a hard time asking for help though. I'm often too scared that I won't get it or that there is something wrong with me if I can't do something on my own. When I feel I"ve been wronged I get very angry though. I have a strong sense of right and wrong.

To answer this discussion, I would say that my ego is not easily bruised. When someone asks me a question to challenge me or something, I would make it a point to just shrug it off and just keep it quiet. Or another one I would answer in a joking way, but keeping my ego in check. I feel that everywhere in this world, there will be people rejecting us, making fun of us, questioning our motives, so hence and so forth. Over the years, I've learned that sometimes when people get a little bit of success, ego gets into their heads and when they speak of others, or make fun of others and comparing their success to other people, they don't see that they are quite making a mockery out of other people's situation. There was one time when someone asked me a mockery question and I just smiled. I think that person felt that I was stupid or something but I just don't care. I don't believe in retaliating and no matter how they want to treat me and making small of situations at hand, I would have the upper hand by being silent, patient and just be happy. This is a good discussion, keep it up.

Personally I feel sorry for people with big ego's. I'm sorry but no one person is more important that another. Just the same, if a teenager and a famous actor that was in their 50 s were injured in the same manor but there was only enough time to save one I would the teenager. Simply because they have a longer life and they should get to experience it. By saying so I may hurt some actors egos but who cares. Those with big ego's need to be brought to the level of the rest of us. In no way is someone more important then myself, and I am in no way more important then anyone else. I expect the same treatment that everyone else receives and I treat everyone the same.

i would not say that i am very humble person. i used to has some pride also before. but now i don't have any thing that i can boast for. so i am not proud in any way. i wish i have some thing like accomplishment. but no. i don't have them. i am jsut below ordinary person.

i suffered with an acute ego problem in my childhood days. i was best at studies and games so its usual that i had a high Ego. then i fell in love with a gal. i proposed her and she refused. i asked what was my fault. she said you are so Egoistic. I realized my mistake and now i am cured. i have my self confidence but i never allow pride to take over me and turn into ego. i am always calm and achieved many things but never showed my pride. i feel happy and cool and now i have many friends. hey icy! wait i will break your Ego. :-)

Everyone needs help sometimes. Pride will harm you. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. That doesn't mean ask for help for everything. Oh this door is too hard to open. Someone help me! But everyone needs help in their lives. G-d did not make us to live life completely by ourselves. You should not feel humiliated. Be free from pride. Be glad in what you can do, and be happy when others can help you.

There is no price in showing myself. Im very proud of who am I today ,everyone is unique in God's image and attitudes.If that happened to me i will practice in admitting that kind of experiences for us to grow better. Ego is important to us when their is a need, sometimes we go down depending in the situation happened on how we weigh the events.