Your confidence as a woman

Kelly- I think mine has shifted to new areas, if that makes sense. In my late teens early twenties I thought I could take on the world. I was not scared, and a bit of a risk taker. I think that my confidence was pretty much shot during my first marriage which was abusive, but I found new areas to be confident in. Even when still in the first marriage, I started college, so I was able to foster my confidence in my classes, where I excelled. Today, I'm finishing up graduate school but am also a stay at home mommy. My confidence now is in the ability to multi-task, make dinner and hold a baby, etc. It's in being able to change a baby diaper with one hand, and catch the flying bottle with the other. Each of us as women have our areas of knowledge, and those areas that we can excel in and build our confidence. Those are the areas we must nurture. Namaste-Anora

Hi bama...I actually have more confidence than I ever had and it's growing daily! I'm not sure if it's a matter of ambition but a sense that people count on me to take care of them - my husband and my son. I am less apt to call it a night until I physically cannot move. I am more apt to assert myself at work because I'm confident in my abilities and my moral center.

How do women who work outside their home feel about this subject? You are blessed, I think, to be in a position to be a stay-at-home mom. Being a mom and wife, managing the house (fancy term for housecleaner) is a real job! You get to see your children as they are growing every day. You don't miss baby's first steps, and other firsts in your children's lives. I was not a stay-at-home mom. My daughter was with babysitters starting at two months old. I would've liked being a stay-at-home mom. It wasn't an option as my husband's work wasn't consistent.

You have a career, the most important one in the world. When your child gets older you can take some classes and get ready for a second career as he leaves home. Staying at home with the children can eat away at your confidence sometimes and when you feel that, you need to get outside and do something, go to the library or join a book club or something that will challenge your intellect.

I was a working Mom all of the time until I retired. I may have not achieved my goals as a young woman, but I have let those go and just try to enjoy each time in life as it comes along.

in a way i used to feel the loss of confidence. however, i still have batch mates from the elementary or primary school years who don't have husbands yet and even if they have they cannot have or don't have children yet. cliche as it is: money can't buy the happiness a family brings.

Hey there bamakelly! I'm a forty one year old stay at home mom too. My confidence fluctuates. I've had a couple of part time jobs since I became a stay at home mom. I dabbled in Real Estate for a while. I do have moments where my confidence is low, but then I have moments where I know that if I had to take care of myself, I could... I haven't accomplished everything that I wanted to accomplish, but I think most people don't. Even those who are sucessful in business are probably lacking elsewhere, such as having enough time for their families. I understand where you're coming from. I happen to be in a positive thinking mood right now. Even if we haven't made the "big bucks" we have made a positive impact in this word by being there for our children and doing the many "thankless tasks" that we stay at home mom's tend to do. I hope you have a good day!

I have MORE inside my home and with the family confidence. Here I run, balance, schedule, deal, direct, deligate, with the best. I never did outside the home well. A malfunction I'm well aware of but really don't worry about. I am MOM and WIFE above all else. I am working on adding WRITER which is something I'm doing just for me.