How to beat the long distance

@j00nior (182)
Canada
May 10, 2009 7:15pm CST
I'm having difficulty with a partial long distance relationship I am in. My partner lives about one hour and forty minuets away from me, and I know a lot of you are probably in relationships at a much further distance, however my situation is still hard. I don't have a car, and can't afford one just yet, but until then I take the bus, which is 30$ to get there, and then I need to take a street car or he has to come and pick me up. It is really hard on us every time we have to say goodbye, is there any way to make saying goodbye easier? How can we stay more connected when we don't see each other as often as we want? Help me out guys! =]
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• Philippines
11 May 09
You know what, I've experience this 2 years ago with my ex- boyfriend.We were also in a long distance relationship. It was kind of hard but we survived. His home was about 1 hour and 30 minutes ride from mine. We met in Yahoo Messenger (chatrooms) and I can say that it was a pretty good relationship. It lasted for almost 2 and a half years. It's always been hard for us to say goodbye to each other everytime we part but hey, there's still a cellphone. I suggest you two chat with each other :) You can let him view your webcam and vice versa so that you won't miss each other that much. That way is more easier. That was what we did and it worked out for us. We always chatted on Yahoo! Messenger whenever we have time. If you don't like chatting, you can just call or text him instead. That's one way too :) What we do is load up unlimited calls via Sun Cellular. It was pretty convenient. Happy myLotting friend and good luck to the two of you! :)
12 May 09
You could sit down and discuss moving in together or initially moving closer mgraham126
@j00nior (182)
• Canada
12 May 09
Ha ha, fun suggestions but not an option right now. I'm going to school so I'm pretty much set where I am for the time being. We've only known each other for like 2 months and only have been really dating for two weeks. However, I hope one day to move in, but right now it is a little too soon.
• United States
11 May 09
Do you both have computers? I would get a webcam for each of you that has sound. Or you can buy a microphone. A webcam will work for when you would like to see each other but are unable to at the moment. That and you can still keep intouch with a sort of physical sense because you can see each other. ^_^ lol, and if your naughty...well haha i'm sure you know. Trust me it does help. I know from experience. My ex lived in colorado, while I was in MS. He was a great guy. But I hope that this helps you. Good luck, and do not break up because it gets to hard. ^^ Just keeping pushing forward, times will get better. You have to remember that.
@j00nior (182)
• Canada
12 May 09
Thanks for the words of encouragement and the tips. I'll definitely fire up the ol'webcam.
@khasime (15)
• Philippines
11 May 09
I have been through this relationship... I can really say that it is not really that easy to be in a LDR. First I thought this would not be like other LDR that didn't worked. He is working abroad and though he would be home, he is still away from me. We have been with this relationship and I thought it will work until the end. The day came that we should end it because we realized that our relationship is not growing and little by little because we are not seeing each other often, the love fades. I suggest, if you really into this person, do everything. If you think that you can take this, the hardships of being away, continue it. But if you think that one day you are tired of this routine, might as well end it now...
@thaMARKER (2558)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
I have been into long distance relationship before and indeed it was really hard to deal with. My last relationship was one example. It ended painfully but we were able to mend at the end. He got married along the way – when we were about to meet and talk things out. We broke up over the phone and he decided to come and talk with me but then it didn’t work it – as what I’ve said he got married. It’s hard to work things out over the phone. It’s hard to show love when you’re not seeing each other and just hear sweet words – over the phone. Maybe I’ll think twice if a man will live or stay far (for work maybe)..
11 May 09
1 No Matter How Frustrated you feelalways remember that this is not how it will always be 2. Do not focus on your sadness 3. keep busy Thats What I Do And Me And My Girlfriend Have Been Going Out For Nearly ! Year now :O lol i know its hard but youll get through it
• United States
11 May 09
I have had a long distance relationship that had 600 miles inbetween myself and my partner at the time. I can understand how you feel when you say it is hard, because it is very hard. We did talk on the phone almost every single day, and chatted online as well. We always kept in touch with each other in some form of communication. On the seldom days we didn't get to talk, we would email. Communication is the key. When saying goodbye, try not be sad because you have to leave. Think of it like this, it's an opportunity to see them again in the near future. Good luck!
@foxfox (40)
• United States
11 May 09
sorry to say that it's very hard to keep this relationship. you better move to hisarea or he move to your area if you are serious about your relation,otherwise, you have your own social network, and he has his own, so for long time, i think it's hard to keep the relation.
• United States
11 May 09
I don't know if it will help much, but I'm sure if you give him a call or instant message him, you can talk to each-other until the next time you see each-other. That way, even if you can't be there for him physically, you can still talk to each-other.