Is You Listening Or Understand As Well

Do you know whats my problem?I cant understand well.I mean,when I listen I cant concentrate because my mind focuses on my ears so when someone tells me something the details are process in a delayed time.So when someone talks,it took me to the maximum of 1 minute to respond to a question. Actually I have a phobia in listening,I mean,im a bit intense and nervous when someone tells me something,i feel anxious.It started when my dad and my aunt scolds me all the time,they said I wasn't listening or I didn't get what they're saying.From then on,I started becoming paranoid and nervous (Especially if either both of them instructs me something.)Im afraid that they would scold me again. Anyways,as of now im practicing not to be scared.!Im trying to be good and better. I dont want to be like this so as much as possible I try my best to understand what people are saying.

It is undeniable that not many people are good listener and also understandable at the same time. This is not really so important because for me most of the time people just need someone to listen to them and not really seeking for solution. I am a good listener to my friends and me too have few friends who always there to listen to me when I'm in despair. People needs someone to listen to them because they need a way to release their tension and despair and being a good listener always help.

This is really a wonderful skill. When a person says that he is listening it is not always true. About 99.9 % is false that he is listening. He is only physically available but mentally he is hovering somewhere else. Listening needs to be incorporated with understanding. Without it there is no use of listening. It is like a water purifier with a carbon candle. Where the film is simply listener and carbon candle is like a listener with understanding!