What dooes a girl look for in a man for marriage?

India
May 12, 2009 3:19am CST
Hi girls. I really am interested to know as what do u really look for in a man when u or they come and approach for marriage? What do u feel are the major criterias that should be in him in order to get selected for marriage? Just a few days back i proposed my HR for marriage and she rejected me. When i asked her the reason she said that there was no faults or problems in me but rather she likes me a lot and feels i am a very nice person. Now i dont really know as how good am i but maybe u could tell me. Looking for honest replies.
3 responses
@larish (2193)
• Philippines
14 May 09
My personal opinion on this is that my man should be the following: 1. We have the same values. I want us to have the same 2. He should be open minded. It means that I will still have my own individuality even if we settle down. I need his 100% trust on this. 3. He should be responsible. Must have a decent job. 4. Most especially, I love him. Hope thie helps.
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• India
14 May 09
Hey Larish. So nice of u. This is really helpful. I cAn realise where i need to work on. Though i am not too confident as whether she would accept me again later or not. I really need her in my life. Could u suggest how to make this No a yes again from her. What do i have to do apart from the changes that u have made me realize through ur mentioned points.
@larish (2193)
• Philippines
16 May 09
Hi hollowheart,Just be sincere on how you treat her. Girls usually has an instinct to depend on. This will be her basis if her no will be yes in the future.
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• India
16 May 09
hiu Larish, thank u so much for givin me this positive hope. Ya i am trying my best to be as honest, friendly and good to her so that she may be able to understand what my heart says to her.
@msBetty (84)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Girls who immediately say yes to a marriage proposal means she's ready for commitment and really sees the future with you. And she's decided to have you for the rest of her life, considers you as the right person to share everything with. Girls are wiser now, they dont just say 'yes' to a very romantic wedding proposal, but consider things more, and think thousand times before stepping on serious level of relationship.
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• India
14 May 09
Thanks but then is there any chances that one day this be yes from her side? What would u suggest me to do so that may be she would realise that she can live with me without having to worry much? I need ur suggestions.
• Philippines
15 May 09
I dunno... but honestly, on the other hand, girls finds no reason to reject a proposal if she really loves the person. For me, being hesitant means i am not sure of my self for what i feel towards that guy. Honestly again, based from what i experience, I can immediately say yes to that sum1 special even if i am not ready, who cares?! come what may, i dont wanna reject him, i dont want him to get hurt, i dont want him to think that i am in doubt with my feelings. Coz i know we can surpass any obstacle, the important thing is that we'll get married, and I know by heart that things will come smoothly after, as long as we have each other- and yes, this time, it means forever... =D
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• India
15 May 09
Actually frankly speaking in our relation we dont really love each other. There is still lots to know about each other. But i like her and feel that she is the right one for me. As she is my HR and a friend too we talk but not too much and i ahve proposed her. But i really neede her in my life. U r a good person.
• Philippines
12 May 09
I also rejected a marriage proposal from my present boyfriend two months ago, he felt unloved after all. I didn't want to hurt him nor reject him but I am not so sure of my future with this person and still confuse of things between us.
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• India
12 May 09
Hi Roxancuacoy. Thanks for the response. The reason is because he loves u and he had a lot of expectations from u. I dont say u were wrong but then his expectations were broken. I guess its the same thing that happened for me too and i should not blame her too, but ya then thats where the relation begins to crumble down slowly. Anyways hope u would get the right person soon, someone who would love u as weel as with whom u would be comfortable and sure to live with. I feel bad for ur boyfriend as i understand and can feel whats going on in his heart. But as such what is it that u girls look for in marriage?
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• Philippines
13 May 09
This time im confused...... I don't know what are those factors but for sure I am not so sure with HIM.
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• India
13 May 09
Dont be confused. Think well on all posibilities and future and then go according to it. All the best.