What is the limitation of being a good friend?
May 12, 2009 3:22am CST
I have a friend who's wedding sadly wasn't pushed through due to some problems or issues with them both. Everything happened last February. Now after all these things, I thought she wasn't ready yet for a relationship. The separated really took its toll on her but we can't do anything but to be 'there' during her ordeal. Anyhow, the issue now is that she's been going out with several guys, and this one particular guy was really clinging to her. She often told us that she doesn't see anything in the guy but every time I call her she tells me she's with him and her other friends. We, her friends, continually told her that perhaps it's not the right time for her to decide for a new flame because she might get hurt again. She keeps on telling us that she's okay but when we attended a wedding last Saturday, she literally wept. Anyhow, she keeps on convincing us that the guy was good and all. We kept on telling her that we had no issues with the guy being good and all, but we were worried that she would only be choosing this guy to cover up for her loss. Anyway, I'm at a wits end on trying to understand her and have decided that I won't touch that topic again and just let her be. If she want to dive into another relationship, then I've done my fair share of giving her advises. Does it make me a bad friend for no longer wanting to listen about these issues? Have your limitation as a friend been tested before too?
12 May 09
Are you asking this question to us or from yourself? You are the best judger of the situations you face in your life. I really appreciate that you shared this story with us and we feel really honored but it will be you, who would have to choose the limits of a friend. Every person has different set of mind. In my opinion, your friend needs your support, only if you are one of her best friend. May be she hasn't dived into that relationshipe because you guys are out there to help her and she wanted to hear from you guys about her friendship with this new guy. Be with her because you never know, she will require your company in both situaions: 1. To share her happiness if everything goes well. 2. To share her sadness if things doesn't go well! So, I vote for being with her!