how to deal with negative people

@willy6 (492)
Jamaica
May 12, 2009 7:59am CST
In our everyday life we are faced with negative people, people that will suck the life out of you. inspite of negative response you tried to stay strong, but you end up exhausted and stress. Most of the time why those people are negative is because they feel frustrated trapped and lack of self esteem. some people thingk the only way they can feel powerful is by hurting others. Whenever there is negativity just smile, dont say anything remain competely detached from it and dont get involved in it, leave the room if you can. The negative person is seeking to get a response from you. Say to your self what a shame this person is so unhappy, and hope that some of your positive ways will rub off one you.
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• Philippines
12 May 09
I often meet these kind of people so I'm already used to them. What I usually do is either to avoid them or I will just nod my head or respond to them nicely and excuse myself. its the best I can do not to hurt their feelings. There are also times that I would respond them frankly in a nice way. Sometimes you have to be frank with them even if it hurts their feelings in order for them to change. These people needs someone to change their negative thinking. If you can't do that frankly, the least you can do is to pray for them.
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• Philippines
12 May 09
I think thats a really good way to deal with negative people :) thanks for the advice
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@marcyyyy (519)
• United States
12 May 09
Unfortunately, you are CORRECT!!!! I run into so many negative people and I always wonder, are they always like that?? I feel sorry for them and the family and people they have to deal with every day. I had a job where this girl was so negative, she put everyone down, called them names and yelled and screamed all the time...it got so bad that I just got up one day and quit! I feel sorry for her, and hold no grudge...but it all makes you wonder...she got a response from me, but all I did was leave her with all my work, and she was left alone in the office.
• Cebu, Philippines
13 May 09
hahah what a GOOD Job!!! that's good to those people who nag so much
• Hong Kong
12 May 09
to deal with negative people is hard, because they only believe in their own, but you should still stand strong.. dont loose faith
• Cebu, Philippines
13 May 09
A crab mentality i would say
12 May 09
It is what I call life-suckers and life-givers. Some people just suck the life out of you by spending time with them, and some people give you life and energy just by spending time with them. We each have a choice whether to be a life-sucker or a life-giver I think. Being a life giver does help you to pass on the positive energy that you have. You're right - it is important to recognise those life-suckers, and if necessary just to remove ourselves from their polluting presence :-)
@betsyhu (207)
• China
13 May 09
I hope to meet with life-giver, who will give me positive energy. everyone will be negative when be faced with difficult problem in life, this time, if fall across some one who give encourage even a regard, it's a nice and warm memory.
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
12 May 09
why negative people want to hurt others and why they want to seek a response from you . why you anwser them?
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
12 May 09
why you don't answer them?
• Cebu, Philippines
13 May 09
You listen to them but don't absorb on what they are telling you.. well you have to weigh things first before choosing which one you want to believe
@jugsjugs (13038)
12 May 09
There will always be people like that which is a shame they lead very sad and lonely lives.I would just ignore it as i think on the terms of if they are giving me the negative side they are leaving every one else alone.I just smile and carry on and just ignore it.
@Beertjie (977)
• South Africa
12 May 09
I am a very positive person and can't stand negativity. But as you say, those people are negative because of certain reasons and they seek response, usaly they want you to be negative with them to make them feel better. I always answer with something positive until the person get tired of me and change the topic. I always try to show the positive side of the situation, but some people don't want to see it. Like you say, sometimes it's best to just leave the room Blessings
@moujha (86)
• Mauritius
12 May 09
Negative people are most people who are pessimists about everything. They are also frustrated people who can't do something right and when you try to do the same work, they will respond negatively like you can't do it or won't be able to do it. What we have to do is try to explain to the person like life is to be take positively whatever happens because pessimist thinking won't bring you far in life.
• Pakistan
12 May 09
Our world is replete with negative people. But this world is also proud to have wonderful and great people who are ever ready to gladden our hearts and make our life happy to the great extent. If a negative and bad person sadens or disappoints you, the next person may gladden you and give a true reason to be optimistic and hopeful that world still contains some very good people. Now, it is upto us to deal with the people. You should not allow yourself to be overwhelmed or influenced by negativtity or bad thoughts of evil people. Empty your mind from all pessimistic and negative thoughts about such mean people. Think as if they did not exist. Turn deaf ear and blind eye to them. Surround yourself with good and positive people. You will be happy, I assure you.
• United States
12 May 09
i dont know how to deal with them really-- and they seem to be all around me.. my sister, mother and boyfriend are all very negitive people... I wish i could say that just walking away workes but truthfully it doesnt.. I have tried to help them be more positive but you cant they always look at every situation like the world is comeing to a end ... maybe one day they will learn that all the negitive in your life just makes it worse.. just deal with what you have and make the best of it!
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
12 May 09
I totally like how you deal with this thing. Negative people are really normally having a one way street type of thought and they are always trying to find faults of others. I tend to stay away from these types of people too and there are quite a few in my life that I can do without. However, when in work situations, I think that it might get a little fishy especially when someone is always trying to nab that promotion, win the heart's boss and gaining credibility for the work that he or she has not done. These are negative people trying to 'step' on others. I can't tolerate these types first and foremost. Anyway, I like your explanation and I try to adopt the 'quiet' sort of way. The most quiet ones are normally the better ones. They say empty vessel makes the most noise. Good discussion here. Enjoy your day, aite.
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
12 May 09
I think what I will do is just trying to say positive stuff to them and make them think positively, at least I would try to convince there are lots of positive things in the world we can enjoy., I used to have a high shoolmate, all he does when he goes to school is sigh... boring... want to die, not die die but like want to bury himself and hide from everything, I think it is very bad for those people always have behavior like that.
@geniustiger (1696)
• Philippines
12 May 09
i just be friend to her but still i know who she is. i know my limitation to her, if i have problems i will not tell him coz i might be hurt of what she advise. let's find a right person to whom we can rely on things which are secret in nature. i know we can sense her if she is true to you or not. treat her as new friend and be careful of it maybe she is the reason of your failure.
@prinzcy (5036)
• Malaysia
12 May 09
The best way is to smile and ignore. There's a lot of that kind of people around and regardless what you do, you can never avoid them. If you fight back with negative words and actions, it will spark more fire and nothing will come out of this. This kind of people only try to please themselves by trampling on others.
@j00nior (182)
• Canada
12 May 09
I agree, this is a very helpful reminder. We have a decision to react the way we do to every situation, and I'll keep on choosing to detach myself from the negative person. My whole first year of university I spent next door to an ex-best friend from high school, and he was a very toxic individual, so I learned to shut him out of my life and I ended up having a great time at school, where I met new friends, who were often more of a positive influence than negative.
@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
12 May 09
Could not have said it better myself. You are so right. Take care, have a nice day!