Hindsight is always 20/20, the things we regret.
May 12, 2009 10:23am CST
How many of you have made decisions that you now regret? I know this is a dumb question, most everyone who has made it to adulthood have things they regret. But this is something that I am dealing with now. Before I moved in with my grandmother, I had a two-bedroom apartment that was fully furnished. Granted, it wasn't the best furniture, but I had a television, a place for people to sit, and a table at which to eat. But I wasn't thinking about that when I moved. When I moved, the only thing I was thinking of was to get out of that place. I was devastated that my children's father had left, and I wanted no memories of that life at all. All I took was my and my kids clothes, and my mattress, and left everything else for whoever. We had a uhaul with plenty of room, but I didn't think to bring any of my things at all. Now I regret it. Three years later I am finally moving out of my grandmother's house. I have almost nothing. I have a bed for myself and my son, but I haven't a proper bed for my daughter. I have no table at which we can eat, no microwave, no silverware to eat with, nothing. I would have had all of the things I need if I would have had the foresight to bring the things with me, but I didn't. Now I'm scrambling to find what I need through thrift stores, donations, and any other way that I can get it. So, have any of your past decisions really come back to bite you in the you know what?
12 May 09
The most major decision I've made that I wish I could change, was involving completing my post secondary education. I quit college at the beginning of my second year of a "social service worker gerontology" program, always thinking I'd go back, but never did. Now, unless I have the cash upfront to pay for my courses, I can't return to college (or university for that matter). That decision bites me in the butt every single day. I emphasize to my sons that much more, how important it is that they go to college or university, so that they don't have to live like we do... but have anything and everything their hearts desire.
• United States
14 May 09
I've had a similar experience. I was going to a college here for business technology, but in the midst of my studies I got a job offer to work at the local gas and electric company's call center. Seeing as how I would be on the computer most of the day, I figured I would be able to continue my studies online, as they offered those courses. I signed up for those classes, and continued training at the call center. Turned out, I wasn't able to participate in those online classes because the company had the school's website blocked. Instead of doing the smart thing and withdrawing from the classes, I just let the classes go on without me, failing all of them. This dropped my GPA too low, causing me to be put on academic probation and loosing all my financial aid. So, two years later, I am in the same type of coursework again at another school, starting over from scratch because I still owe the previous school money, and they won't release my transcripts to show the coursework I have completed. So yeah, that dogs me every day I go to school too *eyerolls*
12 May 09
personally nothing that bad has happened to me yet, the only thing i have regrets about is losing my virginity so young but thats it, i belkieve everything happens for a reason and you learn fro mistakes therfore i have no regrets just learning experiences
13 May 09
I'm sorry to read about your situation. However, I am glad for you that you have your children with you and no one can take that away. As for myself, I never make it a point to regret anything at all. Once I have made a decision, I tend to stick with it and not wanting to change at all. I hope that you will be able to save up enough money one day to get a proper bed for your daughter. Take care.
• United States
13 May 09
Hey drknlvly, Don't look back on what was~ I do so understand what you are going through and what you are thinking and feeling right now. But, you are starting a new life! It was a very bad time way back then and you weren't able to think clearly so don't beat yourself up about it! You will find the things that you need, even if it takes some time! You will be better off with different things then to live with the memories and the ghosts of the thing from the past! Believe me, I know! It may take some time for you to get the things that you want and need to make you comfortable again, but you will have all those things if you are patient and pray! The most important thing is that you and your children are together in your own place! What more could you ask for?