What does this guy want from me?
By kiss_me2070
@kiss_me2070 (277)
May 12, 2009 3:48pm CST
I am single and have slept with a guy 4/5 times but he has a girlfriend, I feel really bad still sleeping with him but there is something about him I just can't say no to.
This guy keeps ringing me and when-ever he see's me out he tells me how great I look and always ask's if me and my ex are going to get back together (as he kind of knows of my ex, but they don't talk). This guy also told me he doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else apart from him as he dosn't like it. If I do meet another guy he always finds something to say about them, always bad as well or aking the piss out of them.
I dont get what he wants, I get the feeling he likes me but sometimes i feel like he is just using me as well.
He's not the type of guy who boasts about me sleeping with him either as he's not like that at all!
Any opinions, do you think this guy does like me?
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18 responses
@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
12 May 09
Well he might feel "comfortable" where he is at in his relationship with the other girl. Just because he is comfortable does not mean he is happy. When he is with you he might feel like he can be different or someone that he can't be with the girl. You on theother hand shouldn't get yourself caught up because he might like you but at the end of the day he is still with the other girl. You should still go out meeting guys and do what you do and not let what he says affects you.
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@angelsmummy (1696)
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12 May 09
he cannot tell you not to sleep with anyone else as he has a girlfriend... Give him an ultimatum you or the girlfriend if he cant pick then tell him you dont want to carry on the 'relationship'. you seem like youve got a smart head on your shoulders and you deserve better than being put into second place!!
good luck with this hope you get what you want and let me know =D
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
13 May 09
That's a good idea to give the guy an ultimatum, then he has to chose which one he wants to be with! I don't think she should "settle" for second place either!
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
13 May 09
I think he is already getting what he wants. He has a girlfriend who you know he is sleeping with and then he has you that he can sleep with too. I love how he doesnt want you to sleep with anyone else but it is alright for him! You need to stop and tell him that it doesnt work that way. It shouldnt either however if you allow him to then you are the one that is losing in the end. You will never be more then a toy for him as he already obviously is with his girl or he would break up with her for you.
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@ch88ss (2271)
• United States
13 May 09
I sugggest you don't waste your time with "boys". He is hurting his current girfriend and later on will do the same to you.
you don't want to waste your time on someone who is not going to take responsibillity for their own actions.
what happens if you find Mr. Right later, this guy may ruin it for you and forever you are stuck with him because he wants you reserved for him but won't have the guts to break it up with his girlfriend.
if he cares for you, then demand he gives you what you deserve. Ask him to break up with his g/f and make you officially his g/f.
Unless you don't mind and love the passion and not expect any committment in return.
good luck!
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@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
13 May 09
If i were you , I would dump this guy. He already has a girlfriend and I feel he is using you. He may not be the type of guy who boasts about him sleeping with you but at the same time, he really has no right to be asking you not to talk to other people. I guess you need to think about if both of you decided to take this to another level, would you really trust him? I sure wouldn't. All I can say is DO NOT get your feelings involved with this guy.
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@amybrezik (2118)
• United States
12 May 09
He wants to have his cake and eat it too or however the expession goes. And you aren't helping the situation by going along with, although I understand the feeling. I have been in situations like this, and they don't work in the long run.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
13 May 09
Sounds like this guy wants to have his cake and eat it too! I would just ask him why he all of a sudden cares who you sleep with as he's not your boyfriend and in fact has a girlfriend. Honestly I think you should be with someone who is going to put you and only you first!
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
13 May 09
Yes muscles and tatty, she is being used and I think she should altogether get rid of him and find a different guy that is worthy of her. As muscles said even if he were to dump his girlfriend and be with kiss_me he'd still more then likely be cheating! A guy like that never seems to be happy with just one girl!
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
13 May 09
With out adding to this with my own story. Plain and simple you are being used here and your letting it happen. Why would you want to be with someone that already is obligated to someone else. As far as his behavoir of others that are interested in you, well report him, make a police report, this guy needs to realize you have a life and your going to live it the way you choose, not the way he wants to controll you.. Maybe he is afraid that his girlfriend will find out.. and he would loose all.. to bad so sad, he chose it, deal with it..
@Colmuc (707)
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12 May 09
I think it is obvious what he wants and the lucky guy is getting it. He is hardly in a position to dictate to you what you should be doing with other guys. Yes, he certainly likes you but he is also using you and does not seem the type to trust.
Be careful and don't get involved in a situation that might later hurt you.
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@eshanne (26)
• Malaysia
13 May 09
Hii.. Kiss_me -_-.. I just want to tell u about how many girls i slept before i get married..
I'm a new guy at my hometown.. my family are living outside the country and i've been living there almost my whole life.. One day at age of 24th my mother take me back at our old hometown, a few days after that i've met this girl.. a cousins.. i felt her and she felt me too.. then that night without talking.. were kissing.. and so on the action begin just like what you did with him.. a couple weeks after that another girl that i knew not long ago is living opposite our house and looking at me everytime i walk infront of her.. So what can you say guy if she looks at you and say hi wanna come in.. so what are you waiting for?I've been around with this attitude almost 5 years and i've been doing great with them.. I whispered to their ear with the words 'I LOVE YOU' but for me i love you is nothing but playing is something.. Think of it why did he have a girlfriend but still wanna sleep with you, he didn't want you to make friends with guy??
Come on Bb.. i know these kind of guy!!! This kind is totally me.. Why must you accept what he's been telling you? You're the one that must tell him that you can't stand with his behaviour.. Better regret now or later..
Dont push your heart inside him, what he really wants is 'YOUR P***Y' dont get me wrong hey.. it's for real..
If you don't believe me ask him to leave his girl and move on with you.. This guy is bullS**t!!!
@eshanne (26)
• Malaysia
18 May 09
Nothing came in handy if someone has changed the way of his own life, now i have 2 pretty little daughters and a pretty wife, that change my life forever..
As a human we have to moved on!!! Sometimes this story it's only a tale for us, but sometimes it's hard to forget.. But for me.. Nothing is real, but only when you were married it's change everything.. Everything!!!
Just DUMP him, and move on to your life, or find another guy!!!
Forget him!!! I know it's not easy, but that's why god created life!!
"We leave something behind to reach something ahead, we killed something in mind, but the memories still playing in our head" - eshanne@TuaranBlog
The more you think of him the more he'll ruin your life!!! Forget him a couple of minutes, or 5 or 10 minutes!! Than you will forget him the rest of your life, by just doin your daily routin life!!! - Dont just dump him!! Talk to him, if he ignored you and telling you 'NO' than you should say "yes", after a few days back talk to him again and if he say 'NO' tell him you not in mood with him anymore.. If he try to get in your head, call your friend or friends to accompany you in your place for a moments!!!
Not much to talk about but if you need someone to suggest you!! it is better to look up to your mental doctor!!!
I'm not telling that you're crazy.. 'NO' it's far from that!!! What i'm telling u is get some help from anyone that can mentally brain wash you about him!!
True Facts!
P/s : Man are so addorable in making women's cry!! - But trust me!! Men's do cry when they feel empty's, if he do love's you then you must leave him rite away!!, just to make him come back to you!!
@gerard09 (75)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Obviously, this guy is just using you for his fantasies. as what you have said, he's got a girlfriend and if he's serious about you, he would leave his present girlfriend for you. he seems like controlling too. he isn't your boyfriend but he doesn't want you meet or see other guys. if i were you, i would leave the guy and look for someone else.
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
12 May 09
I agree with angelmummies, you are NOT his girlfriend, he has one. Therefor he has no hold on you and can't tell you what you can and can't do. Cause at the end of the night he is going to go back and lay in bed with his girlfriend. If you meet someone that you want to be with, he can't tell you not to cause he has a girlfriend. You deserve to be first, not second. I understand the "something about him" but sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. You should tell him that you are not second best and that if he really wants to tell you something like that then he should not be with his girlfriend. (That is if you want to truly be with him) Otherwise its like the story of the mistress with the married man, where he says he's getting the divorce and strings her on just to have the control. You deserve better than that.
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@aanique (3)
• Bangladesh
13 May 09
u havent mentioned that what this guy do for living, what is his qualification, how far ur parents or gurdians know abt it etc. but i got the feeling that he more likes to posses u than love. sleeping with a guy in ur country may not be that unsocialized work but everyone should think about his/her future. try to control ur emotional beings, be honest with ur thoughts and ask him to be straight and honest abt his thoughts regarding u. if he has no idea or plan abt marrying u then tell him to mention that. by this u can move away from him to a better way. but if he responds possitively abt marry then persuade him softly to make u acquainted with his family. see what happens. by the way what do u do? may be u send an email: md.anique@yahoo.com best of luck.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
13 May 09
I went through the same thing when I was your age. He got very jealous when I went out with anybody else. He even threatened to kick their asss. I finally told him that I belonged to ME & nobody else. Even if he was single, which he wasn't, that I'd date who I wanted, when I wanted. He didn't care for that very much. He asked what it would take for me to settle down with him. I told him it would take him settling down with me. He broke up with his girlfriend & promised me that I was his one & only. Guess what??? He lied!!! I became the girlfriend & he had another girl who he was cheating with. 
I deserved better than that & I left. You deserve better than that too!!! STOP BEING #2!!! Tell him you plan on doing as you dayum well please as long as there is a 3rd person in the picture. If he leaves her for you, keep your eyes wide open. Cheaters NEVER win & winners NEVER cheat!!!
I deserved better than that & I left. You deserve better than that too!!! STOP BEING #2!!! Tell him you plan on doing as you dayum well please as long as there is a 3rd person in the picture. If he leaves her for you, keep your eyes wide open. Cheaters NEVER win & winners NEVER cheat!!!
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
13 May 09
If you were my sister, I would have given you a ....
Just forget about this guy. He is not worth for you as he already has a gf for which you don't make any complaint. Just look for someone who will be loyal to you. I get very angry on girls who can't forget their ex due to the fact that he was very good at bed!
@lovelythoughtz (48)
• United States
13 May 09
Tough to say..but he likes your body alone. If he really likes you means what is the need for another gf? You are prey.
@tracy_d (76)
• India
13 May 09
Well, this guy is targetting two birds with one stone and any fool could see that. Not sure what you see in him that you carry out his instructions, but its damn obvious that hes using you (and maybe his gf too). If you really respect your own self, dump him straight away.
