How to confess to girlfriend
@johnmathew2009 (178)
India
May 13, 2009 12:36pm CST
Before two months I had a feeling that my girlfriend had an affair with another man in my neighborhood...I even spied on them for a week..But the truth was that they were good friends. I didn't ever ask her about that..And there is no problem till today for our relationship..But this incident haunts me like hell...Please somebody help...I think to confess this to her..Will it affect our relationship?
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
13 May 09
I think it is best you keep this to yourself.
What she don't know won't hurt. After all did you hurt anyone?
No you did not. So what is the fuss?
There is nothing wrong with feeling a little doubtful. You are only human.
We have all had times we listen in on others or spy when we get the chance because we are uncertain of ourselves.
No, I (Now that I am older, in my younger years I would have thought like you.) I would not tell her. No harm done, so no hurt, no worry.
Please take care of your relationship.
Good luck to you both.
@johnmathew2009 (178)
• India
14 May 09
But that means keeping a distance between each other...We have never kept even a small secret away from each other.....
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
15 May 09
But you have already kept a small secret.
What is wrong with that?
Do you think I have never spied on my BF?
Of course I have. When he was in the Pub, I came in unexpectedly .
Normally I would call first. But I wanted to see what he was up too when I was not there. I did not tell him this, why should I. He probably already knows. But that is not the point. Trust is something that needs to grow. Sometimes we feel insecure.
No problem in proving yourself wrong by spying a little.
You did not hurt anyone.
It is only a lie when she asked you if you have done something like that and you say no. But, she did not ask, so you have nothing to tell.
In a couple of months you will look back and find this all very silly.
There is nothing to worry about.
Take care.
@nabamita_mome (56)
• India
13 May 09
Hello John.I personaly think thak you should confess to your girlfriend.But it is totally upon you how your birlfriend will react to this.You are the best person who can understand your girlfriend better.if you think that after telling her the truth,she will be upset and that might hamper your relation,then I will suggest not to tell the truth.But if you think that your girlfriend will take it sportingly,then go ahead and tell the truth.Sometimes disclosing the truth may effect your relation.In that case you shoulh not tell her the truth.However,you can say this to her after few years,maybe after your marriage.
@goapples (128)
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13 May 09
Yea it will affect your relationship because of the lack of trust between you and her. Yet if you do confess you need to sound and look apologetic for what you did. Then after that you can rebuild your trust and confidence in each other. She might be upset to start with but it is expected.
