Abusive mother...

United States
May 13, 2009 10:13pm CST
I was at Kroger today visiting a friend of mine while she was on her lunch break. We were sitting outside talking, when this young woman started yelling at her son who was about 6 or 7. She started smacking him in the head as hard as she could. Then she picked him up by his neck and threw him in the car. Then, she balled up her fist and punched him in the chest. The whole time she was hitting him like this, she was yelling at him and calling him names that no child should hear, much less be called. Do you know what made her so mad? He wanted to take his sippy cup into the store. She finally calmed down enough to get him out of the car and go inside. While they were shopping, we called the police. They were there within minutes. Kroger has cameras in their parking lot, so the whole episode was caught on tape. Not to mention all of the witnesses that were outside. About 10 of us agreed to go to court and testify if need be. As soon as the woman and little boy came out of the store, she was arrested. Social Services took the boy. She said that she fussed at him a little bit, and smacked him on the behind. TOTAL LIE!!! When she found out that the whole thing had been taped, she fainted. I wonder how many times this has happened to this poor little boy. He was yelling, but he never cried. If she would act like that in public, how bad must she be at home when noone is looking? He had a pretty bad cut over his eye that had recently been stitched up. The police are going to get his hospital records to see how often he has to go. But for now, he is safe. How can someone hurt a child? I could never in a million years even think of treating my children like that.....physically or verbally. It makes me sick. I was in tears when I was watching this. I And I'm surprised that she didn't stop his heart. You wouln't believe how hard she punched him in the chest. I don't think that I will ever get that sight out of my mind.
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11 responses
• United States
14 May 09
Thank you for your courage of getting involved. I pray that this little boy is given someone who will love him with all of their hearts and treat him well. I also pray that this mother will get some serious help and that there will be no other children that she will be allowed to hurt, ever.
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• United States
14 May 09
I agree. Some people should not be able to have children. I am also praying for the child...and all the others. Right now, the woman is sitting in jail. We live in a small town, and the local judges and lawyers take these cases very seriously. (Not that they don't in other locations.) But she will definitely not slip through the system. In cases such as this, usually the first thing they do is order a psych evaluation. So, hopefully, she will get help.
@rsa101 (24934)
• Philippines
14 May 09
I also am wondering why some mothers could not be a responsible and loving mother to their children. I am sad when I see these kind of treatment of their kids. I am glad that you have to report that to the authorities and the police have promptly responded to the report. It is a sad part in my place that these things are not reported to the police and sometimes police would not act on it. But so far there is this NGO that has been actively promoting to report this kind of abuses to them and they are the ones that do something with the help of the police of course. But I do believe in my place that there are abuses still that is not being reported.
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• United States
14 May 09
I had to report her. I couldn't just sit by and watch this atrocity. My husband (who is in the pic holding our daughter) said that he was sure he was going to have to go bail me out of jail. I was about to go over and beat the s@#$ out of her. I decided that the best thing to do would be to let the police handle it. And I am happy that they did.
• United States
17 May 09
Ive seen this before as well and as i also called the cops on a couple of mothers like that because its not right and a child should never be slapped like that ot hitt for that matter and yelled at either. I myself have stepped into a situation like that myself due to the mother had kicked her child and i didnt want the child to get hurt and i had my own 2 children with me plus my mother was with me so i had gave my youngest to my mother cause at that time he couldnt walk really well but i grabed that little boy and took him to my mother and told her to go in the store boy she was mad LOL but i had to do something to stop that little boy from getting hurt and that little boy grabed my neck so tight and said thank you...his leg was so badly beatin he could barely walk of course she slaped me lol but i hit back because it a natural reaction for me you hit me imma hit back so i hit her and then some guy came up and pulled her back i said dont let her leave the cops are on there way and soon as they got there they arrested her and she was talking about i kidnaped her boy i said well if thats what you call it from you beating that little boy on the ground then i guess i did and the officer asked to see him i said okay i'll go get him so i went in and got him and he was holding onto me so tight it wasnt even funnyand the officer looked at his arms legs and chest and he had burn marks all over his chest. it was horriable but he now lives with his father and is very well taken care of i baby sitt him often. So something bad went to something good which is a great thing.
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@magrylouyu (1629)
• United States
18 May 09
I dont see how anybody could do that to their child. That makes me sick. I would have been crying as well if I saw that in person. It makes me sad that this happens every day and not all the time something is being done about it. I am just glad that this little boy is in the safe arms of people who wont hurt him. I am so sorry you actually had to see this. I know I would never want to see that with my own eyes. I hope that little boy will be okay.
@abkinsey (173)
• United States
17 May 09
Good for you for reporting this. I'm not generally a fan of getting Social Services involved, but I believe that cases like this are exactly what they are there for. I hope that mom gets the help and support she needs to work through her issues. I also pray that wherever that little boy is, that it is safer than his home environment was. Nobody ever deserves to be treated that way.
@Bearballew (1149)
• United States
17 May 09
Wow. I've been extremely frustrated before, but never like that. Let me just put this out there.... I personally think we need to STOP being so AFFRAID of intervening. Here's why. Just a week or so ago I was in teh store with my 2 year old who had jsut woke up from her nap in the car. Now she was in a cart, unhappy, and unaffraid to show it. I, on the other hand, was exhausted and just let her fuss. I was getting five things and knew it would be over soon. So I just kept telling her "It's ok.. we're almost done.." and she's sobbing "Hold you! Hold you!" So I'm leaning over the cart tyring to hold the baby and steer. Bumping into walls... doing the best I can, but I'm calm... (Cause my adult brain says, it's almost over... we're almost done...) Another mom stops me in the middle of the pop isle and says, "Are you ok?" I was shocked!! I thought, ' what did I do? '... ' why would she ask that?' I figured she must have thought I was annoyed by the baby sobbing. So I kindly replied, "She's just tired from her nap. We're almost done." She took my arm and said, "No, are YOU ok?" Again... total shock. No one has ever asked if I'M, me, the MOM, is ok. I just stood there looking at her. I said, "I'm actually exhausted. Thanks for asking. No one has ever stopped to ask how I'm doing. It's always about the children." She went on to tell me how she has four and knows the feeling... OK. The point. If I were an abuser the situation I was in would be prime for me to lash out. But this other stranger intervened. She was just making sure I wasn't going to blow. Would you do that? I have, several times. I've seen moms just aabout to or jsut after losing it. I've asked a simple ice breaker like, "How old is your baby?" and a simple, "Is everything ok?" So WHAT if they swear at you... or give you a dirty look, or wonder what YOUR problem is. For a moment you've made them stop and think about something other than smaking or yelling at their kid. Sometimes us moms just need someone to stop and ask us how we're doing. We may not even realize we NEED that. I sure didn't. I was only thinking about my groceries, crying baby and bumping into the walls. I wasn't thinking how exhausted I was and how nice it might be to share that with a stranger who understands. I went down the remainder of the isles, baby still screaming, but I felt 100 pounds lighter. All because someone stopped and risked saving a life... or two.
• United States
15 May 09
OMG this is terrible. Abusive parents really need to be caught and punished for it because that is no way to treat your children and is no behavior to be tolerated... Children are gifts not weights so lets continue to treat them this way.
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
14 May 09
After reading this my eyes are tearing up. I so pray that the little boy is ok. I am so glad that there are still people like you that are very responsible and all to call the police. I don't understand how a mother could do this to their child. I will say yes I get angry with my children but I would never do that to my babies. When ever I get upset I go into another room and cover my ears and scream at the top of my lungs for about 20 seconds, just so that I know I am getting all my anger out of my system. Then I go back into the room that they are in and give them a big hug and a kiss. The way I see it is that we carried the children for nine months so there for we have grew to love them or at least most of us normal ladies have. To see or even hear about a mother doing this makes my stomach sick. One time when I was out and about with my children taking a walk, I saw this girl that I know hit her 2 daughters in the back of the head just because they stood up in their stroller while their mother was pushing it. I was going to say something but saw that the girls mother yell at her for it. The little girls was only 2 and 3 at the time when this happened. I think all mothers needs to have a game plan of what they need to do to keep their children safe when they get angry. I will surly make sure that the little boy is in my prayers tonight. Happy Mylotting
@mommaj (22872)
• United States
14 May 09
I can't believe any mother would treat her child like this! That's truly an outrage. I am glad someone at least called the cops. Noone stepped in to help the boy though? That's certainly SAD. I couldn't imagine watching anyone do that to another person especially to a child. I am not one that likes to see children get hurt. I would have taken the child and called the police. Of course, there is a lot of liability in an act like that. Shame on her! What the heck was she thinking. Over a sippy cup? WOW!
• Philippines
14 May 09
definitely i am not an abusive mother. i so love my son dearly.. in fact i don't wanna see or hear him crying.. my heart is like falling into pieces whenever i see or hear him crying. i don't want to hurt him. for me every child is FRAGILE. our very own gift from God. i also reprimand my hubby not to either tap my son's butt whenever he's annoyed. i really don't like that. i don't want my son feel that we don't love him.
@kezabelle (2984)
14 May 09
Well done you for doing the right thing and helping that poor little boy, hopefully his life will be better now wether that be after his mother gets help and learns to treat her son properly or wether that is with a new family at least now he can start to have the lif ehe deserves