Will she love me in future?

@hireshd (490)
India
May 14, 2009 10:09pm CST
I love a girl and have conveyed my feelings to her. She had a break a few days months back and because of which she thinks love does not exist anymore. I am still waiting for her since last 3 yrs but everytime I convey my feelings she is not in a state of mind to accept that love exists because of which i get more sad because my time is incorrect in showing of my feelings for her. We share a great chemistry and are best of the buddies but at the same time I cannot without her.
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@rea_02 (49)
• Philippines
15 May 09
well i think you just need to wait until the girl finally accepted or realized that love is just around and no one could ignore it. Just show to her your feelings even without telling it directly, you could show it through actions. Maybe you will be the key of her heart for her to be in love and trust love again. Just don't give up. If you have the purest intention, be there for her.
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@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Hmm probably I just need to give her time before she realises about this! its all my actions because of which she is sure that I love her else she would not have believed that I do love her! Thanks for your comment!
@tigertang (1749)
• Singapore
15 May 09
Take what I say with a pinch of salt. My history with women is lousy - most of the girls I end up with are usually nuts and bad for the health. However, I think you should probably work on the theory that if it is meant to be then it will happen and if not, it will never happen. You cannot force someone to love you just as you cannot be forced into loving someone. I mean, it's really sweet that you actually have been waiting for her for three-years but if she's not going to accept you, it could be a sign that you should move on. It's really great that the chemistry that you have with her is special. I think you should just spend the time with her and enjoy them for what they are. If she is meant to be with you, she will be with you - if she is not...then it won't happen no matter what you do.
@Hedwig (283)
• China
15 May 09
I am a bit moved by the fact that you have already waited for the girl for three years. That's a long time. As long as she is not in love with anyone presently, I think it is very likely that you will get her love one day. You are already best buddies and must be familiar with each other. I think friendship can turn into love since one of you has already felt this way. Good luck!
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@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
yes its been 3 years and I have seen her falling in love with whom she had break up, I have seen them patching and I have seen them going away and all through this I have been besides her and everytime I have tried stopping myself from caring about her I just start caring more about her. She keeps on saying she doesnt want me to wait for her but I cant do anything apart from waiting for her! For her I am her best buddy and for me its the same!!!!
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
15 May 09
Well I cannot answer you on that aspect since the only one that can answer that is the girl if she can really accept you as his lover and not as a buddy. I think you should assert to her that past is past already and its time to move on so that she can finally see you as a lover and not as a buddy. Patience is perhaps what is needed for this kind of situation as I see the girl is having a hard time recovering from her past relationship. Let the wounds heal first before finally saying that she is ready.
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@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Thanks for the response, I do not have the courage to say her get out of her past relationship because she would think that I am thinking now that since she is alone I am conveying her my feelings and that is not the case. I think because of this one statement everything would get spoiled and it would worsen all the more!! May be time is what she requires more than me!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
15 May 09
So,she had loved and lost already and she is not in mind to fall in love again.If you really love her,wait for some time until the scar heals.More than that,why should not you ask her for marriage instead of love.That way,she would accept you.Cheers!
@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Thanks for your response, yeah this is a good option to ask her to marry me! She got all the time she needs I am ready to wait for her but it seems how long?
@abanerji (1026)
• India
15 May 09
love sould be unconditional. you are previliged that the person you love is a good friend of yours and you get to spend time with her. there are many who have to walk out after confessing their feelings, there are others who can never even confess their feelings. give this girl some space and time. for sometime you stop confessing your love. let her realise that your love is for her. be with her whenever she needs you. you have confessed many a times and she knows it. she has not forgotten the thing. so don't get upset, have patience.if she is destined o be yours then she would be yours..
@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Hey thanks for the comments, I cant be with her now a days we are different locations now so even if she thinks she needs my company i cant be with her!! Thats true if she is destined to me mine she shall be mine till then how do I stop thinking about her???
@tracy_d (76)
• India
15 May 09
If you say you are best buddies, then at least dont ruin your friendship by expressing your feelings again and again even when shes not in the state of mind to think about it. Let your friendship grow even more, give her some time, gradually she'll be alright and definitely consider you more than just a friend! Good luck.
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@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Its not that I am conveying on a daily basis its just that I have conveyed my feelings only on certain occasions!!I am sure the friendship would never be runied even if I keep on daily, that much I can trust her and say with assurance! Thanks for your comment!!!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
15 May 09
Hi hireshd, I think in love you can't ask for a returned, but it's better to show it and tell what you feel. Will she love you, maybe yes and maybe no. But only time can tell. Sometimes love just develop just let her feel your there for her, and you can wait. Cause true love can wait! As if now she still feels bad, just let her move on first and just be there with her. Maybe she can fall for you, if you have patience, and let her feel love again. Have a nice day to you!
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@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Thanks for your response! Yeah I am ready to wait but its just that since she is not there with any more I feel that now I dont have any hopes that she can ever fall for me:( I do have the patience but not the hopes with me these days! What can I do?
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
15 May 09
Hello , True feelings are real remember . Maybe for you and her the time is just not there right now , and it dont mean it wont be there in the future . If she suffers from a broken heart it will take time to heal . Just try and be there for her , and trying to get to know here , and if it is meant to be it will just happen , and when you least expect it as well .Don't be sad a great love is worth waiting for !
@hireshd (490)
• India
16 May 09
Thanks for the comment! Guess time is what shall make this happen for me!
• India
15 May 09
Hire i dont know how old u are but if ur under 18 then this kinda feelings are normal yes u may be in love but when u grow up u would just look back at this and just laugh it off well all i would tell u is just this everyone is capable of loving anyone u may think this is the only gurl in the whole world u love and thers no one like her well thats not quiet true ur just not lookin in the right places if not this gurl put her behind and move on dont loose ur dignity over a gurl and dont forget once u win her over u would propably move on and fall in love with someone else love exists in our heads it all depends on how u see a person if u think shes the most prettiest gurl in the whole world then ul love her and if u think someone else is more prettier and more smarter and better than her then ul love her all id say is everyone is capable of loving anyone and i mean anyone u could try and see it for yourself just talk the same way with other gurls the same way u talk with her and other gurls will fall in love with you its all in the way u talk and how u think about a gurl that makes people fall in love ! Just dont put behind ur life for someonem, move on and and suceed dont be stuck up with somoene who dosent care for u ! Ul find someone better than her for sure and im more than sure u are not lookin at the right places ! Peace !
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@wjx_fish (44)
• China
15 May 09
hi,i am sorry to hear that because i have the same situation like you in the past.Now the girl is not become my girlfriend but be one of my best friend,we go park together and shopping and so on,i can paly with her usually,so i must tell you sometimes be normal friend is better then girlfriend.
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@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Yeah we are the best of the buddies and I am her best friend but then what do I do about the love I have for her? I know I wont leave her anytime not because I love her but she is my best buddy. I have conveyed my feelings to her and she knows but is still free and frank with me about any topic she wants to talk with me. SO as far as friendship is concerned I know for sure that she would be my friend even if she does not love me! What about my love???
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@prinzcy (32326)
• Malaysia
15 May 09
You already waited for 3 years and still waiting? Wow~~~ You do amaze me. I was in that situation where I just broke up and a guy said he love me. I told him I need time. He waited for a week. Then, he's gone. And he said he love me and willing to wait. Geez~~~ For you to wait that long is simply amazing. I think she'll realize how lucky she is. Do you still try to give her a hint of how you feel? She might give some positive response this time. Best of luck to you.
@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
yes its 3 years now and still I dont mind waiting for her:) yes I still convey my feelings to her sometimes when I cant control. Thanks for comment and the wishes!
@aicil01 (23)
• Philippines
15 May 09
Wow, I admire because you managed to wait that long and still waiting but don't expect too much because it is more hurtful when after waiting for long time you don't get what you've been expecting. I'm not being antagonist here but I just want you to at least save for yourself.
@hireshd (490)
• India
16 May 09
Thanks for admiring me, but truly speaking I have tried my best to forget her but we are also best of the buddies because of which it becomes impossible to forget her:(
• China
16 May 09
It's good for you to let her know how you feels. Even she cannot move on now, you could wait for her with your love. Give her some time and good luck with you.
@hireshd (490)
• India
16 May 09
Thanks for the wishes! I am ready to wait!!!
@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
15 May 09
I can think from her view point, because I have been there.Cheated upon by my BF after 2 years.So all I would say is, it takes time for the wound to heal.She needs her time, but she needs your support.Don't pressurize her but at the same time make her realize how much you love her.Also, tell her that if there are 100 bad relations, the next one may still be her true love.So she needs to slowly get out of the shell she is in and assure her that you will help her through it. Good luck.
@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Thanks for the comment! I am always there to support her its in a way that whenever she feels sad/depressed/alone I am the first she thinks off. may be she requires more time and more than time the believe on love again that it can be successful!
@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
16 May 09
Yes,you are totally right. Both time and support are needed to restore her faith in love again.It took me a while before I could believe someone could actually love me and not cheat or take advantage of me.So you have the answer my friend.You will win her heart.Wish you All the very best :)
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
15 May 09
If you really do love her i suggest you keep on loving her because love is not love when it bend with the remover to remove. Love alters not with brief hours non weeks. Love endures forever. All the best.
@hireshd (490)
• India
15 May 09
Thanks for your wishes!!!Love shall conquer all!:)
@enruschew (247)
• Malaysia
15 May 09
hi hireshd,I don't know wheather she will love you in the future or not.but I think that you have done something great!it is not a 'yes' for someone to keep on staying by somebody's side for 3 years!that's a long long time!how you did that?!and surely that she'll feel sad when you are not by her site one day...this is what a friend of mine told me.she said that she never expected that she will fall in love with a guy that she taught that they are just good friend.but after he is not by her side anymore,she only knew that she love him acctually.