Imaginary Victims

*standing ovation!* this HAS to be the greatest and truest piece I've seen written on mylot!!! EVER! I've not only had the chance to see such people.... but I've been attacked by them for no apparent reason.. THANK GOD I have friends that stand up for me and knew the accusations were lies. *hugs Mare tightly* I would be lost without you, girl! I would!

I am actually in kind of a similar situation right now. I was a victim of home invasion a week before christmas, and ever since, I have not forgotten what the mysterious man looked like. Since then, I have seen him twice, and both times he intimidingly taunted me on the street. The second time I had him arrested and I am supposed to testify. But he is saying it wasn't him and he doesn't understand why an innocent man is going to be on trial. Not to mention he had priors. Also, not to mention he gave me dirty looks and pointed me out to his friends right before he was arrested. It's like, Don't whine that you're being treated unfairly, because YOU treated ME unfairly. He stole a LOT of money and valuable things when he robbed me, of course I am going to remember his face!

I see it too Kitty, and here I see it a lot I have been a victim of it too but as I believe in people and right and wrong and karma and all the good things I just carry on convinced that all eventually goes back to where it started from and things get set straight. If that doesn't happen then I'm fine just the same because I know that the lies that were told were untruths and I live happily ever after with no problems at all Those who do this kind of stuff have problems, big problems, and probably are too sick or too proud to admit it. I feel sad for them but only up to a point. I do not help their mission, claiming innocent victims and upsetting the lives of others just to get their kicks or get their name mentioned more often. I see the outcome of the deeds, the damage they do and it is so so sad that, just because they have the loudest voice, they get heard. Those people only read what they want to read, only see what they want to see and hear what they want to hear. They wouldn't understand this post just as they didn't/don't understand that their actions are evil - the others are 'bad' not them. I don't get your notifiers

Well someone has clearly gotten your goat today! But I have a sneaking suspicion that I know who. I am not fond of folk that spread falsehoods and innuendo about others either. I have been very fortunate that in my time here I have rarely been on the receiving end of any such rubbish. However, "s/he that lives by the sword shall die by the sword" and in my view if anyone is so small minded that they need to spread such rubbish then perhaps they need to look to themselves first. Otherwise they deserve everything that they get!

Yes, I agree. When someone does something to you, you have every right to fight back. I'm pretty sure that the law is pretty clear on that. You are allowed to defend yourself. You know, people like that don't last long in circles of friends. They usually go around befriending unsuspecting people, only to brag about how many friends they have, but in reality, they have NO REAL FRIENDS at all! Since most are just there to spy on them. I'm not like that. I'm pretty open and honest about my feelings. I'm the 'heart on my sleeve' type of person. I can't seem to hide very much. Good post, MSV.

i agree with you i mean surely when someone lies they should always realise there is a chance that they might get found out? but i suppose they cover it up again to try and convince people that they weren't lieing in the first place. But no your absolutely right i mean if you been spreadin rumors about someone and they find out you wont be surprised if they dont want to know you. I hate it wen people spread stuff about people and then pretend they aint done nothing wrong.

I'm keeping an eye on several people right now. There have been two other discussions - one that I'm sure this one has a relation with, & the other, on someone that was also causing trouble by spamming once someone accepted his friends request. There are those times I wish I had gotten those extra buttons, but maybe it's for the better, or it might just put a much too speedy end to whatever fun that might be had. At the same time, I ended up having more friends that seem like good people that I believe just added you as well. Oh - yeah - & with a song titled "Tomorrow" annoyingly playing in their heads. One of those friend's name had this annoyingly playing in my head ... ... tomorrow You're always A day A way! Oopsie - is it now playing in your head too? Probably not - you were probably expecting it.

I hate this too. I will say that I am not a mean person. Anybody who says I am misunderstands. I am not the type of person who goes about purposely trying to make other people uncomfortable, feel bad, or run over them just because they are there and I can. I AM the type of person who if provoked WILL indeed turn it back on you and whip your butt back, yell back, report you for fraud, and catch you in a lie. I will NOT allow you to get away with bullying me, someone else, or lie cheat or steal to 'get ahead' because if you did things the proper way, you would be a winner too. A victim is someone who is blameless, innocent. A VICTIM did NOTHING against someone else, didn't deserve to be slandered, lied about, or hurt. If someone walks by my driveway while I am getting my daughter into the car and threatens me and steals my purse, I AM a victim. If I beat up my neighbor and held him at gunpoint and two days later he calls the police on me and they show up as I am putting my daughter in the car, then I am NOT a victim even if it looks like I am because I was a jerk to him and what he did was payback lol. There is a huge lack of personal responsibility these days in every arena of life. Everybody wants to say 'it's not my fault' when it most clearly and obviously is.

When I was little I would pinch or hit my big brother if he wasn't paying enough attention to me. Then when he hit me back twice as hard I would tell on him. That only worked a couple of times, until my mother caught me. Then I was punished and got a long drawn out lecture. I learned my lesson and still feel bad to this day for treating him like that. I have seen many parents continuously blame the offender because they are their favorite child. I think many people have gotten away with childish things and never really get a chance to grow up. It's really pathetic...

Yeppers! I have known such situations both here and on other forums. Sad how people see themselves like that.... or tell others that YOU are playing the victim because other people stand up for what they know is the right thing. I was wronged but friends pulled me through and yet the other person still thinks I'm the spawn of all evil. I told the person that people would learn the truth through what they learn of us both. I think it's proven true. I never had to say a word about the person though they thought I did. People aren't as blind to abusive behavior as this person is to their own narrow mindedness. I hope it all works out for the best.

I have been guilty in the past of the "victim mentality." I've come to realize, though, that if I've slit my own throat, I should not cry when I begin to bleed. It has a lot to do with accepting the consequences of our own actions, good or bad, and there are ALWAYS consequences. We should not hurt one another. Period.

I completely agree! The only reason that people do that is because it has worked in the past. They are master manipulators (most hard criminals are really good at this), and they think that by turning the tables away from themselves and blaming others for what happened, that people will see another point of view and let them off easier. Some people see right through it. Some don't. But by manipulating the situation by crying "whoa is me," they are hoping to get less of a punishment for their crimes/mistakes/actions. It is sick.

I agree with you completely! I get so tired of people playing the victim card. The situation you described doesnt make them a victim. There is this thing called consequences that people seem to have forgotten! When you do something, you must expect there to be consquences. Sometimes they are good - like working hard at work can earn you a promotion. Sometimes they are bad - like punching someone in their face can get your butt kicked! I really wish more people would understand this! I think too many people have been protected their entire life! When someone always bails them out, they dont know how to do anything else other than play the victim. I hope that trend doesnt continue into future generations.

Yeah I hate people that lie!! and then when they have the cheek to cry about getting caught that really bothers me I get so angry, at the end of the day there is no need to lie abput anything!! apart from my partner who tells me i have a small bum lol thats a good lie

Imaginary victims, How are you today? Well I see what you mean when you talk about imaginary victims and i think it all goes back to cause and effect. Somebody does something to someone then that one does something to get even. Whose fault is it, I would think it was the first one that drew the blood. When people do bad things to innocent children this is something that really get to me. Hope this answer your question, it was the best that I could do today, take care and walk in peace and love.