Older people views about love anyone?

I remember being 23 & thinking I was in love. I loved him with ALL my heart but he didn't love me back. Actually he beat me regularly. I loved him enough I thought if I'd love him even more, he'd stop hitting me. Well, long story short, it didn't help. After one evening when his girlfriend pissed him off, he beat me so bad he almost killed me. I knew I had to leave. For the next 30 years I looked for love...finding nothing. One evening I was in a chat group & I met the most wonderful man I could ever imagine. My last thought as he left to go to work was I'm going to marry that man!!! Then I laughed at myself for even thinking such nonsense. He lived over 3,000 miles away from where I lived plus nobody falls in love online where they don't even know the person they're talking to. Well, we kept talking over a period of the next several years & grew closer & closer. Eventually we expressed our love for each other. He was soooo different from the other men that had been in my life. He didn't stay drunk, he knew the meaning of loyalty. I could say anything to him & he didn't judge me. Then it seemed that fate meant for us to be together. He lived in a really small town on the West Coast of the US & the only company that employed practically everybody in town lost their jobs. So, those who didn't work there lost their jobs too because those that did quit spending their money. So, I offered to let him move here with me until he could get straightened back out. We were both nervous of what we would find. We had talked for hours on the phone as well as online so we knew we were pretty much what we had claimed to be. But we still worried what would happen if the love didn't transfer over into real as we thought it would. Once we were together, the love grew even stronger. About 3 weeks after he moved here we were married. We did have an occasional disagreement, but the love was so strong they didn't mean anything. We had 3 wonderful years together when he went to sleep one evening & just didn't wake back up. This was 2-1/2 years ago & I still miss him terribly. I'll be riding down the road & a song comes on the radio or I'm watching TV & a song comes on a commercial & I just lose it. Now I realize that the love I felt for my first husband was NOTHING like what I felt for the second. It is a calm, peaceful, "wanting for nothing" feeling that is like a touch of Heaven. It makes me sad to think I'll never have that feeling again. Now I know that if I don't have that feeling, I'm not really "in love". There is a HUGE difference between loving someone & "being in love" with someone. It's the difference between night & day!!!

Older people views of love. I think ur right, I'm not too old to remember that there is a difference between puppy love and the kind of love that you speak about which endures the test of time.Read 1 Corinthians chap.13 vs.1-13 when you get the chance. It is a great article there on what real love is. Right now I'm in a marriage and we've had many ups and downs....it's been going on so long now that I almost feel like this marital problem is my brother instead of my husband, lols. (Coincidentally the word problem came forth from my fingers b4 it even registered in my mind. I meant to to type in marital partner, lols)Anyways yes, I don't know if it can still be called love or if the word is more a deep reverence and respect which comes from sticking by someone through the thick and thin. Hope this answers ur question. I'm sure that ur hubby would want you to move on with ur life and he'd want only the best for you if he could say something. God bless you.

Well, it's certainly not as magical as it seemed when I was younger. I don't believe that it has to last forever in order to be love but I still believe some can make it work forever. As I got older I tend to just appreciate and enjoy the people in my life while they are here. If a friendship or love ends for whatever reason, I'm just grateful for the time that I did have with that person.

There is nothing wrong in loving someone. It is good but it depends upon the situation. We are free to love someone w/o thinking bad of it like JESUS loves evrybody here on earth. It is not okay if you put some unethical actions with someone even though are already married.