What is the meaning of love for you?

@marguicha (124503)
Chile
May 15, 2009 12:13pm CST
I know the meaning of love changes with age and experience. A teenage crush, a puppy love can develop into something profound and be the pillar of establishing a family. Or it can just vanish. How do you experience love? What is the meaning of love for you? Could you also write down the age group you are in? My ideas about love have changed a lot with age. How about you?
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@tracy_d (76)
• India
15 May 09
Love is when you're willing to do anything for that person, keeping aside your interests - and then actually feeling happy about it. Love is thinking of others needs before yours. Love is giving without expecting anything in return. Love is caring for someone so much that they could not miss anything else in the world!! :)
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@marguicha (124503)
• Chile
16 May 09
THat is very generous of you, tracy_d. But, would you want the other person to feel the same for you? Wouldn´t it be better a mutual agreement?
• India
17 May 09
Yes, Definitely it would be better if the feeling is mutual. But even if its not, does it affect your feelings towards that person? If it does, then it is not unconditional "love" :)
@russso (1699)
• Philippines
15 May 09
Like you, love for me has changed over the years. As I grew older, I learned that love shows itself in different forms. In general.. For me... Love is when you don't want to hurt that other person regardless if it's romantic love or not. It is when you become a better person because of the other person. By the way, I'm 27. Committed, but not married.
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@marguicha (124503)
• Chile
16 May 09
You are a very wise 27, russo! Being careful not to hurt the other is a proof of respect and tolerance. Good for you.
@russso (1699)
• Philippines
16 May 09
A lot of patience and understanding are needed. When we hurt another person, in the process we also get hurt -- and when these things happen, more often than not, we say and do things that we wish we didn't say or do... only to realize that we didn't even mean what we said. That is one of the worst feelings ever, especially when there is nothing that we or that other person can do to make one "unhurt".
@chiyosan (30196)
• Philippines
15 May 09
for me, love is just anything that you feel for another person, a feeling that you have when you are either uncomfortable of too comfortable with a person.
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• United States
15 May 09
Hi marguicha.....I am in the aged to perfection group and this is a very good discussion. Love does mean different things experienced throughout your life and go from compassion to comfort. When you are young you party and have your children and make your way in the world. Then as you get a little older your love becomes carrying for and taking care of your family and making sure they have what they need. Then when your family grows up and leaves you settle into your everlasting love. The love of friend, campionship and comfort. You are there for each other in times of sickness. To take care of each other and add comfort when and where it is needed. To just let the other person know you are there know matter what and that you always will be..........That is love!!! flutterby
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
15 May 09
To me, the meaning of love is all about friendship, faith, honesty, trust, and optimism. If you have those things with another person, you have love. I don't believe that changes throughout life as much as our own personal needs change based on the status of our own personal journey of life, and how those needs change what we do with love, or even if we choose to walk away from it. Somewhere in our personal journies many of us go through stages of separation with family, nurturing stages where we want to perhaps have children, self-fulfillment stages where we become focused on ourselves and our needs of learning, careers and independance, and gathering stages where we want the people we care about near us. All of us go through these stages, not necessarily in any particular order and not necessarily one at a time either. Going back to what I feel the meaning of love is, if you have those things with another person, and they mutually feel the same towards you, then the canges that the stages bring only serve to add interest and flavor to a successful union. I'm in my early 50's now, and this has pretty much been my viewpoint all my adult life.
@marguicha (124503)
• Chile
3 Sep 09
Wonderful response, friend. There´s nothing to add to it!
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@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
15 May 09
Hi at young age i didn't really understand about the love...then i didn't really understand why boys go after girls and propose them to be their beloved and blah blah...so i used to make fun of the boys and later i realised some kind of things which was called love...i was in it for quite some time...all i experienced is lot of stupidity and worthless pain that you are going to get...so i don't believe in love and i think there is nothing called love...its just a hypothetical term that we all use to console our over burdened soul...