what would you do if he says " I don't have feeling for you"

Philippines
May 16, 2009 1:56pm CST
Hello there my fellow my lotters. I would like to know if the someone you think you are loving, spending time, caring for,says... " I don't have feeling for you". After all thoses time that you have shared with each other, after showing that that person cares for you and you have a certain bond...and you feel that there is something there...then all os a sudden...that person says this??? Wouldn't your heart be shatered??? how would you react and what will you say?what will you reply to that person?What will be your next action?
7 responses
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Ooouuuch, that hurts. It is painful definitely painful when someone you love would tell you that he doesn't love you anymore. I will definitely be crushed. I guess it would be better if he says it to me earlier, than continue to be with me, and then lying , pretending that he loves me. Truth hurts but we have to accept it.
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
yes. it's better to know it earlier
• United States
4 Jun 09
I have had that happen to me but its usually when I am in the middle of a fight with my fiance and i just stay quiet dont say a word and walk away he says it in the heat of the moment to make me feel bad because I am sure I say hurtfull things to him too he apologizes at the end so its just anger in my part i think and hope
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
Yeah! I do agree we usually do make mistakes when we are angry. We tell things that are hurtful to the ones we love.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Hi shikimurie, well I know it happens to everyone. Hearing those words shatters your world, and breaking your heart bits and pieces. Especially when you love the person, and don't know what went wrong. That you tell yourself that I didn't mean to love you, that you never have to go this far and deserving it. Well I'll ask her and give me a good reason why leaving me. If she tells me I fallen out of love! Still I wanna hear it comes out of his mouth and really tell me straight from my eyes that she doesn't love me anymore. That I will respect her decision then insisting myself to her. It will just be useless. I'll just accept that I lose her. In love you can't ask for a return. I'll just try to go on with out her in my life. I'll be searching myself and picking up the pieces of the lost time also. I think time will just heal the wounds she left. And do things for myself to regain my self esteem. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
surely, i will feel like dying but i'll respect his decision and accept the fact that he'll be much happier without me.
• Malaysia
18 May 09
sure my heart would be shattered. Who would be happy that from the person you love the most. No body. Unless you are crazy and heartless. The only reason the person dare to say that is he or she got another person in mind...and which is they think are better than you...No offense, but I been through that my friend. You will have mix feelings, mad , sad, crying, alone...you even think about revenge..but time will surely heal your pain..deal with it right now, you'll be stronger after that...
• Philippines
18 May 09
hi Shikaymaru! thank you for that..yes no offense taken there. I really appreciate the feed back actually. I am trying to deal with it now, and hope that time would heal me.
@russso (1693)
• Philippines
16 May 09
My heart will be crushed... I know there's nothing that I can do. I'm the type of person who won't insist myself on other people. I'll give myself time to cry and sulk for a few days. After that, it's time to move on. There are many fish in the sea.
• Philippines
16 May 09
hmmm.. yeah you are right. Thank you for the reply.It really means so much for me. I am also not the type of person who insist my self on to others.....
@soulist (2985)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I would be upset for sure, but then I would think it is his lose not mine because I am a good woman. I would try to maintain a friendship after sometime. I have actually been able to try to keep a friendship a few months after my one ex and I ended things. I would be shattered and I don't really know how I would reply to him. It is like one of those won't know until I am in the situation.