Inlaws

United States
May 17, 2009 9:22am CST
Do you like your in-laws? In-laws not meaning your immediate family, like your mother-in-law, father-in-law, I mean like the aunts/uncles cousins of your spouse. I know alot of people have problems with the immediate family, I think mine are nice, its the uncles I can't stand. My husband has an uncle that just invites himself, with whom he wants, at any hour, to our house and even keeps some of his beer in our fridge. Am I wrong, cause this drives me nuts. My husband says he doesn't like it either but he doesn't do anything about it. Also this uncle, talks ALOT, chatter box doesn't even begin to cover it. He makes me nuts, so when he comes over I hide, I want nothing to do with this guy. I know its childish, but truly this man and his family would not be the type of person I would talk to if I wasn't related to him through marriage. Any suggestions of a better way for me to handle it?, but still be nice.
6 responses
• India
17 May 09
I like my uncles but not aunties and their children . Somewhat they have developed the habit of jealousy in them .I can never stand visiting any of their homes or if they come and visit us . But we try to treat them properly and in welcome them with all hospitality . But it becomes unbearable if they make a regular visit or try to stay in our house more than a week . They just start interfering with our personal matters which i don't like.
@jmlynn (46)
• United States
18 May 09
SAME HERE! I love all of my uncles for the most part. For some reason the older women on my husband's side are incredibly naggy and have incredibly strong opinions on really stupid things. When they are around, or when my mother-in-law is around especially, I try to stay as far away as possible. They just have a way of throwing jabs to me that are unrecognizable to anyone else listening in on the conversation. The jealousy is the worst!!
• Philippines
18 May 09
Hi! My heart goes out for you. I feel lucky my in-laws aren't like that at all. Well how do we get rid of the unwanted uncle out of your house... how about you try giving him chores that would wear him out when he's at your house,say make him babysit your kids and pretend to go somewhere very important and come back 3 hours later or more. Or you could tell him to empty the garbage and wash the dishes or mow the lawn...that way you could feel better that he's there because you can have help around the house.
• India
18 May 09
this is a big problem for most of us…we just don’t know how to handle elders from the extended family who don’t know how to behave. They have been pampered and indulged like that by the elders of the family so its kind of difficult for the daughter-in-law to just snap at them. If you are living with your immediate family then I don’t think you can really do much except hide but if you are alone, you can always make some excuse about some impending work outside and thus tell him to cut his visit short. That way you will have to dress up and actually go out a couple of times, but ultimately this uncle will move on.
• United States
18 May 09
Poor thing! I don't think you are being childish at all!! That is extremely rude of your husband's uncle to come to your house and make himself at home. Is he really lonely? Is he married with kids of his own? Maybe you could find out if he has any hobbies and steer him in that direction?
• United States
18 May 09
I love my mother and father in law, i visit them all the time. But my husband has a cousin that i cant stand, he stayed with us a while when he didnt have anywhere to go, i will never let that hapen again. he drives me crazy with good reason, he is a total screw up and is always trying to start fights between me and my husband, they dont work. He has told me he doesnt think we should be together, but that just isnt his choice. Then he tells my friends, people that dont like him that he is jealous of us, because we are married with kids and our life is perfect. lol well its far from perfect, but we love eachother and make the best of what we have. there is always that in law that you just cant stand.
• India
17 May 09
Sorry i forgot to comment on your situation haha . Well your situation is not uncommon but i don't know a better way to avoid him other than making excuses like you going out somewhere or will not be in your house for anther coming days . But your husband involvement also requires in this lie lol .