Is it enough to just love your children after they have grown
By angel_690
@angel_690 (208)
United States
May 17, 2009 4:15pm CST
or are we in the days when love can only be shown by gifts. I constantly feel because my daughters live in another town a few hours away and they have had a few children I have not had the money to get down and see them I am not good at writing or sending cards but I do call and keep in touch over the phone. I have such a hectic life right now with work, school and my 2 teenagers that are still under my care I feel sometimes that I am not doing enough for them but at the same time I can't move things around to work it any different so I am often left wondering is the expression verbally of love enough anymore?
5 responses
@COLLEGEGIRL0720 (21)
• United States
19 May 09
yeah, facebook or chatting somehow online is a good idea as well, if you aren't already doing that. I agree.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
18 May 09
Why don't all of you get on Facebook and that way you can communitate all the time. I don't think it is necessary to send presents or go and see them if you can't. A phone call, an email, or even an ecard is a good way to let them know you are thinking of them.
You should see if your daughterw can come home with their children one weekend for a getting reacquainted weekend.
@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
17 May 09
Hi angel..that is a good question...I used to live very close to my kids..I have 4 and they are all grown. I have some health problems that dont allow me to play with my grandkids like I used to. I always feel bad that I cant babysit or do things for them..Now I live about 1 1/2 hours away..I guess we all have our own lives and as long as we remember birthdays, make phone calls and tell them we love them, thats all we can do. Some of us dont have the resources to do more than that. No matter how old they get, they are still always our kids, and letting go is hard. I think we will continue to have the parenting instinct and continue to worry if we do enough, all our lives.
@angelsmummy (1696)
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17 May 09
I moved out of my mums a year ago, she does only live around the corner but we dont see each iother as much as we could, although my dad lives quite far and we talk alot on the phone and i would say yes verbal love is enough for a child, at least you know you are loved!!
@COLLEGEGIRL0720 (21)
• United States
18 May 09
Expressing your love verbally SHOULD BE enough. Your kids should understand your situation and know that you love them no matter what. I am 28 years old, and I am very close with my parents and I have lived near them and away from them. My parents never had a lot of money and when I lived away from them, I WOULD MAKE THE EFFORT to go see them if I wanted to see them bad enough. Why don't your kids do that? Why do you have to be the one to go see them? I think it should be a compromise. If you go and see them one time, then they should come see you the next. That's fair, and you won't always have to be the one to spend money.
But, you should never feel like you have to show your love with money. That's my opinion. You can buy gifts to be thoughtful and whatnot, but you shouldn't feel like you have to do it to show how much you love them.
