How to change....

I understand that depression must be very,very painful and I hope you don't take what I have to say in the wrong way. I am as a rule a very laid-back person and for the most part I'm a positive person....I try to be anyway. It's a lot of work really. With all the frustrations and stress in life, it would be so easy to stay in negative mode. I choose not to. I really believe that you can spread negative emotions as well as positive ones. When things get me down (and they do), I try to work thru it myself so as not to bring others down. Yes...I sometimes do paste a smile on my face when I really am feeling anything but smiley. People smile back when you smile at them. I try to talk about positive things and not dwell on my problems. Eventually, I will get out of my mood and be able to focus on my troubles and deal with them in a constructive way. On the flip side, I have listened to friends who are down & out. I don't mind a bit...that is what friends do. Still, it does bring me down because I don't like to hear anyone is hurting. If a person is constantly down, I do start avoiding that person. Obviously, my listening isn't helping, any advice isn't helping....all that is happening is that I am continually getting brought down too.

That is so very difficult situation for you. Fear not because I was the same person two or three years ago. What did I do to make a change in myself? I did join a job at a company. There I met with some different people everyday and heard about their problems which lead me to think that I am not the only one who is sad in this world. Everyone is having some problems with their life. Not to mention I foudn love also which ditched me for no reason at all. These experiences changed me dramatically and now I am no depressed person even if I am facing biggest problem of my life.

Why do you get depressed? Do you know why? Maybe your friend have their own problem too that's why they dont want to hear yours it will just make them remember their problems. Friends are not just for someone you can share your problems with but they are also there to cheer you up. And share some good moments with you. Dont think that they should be like that to you if there are true friends instead you should try to be like that to them even just sometime. Your not the only one to need them, they need you too. Maybe they have problems too but they just dont tell you because like you said you're always depressed. Dont always try to reach them for your problems but as a happy friend who likes to enjoy, go gimmik, etc. Try to think of your interest and do it so you wont get depressed.

Hmm, I think I felt something like that this morning. What I did was had a 15 minute walk and tried to clear my head (well, that of course was after an hour of shedding tears). Well, I realized that the best thing to do it share that with someone. And in my case, preferably someone I don't know. Well, I got a bit help that I need. Why not visit this site as well. You might find it useful just like me. Here's the blog I was talking about: http://lifecoachintraining.blogspot.com/ Good Luck!

Have you talked to your doctor about your depression? I know that it is hard to do, but it can help. I am the type who has bouts of major depression and anxiety. After dealing with it for many, many years, I had a breakdown in my soctor's office. All he did was ask me how I was and I went into tears. After that, I began to take anti-depressants. They worked for a little while, but then, all they did was make me sleepy. I tried a few different htings, and each time, it was the same old story. Finally, I was diagnosed with neuropathy, and one of the treatments happens to be a medication that is also an anti-depressant.After a while, I moved and stopped taking the meds. I went right back to those same old feelings. I was simply coping with them as best as I could until I recently had to take my boys to the doctor and he noticed my problem. We talked, and he prescribed the same medicine I took before. It has helped me a lot. I will admit that here lately, I feel like I need a higer dose, but even this lower dose os helping me a lot. I can actually think, smile, and even get out of bed in the morning without feeling like it is a chore. I have felt more like me rather than someone I hardly know. It isn't all in the medicine though. I have to make a conscious effort to think better about myself. That is difficult at times, but the medicine seems to make that a little easier too. I think that maybe your friends just aren't sure how to help you. Chances are that they see something that you have just begun to see for yourself. I doubt that they mean any harm, but they just don't know how to talk to you. My best advice to you is to go talk to your doctor. Don't wait, don't put it off, do it as soon as you can. It is a hard step to take; admitting that you may need a little help, but it is a step worth taking. I absolutely hate taking pills every day, but I hated feeling the way I felt even more. I was told that I need to continuously take this medicine for 6 months to 2 years to really help me not to fall back into that deep depressive state I was in. I have resolved to stick with it and get better. I think you should too. Don't go putting on a fake smile. Try to find the brighter things though. You don't have to be happy all the time, but you shouldn't feel depressed so much either. Help is out there.

first of all from what you describe you suffer from depression. depression is a chemical imbalance. you can't wish it away!!!! yes, i can understand how people can get tired of someone who is always down but you have the power to change this. you need to go see a mental health professional, get screened for depression and get treatment. you will become a different person. you will have friends again and this time you will not only be able to lean on them when you need to (which will be less often) but you will be a friend in return, allowing them to lean on you. don't waste your life any longer. get some help. depression can be helped.you don't need to try to fake your way through life. please do it. there is nothing to be ashamed of. lots of people suffer from depression from time to time and are helped.

Why you are so depressed?Maybe everytime you want frieds,you are down.That makes your friend down too.Everyone has some time when they are depressed,but not always.If so,you should think about yourself,what's wrong with you? why is there so many things make you depressed?Is there anything that can make you happy?You should do something to maintain your friendship,not always complain.If you love someone, you have to provide enough care to him/her,he/she will never forget how you make him/her feel.If they are very happy with you,they won't leave you.They will contact with you now and then.Even if you are sad,they will be you side and try to make you happy again.