How to get your discussions and comments ignored by me.
By WebMann
@WebMann (4731)
Canada
May 20, 2009 8:26am CST
I could be wrong here but I'm not. :)
Would you agree that it's beneficial to know right from wrong? Yes, okay continue reading.
I like doing things the right way right from the beginning but there is a lot of learning to do and that takes time, so I do make mistakes, just like everyone else does. But once I know something is wrong I don't keep repeating it.
There are many people on Mylot that can help you and me but if they get messages that only promote you and your money making schemes then I am sure those people that could help you will just delete your name from their friend list and where does that leave you.
When I get a request for a friendship it only takes me a minute to respond and accept them. Well when you spam me it only takes me a minute to delete you and you won't get accepted by me again. I may be cute but I am not stupid.
Does that make sense and if so how do you handle those that just ask to be friends so they can spam your message box?
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8 responses
@DerekNS74 (22)
• United States
20 May 09
Let me see if I get you on this... Are you saying that you believe some of tese people want to be on your friends list because they think you are cool? Could I interest you in some government land in new mexico?
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
21 May 09
I recently deleted a few because as soon as I accepted them they sent me P.M.s and wanted me to join sites and wanted me to be their referral and also spam. I deleted them and it wasn't 2 hours later they sent a new friends request. I may look dumb but I ain't stupid enough to add them back for more of the same stuff.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
25 May 09
Eyes are the windows of the soul they say..lol Yep, kinda like the green..being one of my favorite colors and all..But you have lovely long hair.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
25 May 09
I have chopped all my hair off now. I just started growing my hair after my heart attack and said I wasn't going to cut it again until my heart doctors would let me go fishing again.
It took 4 years but I finally past a stress test and they let me go fishing. Then off came the hair. I keep my head almost shaved now. :)
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
20 May 09
I acept almost all the friend requests I receive. Many of them are new users and my intent is to help them if they are willing to help themselves.
However if they spam my PMs then I go immediately to their profile and check their discussions and usually they are spammng the discussions too. So I report in the hope they get removed and good riddance - there is no place for spammers on myLot not even in the money interests! 
p.s. I have seen that many sites now have a 'zero tolerance' for spam in their TOS and any user that places their link in places where it is not allowed can be reported back to the site they are promoting and they will lose their account 
p.s. I have seen that many sites now have a 'zero tolerance' for spam in their TOS and any user that places their link in places where it is not allowed can be reported back to the site they are promoting and they will lose their account @WebMann (4731)
• Canada
20 May 09
Yeah I think the word 'friends' kind of implies that you treat Mylot friends as you would real world friends, with respect and never spamming. It's just common sense and I feel that a lot of people online don't think of online friends as friends, just opportunities to make a dime, or less. :)
I don't look at their profiles or discussions. If they spam me their outta here, but I don't report them.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
20 May 09
I tend to think of myLot as my online family (it is where I have made my nest online 
) so I report those that are so obviously here ONLY to spam so that they do not bother the others in the family. Got it? 
) so I report those that are so obviously here ONLY to spam so that they do not bother the others in the family. Got it? @zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
20 May 09
I shall add this about myself, 'I may be stupid, but I'm not dumb'. How's that...
. I feel you there. I get so many friend requests and they would just spam my private message box with please add me to your referral type of emails. And when I politely said I'll look into it, they would 'hurry me'. 
. I'm appalled. No more words to say.
There are also some friend collectors, and I don't know what their aim is by having lots of friends and not having 1 discussion created and only a few answered. And when you see the type of answers they give, just 1 line and that's it, I totally think they are on the wrong site.. I would have put more emoticons but I think only 3 is allowed. Or I might be wrong in that. Have a nice day, WebMann. Keep those cool humor lines coming.
. I feel you there. I get so many friend requests and they would just spam my private message box with please add me to your referral type of emails. And when I politely said I'll look into it, they would 'hurry me'. . I'm appalled. No more words to say.
There are also some friend collectors, and I don't know what their aim is by having lots of friends and not having 1 discussion created and only a few answered. And when you see the type of answers they give, just 1 line and that's it, I totally think they are on the wrong site.. I would have put more emoticons but I think only 3 is allowed. Or I might be wrong in that. Have a nice day, WebMann. Keep those cool humor lines coming.@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
21 May 09
Speaking of collecting friends I have a few Twitter accounts and I get people that follow me that have no web site listed or any details, they just keep following people. It must be a contest going on somewhere.
Anyone that follows me on Twitter I do looking into their profile because I want to see their web site and I get there and they don't have one listed.
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@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
25 May 09
I really can't say much about Twitter. I kind of gave up on it, although I have a few accounts I don't use it like I should or could. I just find twitter is so full of promotions it's annoying.
I seem to spend more of my time just building content and writing articles.
I do Twitter every once in a while but I hardly ever include a link to anything.
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@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
21 May 09
I've become more cautious about accepting friendships. I check out their profile to see if we have anything in common before I grant friendship. Usually the ones I grant have a wide range of interests and are active in them. If I do get spam in my inbox, I do the same as you, delete them. Occasionally someone in the make money online interest will post a discussion and say if you want more info, p m me and if it sounds like an interesting offer I'll ask for their link, but I don't tolerate people getting on my friends list just to spam me. There are better ways to promote your business on myLot.
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
21 May 09
I also check profiles before accepting as a friend. I only accept if we have interests in common. After all, in the real world, you make friendships because of common interests, not to gain financial advantage. I agree if peolpe do want to recruit, it should be done through PM, not through discussions. That will only get the discussions deleted and lose money for everyone, including the spammer.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
21 May 09
i used to just add those friends request... and i was never bothered with some of them sending me spams, if i dont like it, then i just delete their messages. some are asking for trade in relinks which is okay for me.
but lately i've been reading discussions on spammers, so now i am careful of who to add... first i check their profiles and how long are they on this site, then i check their number of friends, and their number of posts... after that i decide if i'll add them or not.
i have sent messages on one of my site because they asked me to pm it to them...
i haven't deleted yet any friends on my list that have sent me spams... only if get really annoyed, then that's the time i will delete them.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
21 May 09
Hi Jayrene
I guess if someone made a friend request and then contacted me about one of my web sites and wanted to link. Well I might think about it.
If they talked to me about why they like my site and why it would make a good link exchange but if they just message asking to swap links, well to me that's still spam.
I guess if there is no interaction between us and I get a message like that I consider it spam. I have to be made to at least feel like they want to be friends and not just using me.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
20 May 09
I do the same thing as you do. I do not mind being your friend and I will accept you, I will also go to friends started discussions and respond in kind to ones that I have something to say that can help the post. But please do not friend me just to send me spam messages I will delete you, it is so easy to do. But why waste my or your time.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
21 May 09
It makes perfect sense to me, too. I don't send out lots of emails spamming people for my benefit and I expect others to have the same courtesy. As friends, I assume we have similar interests and that they are at least mildly interested in what I might have to say at some point and vice versa, so if they're interested then they'll visit my stuff and if I'm interested I'll visit theirs. I don't need to be asked to do it. That just seems annoying and it gets old fast. :-/
I don't exactly have a 'zero-tolerance' rule. I mean, I don't mind getting a message asking me to take a look at something if you're truly interested in my opinion on the issue and what I have to say. I'd be happy to answer questions and respond to things if you want me to. I just don't want the same message that 50 other people are getting because you want the money more than the opinions.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
21 May 09
I was raised to treat others the way you expect to be treated and it has worked for me for 50 years or so but there are always those that don't live that way and we deal with them as they show up in our lives.
Question asked never gets anyone deleted from my friends list. It's when I get messages trying to get me to signup for something. I have zero-tolerance for that.
