Did you ever lose yourself? How you gathered yourself back?
By caesarin
@caesarin (1089)
Indonesia
May 20, 2009 8:36pm CST
There are many reasons to lose ourselves. Tragedies, disappointment, illness, etc.
I realize I never know myself and before I can find myself, I'm losing more of myself.
I've never been an outspoken, never have the courage. But when my husband encourage to be one, I tend to be mislead. Because I never know what kind of person I want to be specifically. It's like I always live in the nest and never got out of it.
Especially after my mother passed away, I don't where to hold on to.
I don't live close to any of my relatives, I only visit my father and brothers.
I tried to talk to my brothers to comfort me but when I get back into real life, it's so hard to be myself.
For those who might experience losing yourselves, how did you get yourselves back?
3 responses
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
21 May 09
We kind of have similar experiences and thoughts about ourselves. I, too, lost my mom almost 7 yrs ago. I was very lost myself and empty before she even passed and when she did I've done some serious thinking realizing how short life is. I began to take a step forward to go for what I really want to happen in my life. I used to be a bit of an introvert and kind of scared or reluctant to speak my mind. This was all before I met my husband. My husband taught me how to say what i feel and get my thoughts out no matter how ugly it could get. I didn't like it at first cause I thought it wasn't really me. I became depressed cause I wanted to know who I really was without hurting anyone. As time goes by i realized that it has always been "me". as a matter of fact my husband actually took out the b*tch in my old nice self. lol! I so thank him for that. it wasn't an easy transition but it was a blessing in disguise. Cheer up, you...life is precious. Don't let others lose yourself. Take control of it :)
@caesarin (1089)
• Indonesia
22 May 09
We're totally have same experiences. Only that now, I'm still in the part where you were in the transition. It really confuses me, because I'm not sure whether this is what really want to be like. . . . But you help me with your experience. I hope can my head straight and keep on going on my path. Thanks very much.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
21 May 09
i am a single mom of four children. i left my husband and tagged my kids along with me. it was not easy i think i lose myself in the middle of struggle and work. but my children are the reason why i keep coming back to the same me. i also became a heavy smoker and a heavy drinker. it does makes me sleep when i drink and smoking keeps me company. now i only drink ocasionally and i no longer smoke
@caesarin (1089)
• Indonesia
21 May 09
It is very tough of you to be a single parent of FOUR children.
I can't imagine that.
I tried to hold on to my children. I have to be strong for them, at least I have to show them that they should be someone, not afraid to speak their mind (in polite manner, of course) though I am not like that. That's why I try to be one for them.
But I thank God that you can gathered yourself back, not to drink and smoke as much as you did. I don't want your children to find their mother being sick because of drinking and smoking habit. And most of all, I wish they don't drink and smoke when they are teen or older.
Thanks very much for responding.
