Do you call your grandma and tell her that you love her directly?

China
May 21, 2009 3:26am CST
Well, most of us will make regular phone calls to parents i guess. But what about your grandma or your grandparents. I think of the time when my grandma gave me 50 cents(CNY) when i was in primary school to let me buy some snacks. It's little, but my only allowance to buy something to eat except meals. And still i remember those times when she lived together with me when i was in high school. She cooked for me and my sister, wash clothes and live in a rented house near school which is therefore far away from school. But after entering the university, i didn't call her. It's not that i don't love her or forget her. I don't know, i'm kind of shy to tell her that i love her? When i grow up, she's old, how could i do this to her? I should have called and i should have bought her food to eat. I feel guity, really.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
22 May 09
I tell everyone that I love them as often as I can. Even when we fight I try to tell people that I love them. Grandmothers and Grandfathers especially. Sometimes it's hard to convey with words how you feel and it can be embarrassing but I say trying is the best you can do. I'm sure that your grandmother knows you love her though, and just to make you feel better, tell her. It might be hard but I'm sure it won't be nearly as bad as you've expected.
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• China
31 May 09
I went home and visited my grandparents during the Dragon boat festival. Great to see them, although i didn't tell them i love them, I bought them something to eat and gave some money. Thanks for sharing.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Sometimes what you can't say with words, you can with just giving. I'm glad that you did and I am sure they appreciated it.
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
21 May 09
Photo courtesy PDPhoto.org - Take that cellphone and make that call to your beloved grandparents...
I reminisced the beautiful memories that I have had with my late grandma too at times. In fact, I miss her very much. She has always been there for me, and generally, grandmothers have a very loving nature and they are also very motherly, extra caring and giving. They are the reasons that grandchildren like me learn the meaning of love. I regretted those days when she was healthier and not calling her everyday to ask how she was doing. Sometimes in life nowadays when I'm depressed, I would think about her and asking myself what would she do if she's in my shoes right now. Your discussion has made me miss her even more. It's a bittersweet thing. I pray that she will always be in a better place and she will always be cherished. To all people out there, if you have grandparents, don't wait to make that call. Do it before it's too late.
• China
22 May 09
Hey, zed, i'm sorry to make you sad. But also some sweet memories with her, aren't there? Thanks for your sharing. I will not do the same thing i did before. Life's short, i have to make up before it's too late.
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
22 May 09
It's alright, Lynette. I need to reminisce too at times lest I forget her totally and I wouldn't want that.
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@bmuchler (442)
• United States
18 Aug 09
My Grandma passed away 5-6 years ago. I say goodnight to her and that I love her everynight. I do the sae for my dad. He passed away a year and a half ago. I call my mom and my sister a couple times a week. I don't remember if I called my grandma much when I was little. Once e-mail came around, I would e-mail her everyday. Your grandma sounds wonderful. You don't have to feel guilty. University takes alot of time and hard work. Classes, homework, etc. When I was in high school I was involved with activities so wasn't able to visit my grandma as much. But I'm pretty sure she understood and knew that I loved her. I'm sure your grandma knows you love her too.
• China
18 Aug 09
Thanks, bmuchler, i just don't remember to call her. Everyday i work and after work cook, wash clothes, watch tv and sleep, day after day, do the similar thing. And still one reason i don't call her because there's a problem with the telephone in her house, most of the time i called i couldn't get through her, gradually i forget and get used to my own life.
@KrauseHome (36746)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Well, I have not had a grandmother to call since 1992, so there is no way I could call my Grandmother and tell her I Love her. But honestly since your grandmother is still alive, it would be a good thing for you to take time from your busy schedule and call her and tell her you Love her, as people are not always around forever. It will make her feel Good as well.
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• China
18 Aug 09
Thanks, krausehome, I saw my grandmother last week and she's getting older again. I really should visit him much before things get too late.
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
22 May 09
I did, till I lost them. I told them all the time. I went out of my way for them. I flew from Chicago to MS just to spend time with her. My mother mom was and remains an inspiration to me. She was a true force in our family and someone that all of us loved dearly. I miss her, still, She past away in October of 2001, my husband and I were married in April of 2002. She tried to hang on for me, but she just could not do it. She was there with us in spirit and I know she was with me and my children when I was pregnant and when they were in the NICU. I miss you granny.. This past weekend my sister was married in Flordia, we walked the beach the morning of the wedding and wrote names in the sand, hers of course was the first we wrote, we were writing the names of those who could not be with us. It was me, my mom, my sister and my aunt. We talked to here while we were there, told her about the wedding and told her how much we loved and missed her. okay I am crying now
22 May 09
I tell my nan I love her every time I speak to her. Sure she is the best nan anyone can ask for and I have been extrememly lucky to have her, so why shouldn't I tell her how I feel? She loves to hear it and it makes her day. I love to be the one to tell her how special she is and she always says it back which is great. My othere nan on the other hand who sadly passed away could never understand when I told her i loved her. She found it wierd and never said it back instead she laughed at me asthough I was joking. I am so glad now that she has gone that I said it to her though and I wouldnt take it back for the world!!
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• China
31 May 09
Hello, lindsey3uk, you made the wise decision to tell your love. I've visited my grandparents during the 3-day Dragon Boat Festival, and I think they can feel my love although i didn't say directly. Thanks for sharing.
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
22 May 09
Nope, i did not do that either.. All along ever since i was a kid, i was never as close to my grandmother as i dun see her often.. MAybe it's due to my innocence when i'm young, i often found her slow and hard to communicate with her.. PLus, i only get to see her once in a year, and thus how close can we be?? Even when she passed away about 5 yrs ago, i dun feel as sad, just that i have lost a relative and that's it.. Maybe it's due to the amount of time spent together with her, thus i dun really feel the closeness towards her..
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• China
22 May 09
I can understand that, she's at least one member of family, no matter how little tims you meet her, you still will feel bad. Enjoy posting..
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• Philippines
22 May 09
I text my grandma... I don't have enough load to call her, so I just text her a cute message and an "I love you" at the end... and she calls me!! =)I don't neglect to tell the ones I love "I love you" because you never know when they're gonna leave, right? =)
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• China
22 May 09
My grandma didn't go to school, so she doesn't know the words. But it's a good way. And I'm glad that you express your love to her. I will too. Thanks, good luck.
@mimuche (163)
• Canada
21 May 09
I was raised by my grandmother and even when I grew up I used to go visit her at least 5 times a week. Though we did not talk much on the phone because I was always at her house I always made sure to let her know how much I really loved her. So instead of saying see you tomorrow I always told her I love you. And it is been hard not having her around.
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• China
22 May 09
Thanks for sharing mimushe. I'm far away from home, but i should visit her. Live happily with your grandma..
21 May 09
Hi lyn, Sometimes it is hard to tell someone you love that you love them, but it would be nice if you can write a note or buy a card telling her how much you love her, in that way you won't have to see her face and get shy, though I don't know why, she is your grandma and she loves you very much but it would nice for her to read what you tell her, how old is your grandma now? Tamara
• China
22 May 09
She's 73 years old now. She's not attended school at all, so she can't read, but somehow she knows the number and can do a little simple calculation, she's clever, isn't she? Writing a note or sending a card may not be applicable to her. But i can buy her food to eat and clothes to wear instead of writing. And, make frequent visits. Thanks for sharing.
@janyen (623)
• Netherlands
21 May 09
sad to say i only have one grandmother from my mother's side and piety i can not call her coz she won't be able to hear me clearly in the phone and i do not have any contact with them. we are not that close like her other grandchildren but am always here for her if she needs any help from me.
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• China
22 May 09
Thanks, janyen. A grandma may have many grandchildren, mine has eight, so some are close, some are not that close, but no matter how far we are, we love her.
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
21 May 09
Hello lynettebyc. You are very lucky to have your grandma while I am so unlucky that I have never seen my grandparents ever since I was born. They left before I was born. When I was a small kid, I used to ask my mother where my grandma was and I wanted to have a grandma of my own because most of the kids of my time had theirs. Yet I was also lucky because I had some neighbors old enough to be my grandparents, so I used to call them Grandma and Grandpa. Since your own Grandma took good care of you when you were a kid, I don't think that you need to be shy to tell her that you love her. You know, however old you are, you are her granddaughter. Just feel free to say you love her and have her in your mind wherever you are and buy something that she likes to eat or wear. It doesn't have to be expensive before you can make her happy. Take some real actions, friend.
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• China
22 May 09
Thanks, william, for your sharing and suggestion. I'll try. And it's not late i still have plenty of years to be kind to her and take good care of her.
@AmbiePam (51236)
• United States
21 May 09
She is still alive, yes? Seize the opportunity to tell her you love her now. I call my grandmother at least once every two weeks. I send her a card occasionally. The older she gets the more I appreciate her, and the more I think of how much time she has left on this earth. I don't want to have regrets after she is gone.
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• China
22 May 09
Hello, AmbiePam, it's so sweet of you to do so. I will go home to visit my grandma next week. It's Dragon Boat Festival in China, and we will get a 3-day holiday.
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@mimpi1911 (25474)
• India
21 May 09
I love my grandma. She was more than my mom. I miss her a lot. She was fantastic in giving, understanding and sharing. Whatever I am today is largely due to her. I did not used to tell her often That I loved her. But got to know that I did, we did. Some times we do not need to to tell. You must talk to tell tell her how much you care, how much you love. Time flies and i do not want anyone to regret things.
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• China
22 May 09
Yeah, regret sucks! Better live life for today, not for the regretful past. Cherish what we've owned. Thanks mimpi. Good luck, wish you and your grandma happy and healthy.
@cudamani (996)
• India
21 May 09
I really like my mother'smother and she is no more of course. Yes, I remember I called her several times over phone and told her that I liked her the most,she used to buy for me whatever I asked for, adn that is why.
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• China
21 May 09
Thanks, great that you've called her to express your love