Please let me stay in care.
By suzzy3
@suzzy3 (8342)
May 21, 2009 4:33pm CST
My neibours daughter played up caused trouble.She was a nightmare always bringing bad kids back to her mothers house,hit her mother and in the end she was put into temporary care,she does not want to come home.When you read this you can see why,at the foster home she has her own room ,full of clothes ,games ,ect she gets pocket money and is planning her birthday treats from the foster mother,trips out,new clothes trips to the theare ect,it seems the worse you behave the more you get.The girls mother is a good woman with three other kids who she looks after really well,and are perfectly happy.I know all this as i live next door.Her mother is not a rich woman but loves all her children dearly.That does not seem enough for her daughter who we have discovered did all this on purpose to get put into care.You could not make it up.The girl refuses to do anything her mother says but is an angel for her foster mother.I always thought if you were naughty as a child you should be punished in some way,not taken away and spoilt rotten,strange world we live in don't you think.?
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@Lambchoper (538)
• United States
22 May 09
I wouldn't be too quick to judge the relationship between this girl and her mother. I would be willing to bet not all the blame for the "bad behavior" rest with the girl. Loving your child dearly doesn't necessarily mean you can relate to them. Some personalities are like water and oil, they just don't mix well. I would be grateful that my girl was adjusting well in the foster mothers care and I wouldn't begrudge her the treats she is getting. I would spend my time and energy trying to figure out a way to have a better relationship with my daughter.
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@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
21 May 09
Yes this is a strange world we live in, many of us who are over 30 yrs old can probably remember how different it was when we were growing up, no matter how bad we tried to act or thought we were, we still got punished for what we did, and I don't think we were spoilt rotten like the kids these days are, its such a different time now. Nowadays people can get in trouble for spanking their kids I myself don't see anything wrong with it, I got it when I was younger and I think I turned out pretty good, you can see how very different this younger generation is today. I don't think the girl should of gotten taken away, maybe in a different way, like send her to a girls home for awhile if she didn't want to listen to her mother, then maybe after being there awhile, she might realize that being at home with mom wasn't so bad after all.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
31 May 09
It sounds like the child is very selfish. It seems most teen are all about them. They think of no one else. She will regret it in time. I would just leave her there, if they bring her home, she will just cause trouble to go away again.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 May 09
hi suzzy, hope u are doing well. u are so right we live in a very strange world. i have alot of compassion for the mother of that ungrateful girl. that girl needs a good a$$ whipping. her true colors will come out the first time the foster mom crosses her. have a nice weekend. jo
@puneetchhokra (214)
• India
21 May 09
It is really very good if we talk about care that we have to be in care ..care is best to give to a child or if u do it for urself..Care is the only thgong in which u can stay with fresh mind...Be in care
@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
21 May 09
she is getting all the attition now as before she had to share it with her brothes and sisters and she was gealous she caused trouble to get attition.Some kids are just trouble when they don't get everything they want.Her mother is better off with her where she is maybe someday she will be sorry for treating her mother this way.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
31 May 09
That's how our system works now. When one of my girls was a teen and getting in trouble she was given community service and all. Half the time, she even gave her caseworker a hard time about going to do the community service. Still when the local fair came to town....she and other kids in her group all got to go. It was hard to explain that one to my other girls whom I could not afford to take but were not ones to get in trouble or cause trouble.
@hramdatt (137)
• United States
21 May 09
you can be the best parent no doubt, but when your kids don't get the correct treatment they are looking for then they would turn to help themselves. if you were to live in a country area where people are very poor and have little responsibility then you would see how the children in those community grow up. it all starts from the period before birth, studies show that what ever a mother do during the period of pregnancy that is passed on to the child. they only way to correct they wrong things that was passed on to that individual is to guide the individual from a small age. if you were to show a child a battery and tell him that it's a bomb them that kid would always look at the battery as a bomb until he comes to understand what that device is. so what the individual you are talking about is going through is just lack of good guidance from toddler period. what ever wrong she does she would be punished for that in her own way, no one should punish her.
