Is He Flirting With Me?

United States
May 21, 2009 10:32pm CST
There is a local truck driver who has been coming in where I work. For a few weeks now, every time he comes in he normally will say something to me like, "You need to get to work" or "You sure are working hard today", etc. Well, earlier this week he came in and I had shorts on and he said, "Man, you need to get some sun on them legs". We joked around for a little while about my white legs, it was all in fun. I told him that I normally just burn and I find it hard to get a tan. Well, he came back in today and I had worn jeans to work. He walked by me and said, "What are you wearing jeans for, it's 80 degrees outside?". I said, "Well, you were making fun of my legs the other day, so now I feel ashamed of my white legs so I'm wearing jeans". Now, I was only joking, I just for some reason wanted to wear my jeans today, had nothing to do with what he had said about my white legs. Anyway, we joked around for a bit, so I'm just wondering, is he flirting with me or just trying to have a little fun?
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@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
22 May 09
Hi single, BTW iam single too . Ok seriously i think he is doing it both. I guess flirting is fun if its done in the right way. From your words i think he has a soft corner for u and likes to have a chat with ya. So take it lightly and c how it goes. From my experiance if some one is commenting on u always means thers is something fishy..lol. So u shd feel good that there is a secret admirer in your work place . Cheers, Tutul
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• United States
22 May 09
Hi Tutul! It's always nice to meet a new single man. Thanks for commenting, it's great to get views from both the women and then men. You are so right, I know when I like a guy, I normally start commenting on them, etc, just like this guy is doing with me. Maybe something is up, I'm not sure. I don't want to get my hopes up though, I'm so used to getting my hopes dashed. Nothing ever seems to go my way when it comes to dating, etc. Shoot, I haven't had a date in over a year, I sure could use one too! Thanks again for the comment!
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
22 May 09
aaaww i guess u r just low in confidence. Get your confidence back and everything will get right. Join some aerobics class or something like that and think in the postive way. Hope this time it works for u. Just a small dating tip.. Guys usually like a girl with a smilling face and full of condifence . Good luck! Cheers, Tutul
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• United States
22 May 09
Well, I do tend to smile a lot or atleast I try to. Confidence, hmmm, I've been working on that one and I actually do have a little more confidence than I used to have. I have been trying to workout at the gym, but I haven't had a whole lot of time lately to do so. I have lost 33 pounds, but I've slacked off a bit. I really need to get back on the ball and get my booty in shape. I would love to have the body that I always wanted and never ever had. I hope I can get back on track and get it done soon.
• United States
22 May 09
If he is anything like my grandfather he is just having fun and trying to make you feel good about yourself. He'll joke around with all the women in the stores when we go shopping even if my grandma is around and for him a lot of people go through so much BS in a day he is glad just to make them smile. Plus he probably sees you all the time so you have formed some sort of friendship.
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• United States
22 May 09
True. He does come in frequently at work and he does normally make me smile, so if that is his intentions then he is definitely getting it done.
@phyrre (2321)
• United States
22 May 09
It really could be either. Honestly, it depends on his personality. For example, there's a guy that I work with named Rick and you should hear the two of us go at it. We're always calling each other bums, telling each other to get to work and that we never do anything. He'll walk up and poke me in the side because I'm ticklish there and I tease him about his new hairdo, etc. However, I'm engaged and he's planning on popping the question soon and we have no intentions of hooking up, it's just our personalities. We like goofing around, and we're both that way with many of the other employees at the store. In order to really find out, I'd try watching how he interacts with others. Maybe he just is the type of person that likes to joke around with people? But, then again, there is that chance that he is flirting with you, too. Of course, the best way to find out is to ask if you really want to know. ^_^
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• United States
22 May 09
I can totally relate to the playing around with your co-workers. I do that with many of the men I work with, we don't mean anything by it, it's just something to make the day go by a little faster and it's all in fun. I have noticed that this driver normally only talks to the loader who loads his truck and to me and that's it. That is what makes me think that maybe he is flirting. I guess if he is then he will make more of an effort to get to know me or something, I guess time will tell.
@glords (2614)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I can't tell, I bet if you think he is flirting he is. Women have a sense for flirting. We pretend we don't know to be modest... but if you are questioning it, he most likely is flirting.
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@camomom (7535)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I think it was all just for fun.
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25 May 09
Don't even try to figure it out sweetie! It'll drive you nuts! I've just recently plucked up the courage to let abloke I have fancied for years that I like him! I thought that a friendship would develop but nothing! I spent ages trying to figure out if he was just being nice or was interested. In the end I stepped back and have not contacted him. He hasn't been in touch. I guess that says it all!! There really is no way of knowing what his intentions are. Just enjoy each moment for what it is. Take it as harmless fun and being friendly. If more comes of it then it will be a lovely surprise!
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@tammytwo (4302)
• United States
25 May 09
Honestly, I've been married so long I couldn't even tell if a guy were flirting with me. It is possible he's just making conversation but watch to see how he interacts with the other women. If he does the same with them he probably either is very flirty or just making casual conversation. Everyone is different and everyone goes about things in a different way so he could just be a nice guy that likes to talk with others while going about his day.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
25 May 09
Well, flirting is considered having a little fun..But men can be strange they can be one way one second and another way the next. You are a easy fun person to talk to and maybe they feel comfortable talking to you. If it goes farther that is good. I hope you get alot of dates out of it.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
24 May 09
He is probably joking around with you. I wouldn't classify it as flirting. These truck driver/deliver men come in contact with many women during their day, and probably just have fun with them to make their day more fun and entertaining while they are at work. I wouldn't interpret it no other way than fun joking around.
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@AmbiePam (51157)
• United States
23 May 09
Well, I'm not an expert of course, but I would say it is more on the teasing side, just some fun. I wouldn't call it flirting. But then again, I wasn't there and didn't see or hear it. So ya never know...
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@clocks123 (1227)
• United States
23 May 09
i would give it more time and see where it goes from there. best to you
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23 May 09
Hi singlemommy, i just think he is having fun with you that is all but if he does ask you out maybe he just like you, take it easy, don't read too much in it, play coll and just have a bit of fun. Tamara
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
22 May 09
Sounds like he has found someone to have a little fun with! Unless I was there I wouldn't really know if its flirting or not.....but having a good time or finding someone to have a good time with is sometimes not easy...sounds like the two of you can have a good time...!
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@Beenice (237)
• Canada
22 May 09
I would say its a way a flirting. Is he married? Does he have somebody else, elsewhere to pick on? You know than he would probably leave you alone. He is trying to get your attention, and in the same time trying to know who you are!
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
22 May 09
You can't tell by this, he might just be friendly or then again he might have something else on his mind. But usually you can tell when men are flirting. Just enjoy what you have and don't read to much into it. Blessings
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• Philippines
22 May 09
hi well definitely he is flirting on you coz he is trying to get ur attention,guys are like that first ask something about you, then say something good about you and next is ask you for a date!
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@dragon54u (31644)
• United States
22 May 09
He' trying to have a little fun. If you wanted to get some funny one, you could've said "well, you were so turned on by my fish belly legs the other day that I thought I'd save you the excitement--at least till they get some color." He sounds like fun. Don't expect more and keep enjoying his company. People like that make life pleasant.
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@justmeh (189)
• Philippines
22 May 09
It looks like there's a chemistry between you two. I cannot directly say that he was clearly just having fun cause all my senses tell me he's flirting. You know guys has plenty of ways just get a lady's attention and who knows that's one of his to get you. Cause If he's not flirting with you then why would he always went to your workplace and chat with you?He can actually have a chat to other people at your work but why you?Isn't it too obvious to not notice? Really,there's nothing that you should worry if he's flirting or not cause that's already his problem. The only problem is that if you're already committed then at that time you can be worried. Cause I don't believe that you don't have any feelings for him at all.
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@trisha42 (11)
• Philippines
22 May 09
As a single mom, I often experience that same thing. I think men are just fond of teasing us, to get our attention. Now, if you allow him to get your time, then he wins!
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@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
22 May 09
well, i'm not sure about that because some people have a friendly and easy-going personality and can get along with anybody easily... may be he is the type of person like that... may be just wait and see what he will do to you in the future so that you can make a decision whether he is flirting with you or not... take care and have a nice day...
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