Do you have good temper?

good temper - good temper is good gift to others
@cindyhxf (1447)
China
May 21, 2009 10:52pm CST
Hi friends,do you think you have good temper.never got mad or upset to others?you are peaceful people?i think good temper alwys good gift to others.how do you think?did anyboday hurt you by their bad temper? how to control your bad temper when you are angry?thank you for sharing more with me.
13 responses
@dpk262006 (56734)
• Delhi, India
22 May 09
Cindy! It is difficult to assess oneself, yet I feel that I can control my temper, when there are difficult situations. It is very easy to lose one's temer and I know it very well that its after-effects could be disasterous, therefore, I refrain from getting angry. I am not a Saint, I am an average human being, therefore, despite my best efforts, sometimes I also lose my temper, when kids do silly things. To aovid bitter situations, I leave the scene for few minutes, when I see that I am going to lose my temper.
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@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
Dpk,you are right,we are not a Saint.we lost temper sometimes in life.but don't make the scene last too long to hurt others much .thanks for your honest sharing.
@dpk262006 (56734)
• Delhi, India
25 May 09
Yes, we should not create a scene for a longer duration, then it start hurting others.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
25 May 09
what i feel shy that if my short temper came and i didn't realize it hurt others sometimes.but i will feel regret for the short scene very soon.lol
@lelin1123 (15635)
• Puerto Rico
22 May 09
I believe I'm a very easy person to get along with. I don't usually have a bad temper at all. It takes alot for me to get mad. However, if I see something being done unjusticely then I will go crazy. Otherwise I'm considered the lamb of the family.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
it is good that your are easy going person.you have lot of friends i guess? i was the lamb of the family when i was kid but now i am not because i got mad for some things in daily day.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
23 May 09
ummmmm....i need the solution for the same....i have a very short temper, becoming mad over a small thing, but i am back to normal soon if the other person in front behaves alright....i mean help me to be at rest and peace and doesnt trouble me to go more mad .....i will read out the responses by others here, as it may help me also.....
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
25 May 09
thank you for comment,friend.we just try to do better in life.
• China
23 May 09
Mostly i am a very kind and easy going person.But i used to lose my temper at work ,of course it was not good,however,sometimes i have to ,just want to do my work better.Actually, Bad temper is also bad for our health,we do should keep a peaceful mind as possible as we can,losing our temper rarely work well.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
yeah,we all know it is not good to lost temper to others.but we always did so.
@amylan (188)
• France
23 May 09
well seemingly I do have a good temper and I never tried to yell at others and always get my emotions under control when i'm in public but actually I find out that sometimes being too nice towards others means I get all the unhappy things internalized and it's gonna be hard to just let go of them. Sometimes I envy those guys who burst out in angry but forget everything the next day.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
yeah,i know some persons who got mad today but will be ok very soon the next day.sometimes i did so.short temper i think.
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
23 May 09
i never anger. i think i have a good temper. i always in happy. i treat others very friendly. i don't feel nervous when i chat with others. and i don't feel i don't better than others.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
it is great that you never anger.thank you for your comment.have a nice day
• United States
22 May 09
My temper can be good and it can be bad depending on the situation. The only stipulation I place on my temper is I don't let it get the better of me. I'm in charge not my temper.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
oh yeah,it is your way.do it is you like.thank you for comment
@Jenniferp (210)
• United States
22 May 09
I don't have such a great temper, although, it has gotten better through the years. I have never really been hurt by someones temper, but damn scared! I am a peaceful person and it takes a lot to get me very upset. I have gained patience and understanding with age and for this, I am grateful :)
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
yeah,i think most of people just feel scared about others bad temper.sometimes it came suddenly and didn't why they got mad that way.
@wrangel15 (1443)
• Philippines
22 May 09
I was always praised in my office for being coolheaded. I would say to myself "Really?" Maybe it is true. I always think before reacting to something. I process things on my mind before giving any reaction and I was used to be calm. I just know when my temper is elevating and I can control. A short prayer to God helps. Here's a tip: Before reacting, I always think that being mad cannot help most of the time regarding the current situation. Being calm helps you think clearer and make you solve a problem instead.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
Thank you for your sharing ,friend.i like your tip.you are right.mad cannot help most of the time.
@arcidy (5015)
• United States
22 May 09
Yeah I think I have a good temper since I rarely get mad and dont yell a lot for the most part. But I would say I have a good temper unlike my sister who she gets annoyed a lot and starts yelling wich I think she is just a rude person wich I dont even do anything wrong and I dont get why she is mean to me a lot of times.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
23 May 09
thank you for comment. yes,i don't like people yell to others.it will make me upset if they do that
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
22 May 09
Hi, Both yes and no. I am too fine with fine people and too bad with bad people. for you can never correct some people with temp[er and manner. They deserve some bully and battery and only learn. I never mind bullying people where it should be applied.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
22 May 09
yes,you are right.never think correct some poeplee with temper and manner.they usually did their way to others.but we could correct ourselvs.you are so wise,krajibg.
@asherem2 (257)
• Thailand
22 May 09
i think i do have a very good temper, seldom do i lost my temper in dealing with unreasonable people. i always keep my cool, all i do is just listen to their rantings...with a smile on my face...thinking within myself - "my look at you, having to spend so much energy for something not worthwhile.." yes, sometimes i'm hurt - but i dont let it dictate my disposition - i still continue to do what i need to do.. because i always told myself at the end of the day - the only thing that matters is "whether i make a difference today? or had i been a channel of blessings?" if not, then my day is not spent well... take control of your temper - have you tried not talking any bad words to anybody for a day - not a single word...if you do then you have the ability to control your temper too... and hey! the best thing is ... look for something that is good, nice and praiseworthy around you....then make a compliment to your neighbors, friends - see what happen next.. you'll never have to worry about temper anymore.. and even if its very hard - try to say something good all the time - no"ifs" even if the person is sooo unreasonable - continue to give praise..if you can't find it - look for it its an art actually...
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
22 May 09
good,you always keep your cool,it is good way to control yourself.
@phyrre (2321)
• United States
22 May 09
I've usually got a pretty good temper. I'm pretty laid back and easy going and don't start or get involved in troubles or conflicts until I need to. Basically, if you ever see me mad, beware. It's always the people with the normally even temper that get the maddest when they finally do lose their temper (or that's how it is in my family at least). It takes a lot to make me lose my temper, but once it's gone, it's gone for a while. When I do start to feel like I'm losing my temper, I tend to walk away from the situation. Most times it's nothing that's worth losing my temper over anyway so I don't mind walking away. It's an easy way to diffuse a tense situation and we can both go to our corners until we calm down a bit.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
22 May 09
i have been in good temper most of the time.but sometimes,my short temper came because it was hard to control myself.i knew it was not so good,maybe my short bad temper hurt others's feeling.but i really want to be better to others in life.i just coudn't control myself well sometimes.