For Falling In Love, Is It important to be a friends first?
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23 May 09
Sometimes it might be. I mean, it couldn't HURT the relationship. My current boyfriend was only really "friends" with me for about a week before we started "dating". But then, we are kind of an open relationship. Being friends with the guy/girl is kind of like making sure you're both similar in enough ways to agree, but different enough that it won't get annoying being with them. Usually, friendships grow closer, and either it turns into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, or you become like family to them. Both have happened to me, and I know from experience that it's good to know what you're getting into when you start dating someone. But that's dating. With falling in love, nobody's really sure of that. You can fall in love with friends, and with complete strangers, but you'll only know you're in love with them if you really get to know them.
22 May 09
I think so! Being friends would also mean getting to know each other. I think it will be the first stage of a relationship. It is difficult to love someone without knowing anything from that person and it is like loving a stranger. It will eventually lead to a stronger foundation of love.
22 May 09
Not necessary!You can fall in love with any stranger and try to develop the relationship.But it is healthy and wise to be friends first before being lovers.That way,you know everything about the other and can well decide to make one more step than friendship.You will not regret later.Cheers!