Can you forget your first love?

First Love - First love is a wonderful feelings. When we are in love for the first time the world is much more beautiful and we never forget about it in our hole life.
@arkasen (748)
India
May 23, 2009 7:42am CST
Many people fall in love more than once. I know many of them. They always say that they can not forget their first love. They say that first love is something special. When you fall in love for the first time the hole world seems to be more beautiful than ever before. They are now in another relation but they say that first love is something different and they can never forget about it. Although they are happy with their present relation. What do you think, can you forget your first love? If so, why do you think the first love is always special than the latter love relations.
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• Malaysia
23 May 09
be honest..some time i still remember my first love..because she is very good girl..im very sad went i found her with a new boyfriend..actually i went her to accpent me again..right now im still single..and i hope one day she can be my girlfriend again..
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@arkasen (748)
• India
24 May 09
Wow you are so generous. You will accept her back if she broke up with her present relation and come to you. Don't you feel cheated? Because once she has broke up with you and then again coming to you. Why do you think she should come back to you? What you see better in you than her present boy friend? Have you tried to bring her back or you are just waiting for her to come on her own?
@Kanani79 (22)
• United States
24 May 09
I still remember my first true love. He turned me on to many new things such as poetry and photography and the reality that true love does exist. I still keep in contact with him randomly through myspace. He's married with two step children and I often wonder if things had worked out how different it would be. I don't think I'll ever truly stop loving him. We were both in bad points in our lives and we knew it couldn't work. I was 19 and I'm now 29 so no I don't think you ever get over your first true love. Who knows though if I fall madly in love again I could forget...lol
@arkasen (748)
• India
24 May 09
So you think that if the guy have married you then his and yours life would be much more different than it is now. What would be the changes according to you?
• United States
24 May 09
What would be different in my life? Mainly I wouldn't be living in the basement of my father's house. I look at my life and realize I have so many blessings that I wouldn't have had if things had gone differently. For one I've been raising my nephew for 8 years now and I wouldn't change that for the world. He's a beautiful and bright boy and I know that's partly to do with me. Iwouldn't have met people, I might not have the job I have now. I could have kids. I mean there are so many variables that could have completely altered my life and to be honest I don't think that I'd want to marry him knowing what I know now about my life.
• Philippines
25 May 09
Because first love is the first. It can be the most hurtful, most memorable, the most of the most for a person. We learned from it that is why we always remember it. It is the baseline of all the relationship we had. I have my first crush I can't say he is my first love since it was one sided love, but I loved him and I always remember him. I remember the boy but I don't remember the feelings anymore.
@arkasen (748)
• India
25 May 09
I belief that there is a huge difference between love and crush. Because when you are in crush then you are not getting any response from the other person but when you are in love then you are getting something from the other person and this makes it more and more difficult to forget the person or the feeling. When you are in crush the hole feeling is imagination of your brain but in love all the feelings are real. So in case of crush when the person moves from the sight or when you get engaged in other things then you forget about those feelings but in case of love it does not happens like that.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
26 May 09
I hate to admit this that i still think and cannot forget my ex-lover.I dont know why,maybe because we have many beautiful and good memory together.I still miss it and sad when think about that.
@arkasen (748)
• India
26 May 09
There is nothing to regret unless and until you are faithful and loyal to your present relation. Those are some beautiful moment of your life and they will be in your mind forever. If you give your 100 percent to your present love then I think your partner will also have no problem with that.
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
23 May 09
Hi,I can not forget my first love,too. When I met my first love, I was a pure and innocent girl.And we were just like two children without any pressures and worries. Of course, I hoped some day I would marry him. And we didn't care the background, financial supports, occupation, age,ect. We just had a simple love. Out love lasted two years. Because this is a long story,I will not mention in this place. Anyway, for me ,I will never forget the first love. It is a pure and simple love.It is alway special for me.
@arkasen (748)
• India
24 May 09
You are still with that guy, isn't it. You are saying you got true love with whom you want to live rest on your life in first attempt. Isn't it? I also belief that true love is simple and there should not be any complexity. Because love is a relation of faith, trust. Much you keep your relation simple more you will enjoy the relation and there will be less problem between you and your partner. Best of luck and enjoy the life with your love. And do marry the guy you love.
@yoyozhou (356)
• China
24 May 09
Oh,no. We parted.Now I am single one.But I still think emotion is the most important thing between lovers and it is the only thing that can keep the relationship. I often remember him but I know clearly I must look forward and he is the history. I will get happiness and ture love. You too! Have a nice day!
@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
23 May 09
I believe your first love is always special because it's actually the first time that you've "felt" those feelings before and with everything else, your first time is unforgettable. Twenty years has passed since I've seen my first love. I heard he has married and has 2 kids. He was truly special and we dated in HighSchool. It's been about 20 yrs since I last saw him and I do think of him from time to time and wonder if he's really doing okay and if he's really happy. Although I don't care for him like I did, he is still special to me. So to answer your question, I don't believe anyone ever forgets their first love.
@arkasen (748)
• India
24 May 09
I agree with you that we can never forget our first love and I think most of the people of the world will also agree with you. You must have very strong feeling for that guy when you was in your high school because 20 years is a long time and till now you remember about him and this is only possible when you have real feeling for him one. But what ever we think always does not happen and that why all the love stories does not get happy ending. We always not married to that person whom we love for the first time. Do you think your life would be different if you were married to that guy rather than anyone else?
@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
24 May 09
Well I've thought of him every once in a while and wondered about him but I actually never thought of marrying him. People change as life goes on and I actually enjoy being single at this time in my life and to tell you the truth, even if i encountered him today, I really would not try to have a relationship.
• United States
23 May 09
No you cant forget them and they usually in most cases are always remembered in some why,shape and form. I do remember my frist and i still talk to him as of this day and he is married and has 2 children and his wife does know that we dated and or what notbut she knows that id never try to come between for any reason.It is different between a frist love and someone you love/Care about. Cant explain it really but it just is different.
@arkasen (748)
• India
23 May 09
I think for the first time its like a passion. For the first time you are talking or sharing everything with a boy/girl. First time you are encountering a special relation love. At that time we all come across so many new things in our life that we are mesmerized. But I think from the next time all those feelings become known and that's why latter relations does not get that much gravity like the first love.
@shibham (16977)
• India
15 Jun 09
hi arkasen. i posted a similar discussion in mylot. anyway i never forget my first love. it happened in 1997 when i was a college student. i proposed her but she always neglected me. unfortunatly my first love's results is zero. but now i am happy with my girlfriend. thanks.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
24 May 09
it's not true, i once have my first boyfriend and i could feel that i was in love to him by that time, after we broke up, of course i already forget about him and thankful that we don't have any communications until now. it just depend on the situation.
@arkasen (748)
• India
25 May 09
You don't communicate with that person its right. But don't you ever remember those days. Its sounds a little awkward. Because most of the people do. May be you don't want to think about that person because of hard feelings but how can you forget those wonderful feelings of being with someone for the first time. We always remember ever first experience be it love or anything else.
• China
24 May 09
I bet no one can forget their first love in the world,there is no 'why',just because it is our first love.Actually ,almost every first thing that we have done,we can hardly forgive them,it is juat human nature,i think.love is so important in our lives,and the first love tend to be very pure and romantic that we always can help to recollect it,beacause it is so beautiful.
• China
24 May 09
sorry ,typed the wrong word,'forgive'should be 'forget'. :)
@sfarfan (10)
• Colombia
23 May 09
I think nobody will ever forget something like that, is the first time you woke up to a new world, when you feel that theres no one else in the universe that can make you happy, and the all love feelings are so strong. That little girl or little boy will never leave your head, as a nice and good memory.
@arkasen (748)
• India
24 May 09
Yes you are right. I completely agree with you. For the first time when we fall in love the world become much more beautiful for us. You feel that the other person is only made for you and your relation is made in heaven and you are perfect for each other. You want to enjoy every bit of your life with your partner. You don't want to loose him/her from your sight for a single moment. You feel that it would be very good it you could stay together for all day long.
• United States
23 May 09
My first love was just one of my friends. I was in awe. I never thought that someone could be that amazing. Him seeming that amazing to me was probably just me being in love, but still. Love does some crazy things to you. A ton of my friends wanted us to get together. They told him all this totally bogus stuff that they said I had said (which some of it might have been true, I really can't remember right now). He is still one of my best friends, and I still love him (as a friend and as more, if he would ever want to be), but I am currently in a relationship with a pretty wonderful guy. If anything would go wrong with us, and my first love broke up with his girlfriend, I'm pretty sure we'd be together. He's always said there was something about me that made him want to be with me, but we both thought it would ruin our friendship. Anyway, first loves are amazing, and if you can get past all the "bleh" from the breakup (if there was one), you could probably be the best of friends forever.
@arkasen (748)
• India
24 May 09
I don't think that it is possible to maintain a good friendship with the person you love before or you had crush. I also belief that there can not be very very good friendship between a boy and a girl because when a boy and girl become very very good friend then somehow the relation changes to love. May be both of then are not aware of the fact that they are in love but still they are in love. If you still keep contact with the person you have crush before then I think it will not be able to give your 100 percent to your present relation. Don't you feel something like that?
• Malaysia
24 May 09
yap! if 2nd love is more beautiful..=)
@arkasen (748)
• India
24 May 09
So you think beauty is everything. And while choosing your love, do you only see how beautiful the other person. I think this is not the right way of finding love. The more beautiful the other person the more deep the relation is not at all true. There are so many other things to look for while choosing your partner. Because you can not live the hole life with beauty of the other person again beauty does not last forever. But other qualities of a person lasts for the entire life. I think you need to think a little bit deeply. What do you say?
@liuchen63 (270)
• China
15 Jun 09
No,I cannot forget my first love.It will always be an important part of my life.But I don't think my first love is more special than now.I have a good boyfriend and he loves me a lot.We live a happy life.Maybe we can't forget the first love,but it can't affect our present life.We just keep it as a wonderful and simple memory.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
25 May 09
hello arkasen! ^^ first love really is something special. when i experienced it, it felt like going to school everyday is exciting. i was inspired everyday. everyday i had a new different theme song. facing and listening to teachers everyday seemed more tolerable. in fact, i kinda loved going to school because of my first love. i may not forget my first love. however, i remember the boy but i don't remember the feelings anymore. i always remember him when talking about love. whenever i pass by our old school, i remember him. whenever i pass by the street going to their house, i remember him. whenever i see a soccer field, i remember him. but that's all. i remember him but i can't remember the feelings i felt for him anymore. i will always treasure it as my first love.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
25 May 09
Hi Arkasen, I am 100% agree with what your friend told you. The frist one maybe not the one who you are going to married or someone who is with you now, that's why they are specail can unforgettable. Because you missed them forever, you can't be together any more. All you have its the memories and those happy hours. Because this is your frist love, most of the thing you done with him/her was the frist time, that's also one of the reason first love is so unforgettable!
• Malaysia
25 May 09
I'm will not say that I forget my first love, but I do get over him. My loving feelings towards him completely gone. All our memories just faded away. It was special back then, beautiful and wonderful because a lot of thing I did for the first time with him. First date, first kiss bla bla bla... But somehow I overcome my feelings towards him so that I can move on with fresh start. No regret!
@nrn2003 (661)
• United States
25 May 09
I do not believe that you can forget ANYONE that you love. whether it be a family member, friend, or lover. If you truly love someone you will always remember them and always have some feelings for them. Love is something that never completely goes away. It can grow and fade, but can never be erased from your life.
• Cebu, Philippines
25 May 09
In my case, I can't forget my first love..because it was the feeling being in a cloud 9... It was my first kiss, my first dance, my first of everything..it so happen that he's married now and happy with his life..and I'm happy for him also..
• China
25 May 09
To forget the first love is really difficult ,