which is easier, to accept mistake & ask forgiveness or to forgive?

Hello ckyera!!! Well this seems to be the interesting discussion. I think it depends on what type of mistake we make. I agree that it is hard to accept the mistake and ask forgiveness. In my case, it is easier for me to accept the mistake within myself. But to ask for forgiveness can be difficult sometimes. For small things, it is easier. But if the things are something serious then, I may be searching an easier way in order to ask for forgiveness. If I really couldn't go forward and ask for forgiveness, then what I do is send the sms or send message. Then I will be feeling little bit calm. And then, next time I encounter that person, it is easier for me to say sorry again face to face. I have to say I have the kind heart. I easily forgive people though they make mistake. If I am angry, then I may be angry for a while only. May be at that time, it may be difficult for me to give forgiveness. But shortly after, when I have calmed my self, I would wonder I had forgotten that person. So again, if I meet him/her I would forgive easier. The time for which I may not want to forgive depends upon how big the mistake he/she has make. But anyway, with the time, I will always get calm and forgive anyone finally. Happy mylotting...

wow. what a tough question ckyera.. i think for me, it is easier to accept mistake a long as that mistake doesn't do much damage. I don't really like to ask forgiveness in fact it is hard for me, may be due to my ego...huhuhu... i also have problem to forgive someone who betray me..once they did it i'll remember it forever but i don't go crazy and try to take revenge.

Hi, thanks for the topic. You remind me of something i should done from long ago. It's easier to confess and ask forgiveness than forgive. Why? It's because of the feeling and memory cannot be erased right away, whilst when you are mistaken you can easily confess it, though in fact its not. But for comparison it's 75:25. It's 75 percent for confess and apologise, and 25 percent for forgiveness. However, it's far better when you can forgive. Forgive and forget the matter. If that refers to proper person, it'll give change in his or her life. One day they'll thank you for giving them forgiveness. With your open arms you can save many souls. But, be wise. Not all people is worth for receiving forgiveness, some times rather than forgiveness they need lesson of the living. Life will teach and tell you when to choose what. So be alert. Hope this helps your decesion.

To forgive is much easier i guess ^_^ Asking for forgiveness is not as easy as one thinks, because it takes alot of courage.. THere are things we done whereby we know we definitely wont be forgiven, and thus all the more we wont ask.. BUt when it comes to forgiving, it comes along with time.. As time passes by, our emotion changes along with things and happenings.. So hatred can become pity, while sometimes it can even be healed together with time ^_^ Forgiveness may not come straight away, but it will still come eventually ^_^ Just like a movie i watched and what they said in it, "I forgive,i forget" ^_^

Both. I easily forgive and ask forgiveness because it gives me sleepless night and restless days if I have some unresolved issues towards other people. If I offer forgiveness I mean it from the heart and very honest with it. It is very fulfilling to live life free from troubles and guilt.

Of course accepting one's mistake is a lot easier than asking for forgiveness cause me frankly I don't ask for forgiveness to someone I did something wrong. I"m even used uttering the word SORRY. It's because sorry is just a word people used to say to compensate someone but actually sometimes they're not even sincere doing it. And even so no matter what you do,even if saying SORRY for hundred times you cannot erase the fact that you've already done something wrong to him/her.

Yeah, both of these things are not easy. I think it depends on how bad the mistake is. If I hurt someone due to my big mistake, I'll try to ask for forgiveness. If he/she doesn't forgive me yet, it doesn't matter, I'll try again & again later until he/she can't accept it. If someone hurts me, I know I can't forget it & forgive him/her yet soon, but I know that someday I have to & I'll forget it & forgive him/her. It's not really easy, but I must & I'll try.

Hello there ckyera. In my case, it's easy for me to accept my mistakes and say sorry for it and when I forgive, I usually forget easily, and don't keep grudges. But, there's one instance in my life where forgetting was very hard. It was hard in a sense that I never understood why that person did something that I didn't expect she could do. I could not accept at first that someone close to you could hurt you so bad that it got you down or let you fall down. This was in my thought before: "I may have forgiven her, but the scar will always be there which will remind me of the pain I had when she did that to me." Well, I'm only human. God taught me how to forget.

Exactly right!! these two things are hard to do. It needs humbleness. PRIDE is the main reason why people have a hard time to forgive and even ask forgiveness. Much more if we are deeply hurt? pride crops up our heart and thus, would hinder forgiveness. But if we think of how Jesus deal with people who hurt Him? that is not really easy,, He is the son of God but he was able to forgive the mean people whom He was the once who created them and yet they killed Jesus and hang Him on the cross. That is the hardest thing to think about but God did it. He set a good example for us to follow but I would say, it is really tough. I agree with you.

I think it's easier to forgive that to accept my mistake then ask for forgiveness. When I forgive, I have to mainly take care of two things: that I accept someone's mistakes and then look forward to the mending of friendships. However, for asking for forgiveness, I would have to swallow my pride in order to accept my mistake. It's not the easiest of tasks - and to actually make a promise to myself to never do it again is also tough because there are certain habits that are so hard to conquer. Thanks for the response on my discussion!

hey ckyera..u know what, i think u described it very nicely and correct. i sometimes couldn't find those kind of words. as for my answer, i'd rather forgive and ask forgiveness than to accept and forget a mistake. it's easier than to forget it honestly. and i'm still learning and fix myself better about accepting my own mistake and admit it, coz we're like being controlled by our ego to do that. sometimes we really need to be wise and sincere to be able to admit our mistake, and that's the hardest part. i always forgive others, no matter how bad their mistakes are..but i won't be able to forget what was happened in the past..that's true based in me.. great topic ckyera, happy mylotting

I must say, this is one of the hardest questions I have encountered in Mylot. Lemme see... I think it has to be both. It's just so hard to decide between the two. Knowing my personality, asking forgivenes, won;t be that easy. On the other hand, to forgive someone, whom I know has hit me below the belt, is equally hard. Sory man, it's just so hard to decide between the two.

It's true that most of the time its really hard to accept that we did a mistake that's why to ask forgiveness is another thing that was hard to do all of the time maybe our pride overpowered us. On the other hand, I guessed "to forgive" is easier than to ask for forgiveness because by nature most people were very kindhearted. Oftentimes, if someone asked for our forgiveness all of the time we yield on that specially the women we usually forgive and forget although there are certain limitations but since to forgive is something that was innate to us women then that's the problem most of the time. But it says that we should forgive and forget rather than to carry the baggage all the time.

ya it depends on the situation.. for me to forgive is easier..=) to forgot it takes long time..

well it depends on the type of mistake i have have done..but surely ask forgiveness is much easier than to forgive..whenever you ask for forgiveness you feel that if he/she forgive you then i would be satisfied enough but in case of forgive others...even though you forgive other at so insist..but your trust and satisfaction goes under doubt and you can't be the same as you were earlier with him.. so in my view being forgiven is much easy..

It is indeed very hard to say I am sorry. WE are by nature have ego problems .As for me it depends on the situation , If they intentional hurt me or says something rude than its hard for me to forgive them but they do it without knowing than i forgive them . And if i do something unintentional or so to hurt others than i seek for forgiveness. This way it makes a relationship strong.