dating on the web - is it just that, internet dating or is it more
@crysontherocks77 (1273)
United States
May 23, 2009 10:27pm CST
i wasn't sure whether to put this in the internet section or the people section so here it is. do you take dating on the web seriously or do you just do it to see what kind of response you would get from it. i do a lot of things online include the internet dating and i go through a lot of searches and most of them don't respond back to anyone. so i'm just curious, both on the male and female. cause why do it if you're not going to keep active in it??? are you scared or afraid of what might happen if you actually followed through with it and met someone that you would be with for the rest of your life. cause internet dating is just new to a lot of people and there are good and bad in everyone. for example i knew my ex for almost 3 years before we even dated. i then found out that he was nothing but a moocher and a heart breaker, because he made promises to you that he never kept. he would beat around the bush all the time about girls that he would talk to. grant i would tlak to guys but only because he was doing the same thing. i finally got to where i had to sit down and explain to him my fears of him doing this to all these women he talks to where he meets them online and in chat rooms. i dated another guy that would want to be with someone as long as he was on myspace or yahoo or on another chat room site. but when it came right down to being with a girl in a real relationship he wouldn't tell these girls that i was his girlfriend. so how serious should you take someone like that? i'd like to hear what you have to say or if you've had som experiences i'd like to hear them as well.
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@hollowheart (1572)
• India
24 May 09
Hi crysontherocks. I have tried a bit of these dating stuff though i have stopped it. Its aweful, because in most cases people rarely respond and even if they respond, more than 90% are fake. The information including the gender is fake. They are oftn males with female names just for the sake of fun. Because real girls rarely talk on these dating sites or on chats. But ya guys do it.
I stilll remeber being faked by a guy who was using a female name.
I liked her (him) and we used to speak but ultimately he came out saying that he was actually a guy and just having fun. However we have become friends now.
So dont worry. In most cases the girls are actually guys u see there.
Wonde why guys cant maintain their genders. hahahahaha..
@crysontherocks77 (1273)
• United States
24 May 09
i'm not worried about it at all. what bothers me though is these teenagers that get so involved in it that they get killed or if they live have a really bad oredeal to live through because of it. what bothers me is that like one guy i talked to, talked a good line of crap--- then when i went to see him, his mom came to his house and informed us- me and my friend that came with me-- that was in the process of a divorce and that he met this woman just like he met me and he was trying to convince me to let him come live with me and i was like no. i had somenoe live with me for 4 or five months or so and although some was good, he used that to try to control me and try to control the house and my mom was the one paying the bills. anyways, it wasn't worth it and people wonder i'm not married yet. lolanyways, that's a whole nother discussion in itself.
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@hollowheart (1572)
• India
24 May 09
I completely understand that. Its sad that people r being so untrue nowadays and at the same time i feel people should not really trust on internet so much, specially till u r too sure of how true things r.
That would be safer then.
@engle2192 (3)
• United States
25 May 09
I think this is a very good topic to talk about. To tell you the truth i think internet dateing is rely good if you are rely interested in meeting people in a new way. Like my mom was doing it for a while and she finaly found someone and they have been together for over 2 years now. They are very very happy with eachoer and there not ashamed on how they met. But if you just meet someone on the internet and ur talking and the 2 people never meet and u say your going out i think thats wrong. You need to meet someone befor you event begin to do that because you have no clue if there telling u the truth over the internet. I mean who knows if your event looking at the same person, it could just be a fake pic.... but thats just my opinion.
@frozenimage (464)
• United States
24 May 09
Nothing wrong with online dating. It is just not recommended as pictures and info are easily manipulated online.
@TrvlArrngr (4044)
• United States
24 May 09
There are a lot of scammers on these sites but I think that is true will most online sites. I have two friends that met thru online dating sites and they both got married!!!
In Tampa my one friend met someone local and they hit it off and got married. Then I moved to NC and my other friend found someone in Maryland and they wrote, then spoke, then did weekend visits and then he moved up there and they got married. I think it is great when it works out.
I, on the other hand, have not had much luck. You will find that many use false pictures or old pictures of themselves then when you meet they look nothing like their profile.
I found one site that I visit that I went to when I broke my heel and was stuck in bed. It is justsayhi.com and i think they just changed the name to mingle2. no pressure here - everyone mainly there for friends. If you look at it try the forums. Oh, and it is free to join as well. No sense paying for something when the pay sites do not work. Have fun.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
25 May 09
hello crysondarocks77,
you would ask why people do internet dating when in fact there is the physical and more natural way of meeting someone to date with.. not the virtual type which is the internet dating.
i guess, the fun of meeting people and various types of characters is very exciting. but if you say, finding the right person to be a partner, think carefully, think twice. internet dating is a vehicle. but you will not know the sincerity unless you get to know the person and talk to him for a certain period of time. am not an expert here but as one female, isnt it nice for a man to call you beautiful instead of hot during the early times of chat? or call you back when you hang up on him?
be it internet dating or meeting the natural way, there are flaws. you will never know the character of the person unless you live together in one roof.
