Why are children used as wild cards, for parents to get what they want?

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A couple finds out they are pregnant, they are either overjoyed, or over stressed with the news.. After the child is born things seem to be ok, but there is a lot more stress on the relationship... Sometimes the relationship can not survive.. Then the child is put into the middle, regardless of how many procautious have been taken to keep the child out of the problem between the parents.. Then each of them going their separate ways; moving on with life.. Things are fine until one or both of them have new partners.. Then their are issues like when the child should be here or there. Who has more say in what the child can and can not do... where the child will live, and how often the other parent will see the child... Games are played between the parents to "get back" or make the other parent pay for their own miserories... Children are the ones to suffer in the end.. How hard is it to put all emotions about the other parent aside, so the CHILD can have a LIFE with BOTH parents? (granted there are some sitations where one parent is abusive, lets just say in this situation there is no abuse) Why are children's needs so easily pushed ASIDE to get back at the other parent? Is it that hard to get along for the sake of the child? Face it, there are two parents for the child, and the child would feel lost without both.. What are your feelings on this???