Friend Discussion

@lampar (7584)
United States
May 26, 2009 11:38am CST
Mylotters, do you work hard to respond to your friends majority of discussion, just to show that you want to support them and hope that they will involve in your discussion too, but many times new member/friend does not seem to care about responding to friend discussion and comment to your response,but keep requesting your friendship; should you just delete them after a month since they are no use to keep as friend in your friend list, and wasting your time in mylot. Please share your opinion.
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@suprema (297)
• Philippines
27 May 09
While I don't always respond to my friends' discussions (a lot of them are inactive anyways), I never delete them. And I also accept all the invitations I receive. What do I lose if I don't? :)
@suprema (297)
• Philippines
28 May 09
That's a lot of friends - he/she probably won't notice you.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
27 May 09
Yes you will not lose anything for accepting invitation unless you want to respond to all your friends discussion, then you spend long hours supporting your friends. If you don't intent of doing that, it has no effect. I have many friends that is active but they don't respond to my discussion but only in starting discussion, some of them had several hundred to thousand of friends.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
28 May 09
Anyway, those i deleted has at least hundred of friends if not thousand, it won't matter or even notice by her, so i am not hurting anyone feeling or costing her any earning in mylot!
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 May 09
I don't add users to my list so that they are 'useful' to me I add them if they request me because they have seen something they like about what I said and I request when I see a user that strikes me as intersting and I want to know them better. I have so many new users added to my list recently that it is impossible to keep up with anything any more, even my own discussions There are so many users active, so many places I want to be and so many PMs to respond to that sometimes lately I lose the plot. If they are friends they will bear with me - if not well they weren't
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 May 09
Oh I am weel aware as to the meaning of 'friend' I must have misunderstood this phrase you posted '..should you just delete them after a month since they are no use to keep as friend in your friend list...'
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
26 May 09
That is what i think make it possible for me to respond to all my friends discussion, since my friend list is getting longer every day. Nothing personal about that. cheer! Happy mylotting!
@lampar (7584)
• United States
26 May 09
Lucky you, but nobody mention about 'useful' friend here, it is about mutual support, that is what friend means. cheer! Thank for the response.
@pingi68 (304)
• Italy
27 May 09
i noticed that all of my friends do not answer to all of my posts. personally, i answer to interesting posts...if i do not have nothing to say, it is not useful to answer and give a comment.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
27 May 09
That is expected , i find it impossible to do it when i have hundred of friends previously, even i spend several hours every day trying to do that. Thank for your response.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 May 09
I welcome anyone who wishes to be my friend and I don't set a rule that they must response to my discussions unless they can relate well to the subject of my discussions. Likewise, I am not obligated to response to all my friends discussions and this is a mutual understanding that should be accepted by both parties involved. I don't seek friendships with fringe benefits but just being friends on a goodwill basis. I accept anyone unconditionally even though sometimes they may disagree with my choices of discussions.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
27 May 09
That is right, no rule for my friend . Everyone is welcome. Thank for the response.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
30 May 09
i do response t oall my friends discussions as long as i know what to say. i support them all. sometimes there are people who does not support me back but i still do respond to their discussions. i cleaned up my list before and as of now i am still getting a friend request and i still am accepting them and notifying them all on. i was quite busy this past few weeks and now i am back and started a discussion. i will soon clean up my list again if it is necessary.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
31 May 09
Yes, me too. I like all my friends and i support them all the way! Thank for the response. Happy mylotting!
• Indonesia
27 May 09
hmmm i dont think so..i will response to whatever or whoever posts that is interesting for me. i wont response at my friend's topic if i dont feel like it..and i will response to not-in-my-friendlist's topics if it's attract me. mylot is a bit different with other discussion site, in here i'm ok eventhough i have lots of friend requests or friends that i havent even knew bout them, nor ever talk with them. i have no problem with that. but if in hi5 and facebook, i will filter the friend request..
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
27 May 09
Me too, but majority of my friend discussion i will contribute my two cents. I also respond to zero response member to help them out if i understand what they are talking about. Thank for your response. Happy mylotting!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
27 May 09
Yes, I try to respond to all my friend's discussion. I won't respond only if it is not at all interesting to me and I don't have anythign to say. I also give postive rating and best responses to them. I also make it a point to respond to non-friend's discussion. If I see somebody have given a valuable response, I will got to his page and respond to his discussions, thus make new friends. Sometimes it makes me sad if I don't get responses from friends and I respond to many of my friend's discussions. But that is temporary, I have lot of friends, we help each other. It is a win-win situation.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
27 May 09
Yes, it is frustrating to just respond to my friends discussion but receive no reply and response from them, it is sad to know my friend is like that. it is nice to have win -win situation, but not everyone think this way here. I used to have a long list of friend, n i spend too much time in responding to many of their discussion, but now i have deleted some who are not responsive, so i don't spend too much time in mylot. except for my true friends. thank for your response. Happy mylottting.
@biman_s (1060)
• India
27 May 09
I try to respond or comment to all my friend's discussions but it is not always possible for me to comment back to all friends every time. I have a lot of friends and I am making new friends every day. I spend about 1-3 hours every day on mylot and in that time I try to do my best. I don't delete friends that I make, I am fairly new.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
27 May 09
That is right with several hundred in the list, it is impossible to do that even if you spend eight hours in here, Thank for the response.
• Philippines
26 May 09
Yes I do respond to my mylot friends discussions and I give them positive rating and even best response ratings. It doesnt bother me if they dont respond to my discussions, I dont take it personally and It's ok, there are a lot of members that would respond to my discussions anyway. Cheers!
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
26 May 09
I hear you loud n clear. cheer! thank for the response, happy mylotting!
@diamania (7011)
• Netherlands
26 May 09
I never delete anyone unless they spam me with their mails. I spend a lot of time replying to my friend's discussions just hoping they react on my discussions too. And perhaps I get some contacts that come in handy.
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@lampar (7584)
• United States
26 May 09
Me too, but i deleted my friends after a month of no response from them to keep my friends list manageable for me, every month my friend list is becoming longer making it harder for me to support all of their discussions since i am working hard to respond to their discussions whenever i log in, only in this way, i can really make a different to my friends discussion. Thank for the response. happy mylotting!