Will you be upset?

United States
May 26, 2009 6:01pm CST
Would it upset you if a Mylot friend didn't respond to your discussion? Do you have a friend who rarely responds to your discussions even though they start some everyday and you respond to theirs all the time? I do my very best to respond to all of my friend's discussions, at least the ones I get notifications for! Sometimes I just can't answer each discussion. I'm not a gardner, so if you ask about how a flower grows, sorry, I cannot answer. I won't respond to your discussion just so that I can tell you I don't know, that's just tacky!! Many of my friends are really great about responding to the majority of my discussions, and I do my best to return the favor. What about you? Do you try your best to respond to all your friends discussions? Do you respond even if you don't know much about the topic? What will you think if your friend doesn't respond to your discussion?
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21 responses
@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
27 May 09
Hey kats~ I try to respond to my friends discussions even if I don't know much about the subject matter. I do get a bit put off if my friends don't respond to my discussions! Even if you don't know about the subject it is just polite to acknowledge the fact that you see the discussion and you at least say that! I still respond to certain peoples discussions even when they don't respond to my discussions, but I am kind of upset that they didn't take the time to bother acknowledging that I started a discussion since I hardly start any to begin with!
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
27 May 09
Same here....I also like to have them acknowledge that I responded.....
• United States
27 May 09
Some friends forget to turn on their notifications. I too have at least 1 friend who rarely responds to my discussions, yet I've always responded to the majority of hers. In the end I chalked it up to the fact that she doesn't have her notifications turned on.
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@sacmom (14250)
• United States
27 May 09
It might be the polite thing to do, but wouldn't it be against the guidelines, especially if you are posting a response that doesn't even relate to the topic at hand?
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@max1950 (2313)
• United States
26 May 09
when i see them yes i respond but i think it has to do with what time of day their on and what their daily routine is. i see my friends sometings not for months then 1 day i catch their discussion and respond. but their are a few i keep up with by message. the crazy one's like me--------- ;)
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@ajithlal (14614)
• India
28 May 09
I also sometimes responds to the discussions my friends started, which I like to reply. Sometimes there will be discussions, we don't have anything to reply.
@sacmom (14250)
• United States
27 May 09
No, I wouldn't be upset. There are plenty of people on my friends list that don't respond to my discussions. There could be any reason why this is. But I certainly don't hold it against them. If I find their discussions of interest I will respond to it. I don't expect them to return the favor. I may not respond to a lot of discussions in a day's time, but I have my own reasons as well. One is because I have a family. Another is because I am on dial-up. I never understood why some people get upset if their "friends" don't respond to their discussions. If they want more replies, then they better start adding more friends.
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
27 May 09
For me this experience has turned out like this.....someone answers my discussions all the time....we finally accept each other as friends.....once I start answering their discussion...the quit answering mine? Go figure. Then they can't figure out why after a while I don't answer their discussion....? I try to answer most of my friends discussion...the ones I have the notifications turned on....I can't have all of them on at once or I would be sitting here all night and I just don't have the time. If a friend does post something about a subject I don't know a thing about it I might just say...stopping by to say hi.....but not all the time.
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@gemini_rose (16192)
30 May 09
It does not upset me, but then again I do not set many discussions these days. I only come on mylot now when I go through my emails, I answer to the discussions that are in my inbox. I have to say though that yours are the ones I look out for all the time as I enjoy most of all the ones that you set!!!
• United States
30 May 09
Aww, I feel so special! You must have been enjoying the break I'd been giving you this past month, lol. It just dawned on me the other day that I'm not going to make payout again! This will be the 3rd month since I've been on Mylot that I'm not making payout, and of course this month our bills are rather tight and that extra cash would be helpful. So, I'm back to busting my fanny as we really need the cash.
@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
27 May 09
I have lots of people who have requested to be my friend who have never once answered a discussion that I have posted. Some of them are into high tech and things that I cannot answer ansd I am wondering if I should delete them as friends. If I cannot answer a friend's discussion as I have nothing to contribute then I don't answer. Sometimes however, I drop by the post just to say hello. I don't regard this as tacky as I just want hem to know that if I could answer then I would. Different cultures have different customs. I do try to answer all of my friend's discussions but it has not been easy this past few weeks because of the stress of work. I appreciate the friends that I do have but it appears that so many of them are leaving mylot and I miss them. Or lese they are not posting or responding regularly. I don't think anything if a friend does not rspond to a post of mine but if they never respond then why should they be my friend? Sorry if I am rambling. Only have ten minutes before work begins. Blessings
• United States
27 May 09
I don't like to have my friend's page cluttered with people I never speak to, so I do periodically go through and delete names I don't recognize. If I don't recognize them that means we're not participating in each other's discussions very much. Granted I give it some time before I delete them, I won't delete someone I added yesterday. However, I have gotten to a point I won't even add a friend who's name I don't recognize. I'd like to see them around Mylot a bit before I add them as a friend. I'm not here to have the most friends on Mylot!
• Canada
1 Jun 09
Even my best friend in the whole world is on here and we don't always respond to all of each other's discussions. No, I don't ever expect that all my friends will respond to all my discussions. We can't, there are too many. And, I guess, we respond to stuff that either interests us or we have some knowledge to share with them. Not every topic illicits a response from everybody. But we always hope, right? Don't take it to heart, dear. There are worse things that can happen on here, like trolls following you around and always putting nasty comments on your discussion, or tagging them in a nasty way, or impersonaters. But a good idea for a topic anyway.
@KrauseHome (36748)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Personally I have a large Friends list, and do not expect everyone to always respond back to the New discussions I start, but I do have some I think I have responded back to more discussions then they have of mine. I guess most of it is stemming from the amount of time I have to be active in here, versus what type of discussions others are starting in here as well.
• Finland
30 May 09
I wouldn't be upset at all because I don't do that either. I only respond to interesting discussions, not all my friends have started because very often my friend starts a discussion which doesn't interest me a little bit.
@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
28 May 09
i will not get upset if my friends will not respond to my discussion... maybe because they are not interested in it, or cant say anything... its really okay with no, i dont get bothered by it. not all discussions started by my friends i get to respond because sometimes, i cant really say anything about the topic... even if i have read it twice already. i just reply those that i can say something about... i hope they do understand.
@deebomb (15319)
• United States
27 May 09
I don't get upset when friends don't respond to my discussions. I don't respond to a lot of my friends discussions. That's not why I have them on my friends list. They are there to give me a greater variety of discussions to respond to. I do have some friends that respond regularly and I try to respond to any that they start. I don't start a lot of discussions. So i like having greater number to respond to.
@dfollin (15366)
• United States
27 May 09
I would not be upset,unless it was habitual.But,then again maybe that person has a good reason.Maybe the discussion topic does not interest her/him,maybe they are pressed for time.Then on the other hand maybe it is not a good reason like feeling that she or her will be wasting their time and getting less money if they reply to you instead of starting a new discussion.If I have time personally,not figuring that I could make more money if I don't I will even attempt to answer a discussion even if I do not know much about it.
• Philippines
27 May 09
i never had that feeling of being upset with my stay here..we would't know why, so i guess let's think of the possible reasons before jumping to specultions that they forget..somehow other friends will surely glad to respond to their cirle of friends first but some are sneaking time only and at times they only answer what the remaining rime can occupy..there are some who gives time to read but doesn't have any inputs so, rather than be out of topic they choose not to respond.. we wouldn't know their reasons but its good when you think of some good reasons so you wouldn't be upset.let us be more understanding and not demanding.
@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
27 May 09
I realize that everyone has their on life, and just because I know something about a topic and are asking for more information on it, doesn't mean that my friends know anything about it. I try to respond and add a link even if I don't know about something, just because I am on here for the money. I'm not going to just respond to make the money though, I do try to help or suggest to a person that they should ask another member that I've seen make a lot of discussions on that topic.
• United States
27 May 09
I do my best to respon to my friends topics as they appeal to me. I usually look for topic my friends have started first before I look for those of non-friends. It doesn't bother me if a friend doesn't respond to a discussion it only bothers me if no one does at all! Then I wonder if my topic was that boring or whatever?
@sharksfin (1095)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I might feel upset, but, I have to keep reminding myself that they're not obliged to respond if they don't feel like it. I mean, if there's really nothing that they can say about my post, why insist just to try to please me, right? I'd appreciate it more if they respond because they have something worthwhile to share than force themselves and yet they can only say things that don't make sense at all.
@ajithlal (14614)
• India
27 May 09
I do sometimes get upset when someone doesn't respond to my discussions. Sometimes some people or friends doesn't respond to the discussions I have started. I have seen some of the friends used to respond continuously to the discussions I have responded. I most times try my best to respond to most of my friends discussions.
@bybun46 (19)
• Indonesia
27 May 09
honestly, i little bit upset if my friend especially my best friend didn't respond my topic even he/she can't understand that topic. but i try to take another side like i believe that many people respond my topic even the are not my friend. i think topic is really important because sometimes topic can make some people offended. as i do i will respond the topic that i think it is interest and i know it. beside, i can respond a booming topic like facebook, my lot, and etc. it's very exitiing to respond many topic.
• Philippines
27 May 09
I won't be upset. It's ok with me because I rarely start a discussion lately.lol But it is really ok with me if they rarely respond to any of my discussions. Yes, of course I always do respond to their discussions. It's the first thing that I do. I go to my friends' started discussion and respond to them. But sometimes if the discussion doesn't interests me or I have nothing to contribute to the discussion I just leave it.
• United States
27 May 09
Okay, I think I have overlooked something- I shouldn't have. I never pay attention at all to my friends at all. As a matter of fact I really have not delved into starting discussions either. I just like to help, or comfort people when I think I can be beneficial to a discussion. Now I feel obligated to go see what my friends are doing. Anyways thanks, nice topic now I know where I need improvement