Hanging Up On Spouse

Canada
May 26, 2009 8:28pm CST
I really hate it when my husband hangs up the phone on me. He always harps on the sme thing over and over and when I try to answer him after awhile I get a little short with my answer ( which is the same ) and he gets mad and hangs up on me. Any suggestions on what I should do? Should I phone him back or wait for him to phone me. I have tried to talk to him about harping on things I can not do anything about but its no good.
7 responses
@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
28 May 09
My husband wouldn't even dare hang up on me or there would be hell to pay, lol. Sometimes, when he feels that the discussion isn't going anywhere, he would say, "Let's talk about this later, okay?" before saying goodbye. I don't think you should call him back after he hung up on you. I suggest making it clear that you find the behavior unacceptable. He may be the temperamental one and you the pacifist, but show him that you wouldn't stand for any rude treatment. HTH. :)
@Philbo (579)
• Canada
28 May 09
If you are doing this a lot with each other maybe your conversation shouldn't be happening on the phone. Probably should talk about these things face to face. I wouldn't call him back. Wait to discuss it when you are together.
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
27 May 09
Hey starlight! I know how you feel! Sometimes me and my boyfriend get to that point too! He doesn't really like to argue, but every now and then he will hang up on me and that just makes me angrier! And then I call him right back to continue the fight and he usually won't answer so I wait until he gets home to continue the fight which to me makes it worse! He also has a habit of harping on little stupid things! He will go on and on about stuff that isn't worth talking about and won't let them go! I wish I could give you some advice, but I still haven't exactly figured out what is the best way to handle it myself! But, the one thing that I can tell you is to keep talking about it! If you don't discuss it things will just get worse and you will just keep getting angrier! So try to keep the lines of communication open! That does seem to be the best way for me!
@harmonee (1236)
• United States
27 May 09
I think it's incredibly rude to hang up on someone, no matter what. I understand getting frustrated, but it's not hard to say "I don't like the way this conversation is going. I'm going to let you go and talk to you later." That's what my husband and I do. That way we can both chill out and think about how we can change our attitudes. It works out much better than hanging up and making even more tension.
• India
27 May 09
Well I think you should just hang up on him before he can complete his say. My hubby does the same thing though he does not harp but he's so bothered about his mobile bill that most of his responses are just hurried monosyllables. I get so pissed off on that..I mean I have called only because I have something to say...I am not a love-struck teenager! The last time though I hanged up on him and he called back and its been a while since then when he gives me a patient hearing and says something of his own.
@Wizzywig (7858)
27 May 09
Personally, if my husband hung up the phone on me, I wouldn't call him back. I would tell him that, if he wasn't going to listen to my response, then he shouldn't bother to call in the first place. Sometimes it can be too difficult to discuss an issue without either/both parties getting upset/defensive or interrupting each other. I've found that writing down how you feel - without making it sound like a list of complaints - sometimes works better as it can be easier to express yourself & you can say all you need to without the distraction of the other persons tension. I hope you can work things out.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
27 May 09
hello there! well it's all just a matter of proper communication between you two and discuss things out open-mindedly. there are just issues that cannot be resolved by sulking or ranting--well this is my experience as a wife for 17 years now to my hubby and yes, communication truly works.