i'm losing my patience

@mamalev (264)
Philippines
May 26, 2009 8:46pm CST
this has happened again and again and i'm just too stressed out so i lost patience. My brother and I live in the same house we both have 1 kid each mine is a boy turning 3 y/o his is a girl 6y/o. what this brat kid of his does is to play with my kid when mine has something she wants and when my little boy has nothing she fights with him. my brother does not see what his girl does because she's a smooth criminal. then this one time i have had enough she tried to poke my boy's eye with their toy so i pulled her hair. my brother comes to her defense and said i shouldn't have done that. hell, i would do that to anyone i don't care how old or young the person is i still would defend my young one.
7 responses
• Canada
27 May 09
I agree with you stepping up and coming to your sons defence,but pulling her hair?That's a little immature.You say she's 6?try talking to her,she's old enough to understand
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I agree but i really lost it because we've been stopping her lots of times, that's what i told my brother she's supposed to understand better than my son because she's twice his age.
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• Canada
27 May 09
And you are right,she is older and should understand I think it's time for you and your brother to st down and discuss this problem
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
27 May 09
I can understand you stepping in and doing something but pulling her hair, really, that is what a child does. Why not simply remove her from the situation or remove your son, tell her that if she can not play nice then she can not play at all. It is not up to you to punish his child. Unless you two have an agreement.
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
27 May 09
my bad as i've said i lost patience but fyi i didn't pull her hair to punish her but that was the first thing i could grab of her to avert her attention and it was not like i was trying to get her hair off her head.
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
27 May 09
I know it is just not teaching the right thing. I did not think that you would try to hurt her on purpose. Hang in there it will get better. It does seem that you and your brother need to have a very long heart to heart
• India
27 May 09
You sure is a protective mother.But kids do play tough sometimes.Its better to keep a little distance when they fight. Remember how you were when you were a child?
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
28 May 09
yeah i remember when i was in 2nd grade i was always the quietest kid who don't know how to stand up for herself that's why i still carry a little scar on my face and that's exactly what i've been preventing to happen to my one and only child. i've seen that brat try to do that to my kid a couple of times and i've every so often told her that it is bad, and what happened was just the last straw.
@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
27 May 09
I think the best solution would be keep the two kids apart, and that you can do only by you and your brother not living together, because his kid is also very young and cannot be blamed, once I also faced the same problem with my relative, her kid was very violent towards mine and in the end we decided to vacate the house..... hope this helps
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
27 May 09
i'm thinking of that too it's not healthy for all of us to live in the same house but as of now we can't afford to that's why we're stuck here. that kid has been doing that to my kid and i've already told her mom about it. she's hurting my child when she thinks no one sees them but when my son would do the same thing to her she would overact as in cry out loud. and my bro told me that my kid was the one who's always hurting his kid. and the nerve of him to question my parenting style with my kid when he is creating a monster, a spoiled brat an overacting drama queen. sorry, i want to get this out or else. i would get out of this house the moment my hubby and i can afford to and i'm not going back for sure. it's better to have relatives out of the picture so i can focus on my own family.
• China
27 May 09
Yes,you really losing your patience,you should talk about with your brother,I think that you all wrong?you should talk with you little girl or boy too,because your brother and you will live in this same house for a long time
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I understand that you are in a very hard situation but then the best solution would be talking to your bother and explain what you want to happen. You are both parents and you need to understand that it is not easy to raise kids. Kids will pass the stage where they are at their naughtiest and do not understand what is right or wrong. So better talk to your brother and also to the kids. He should also explain to his daughter that giving to younger ones is important. The six year old girl could comprehend better than a 3 years old. So you have to teach the kids how to give and share and not fight. I too sometimes lose patience with little brothers before but then now that I have a son who is turning eight months old, I know that he is now starting to explore all the things around him. There are some kids from the neighborhood who visits him and they sometimes hurt him but I just get my son out of them and minimize playing with older kids. Kids who are older usually feel more powerful over little ones so they should be undergoing a very serious talk so that they won't harm others. And also my advice to you is to prolong your patience because all parents need that. Talk to your brother about your problem my friend. That is the best thing to do.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
27 May 09
I can't give you any good advice, I just wanted to say that I know how frustrating it can be. My sister and I had differences when our children did not get along. Fortunately we did not live together. We just got together to spend time as a family. I can't imagine how things would have been if we had tried to live together back then. I hope things get better for you.