it is wrong to love someone more than your self.
By cainam
@cainam (493)
Philippines
May 26, 2009 10:34pm CST
i've realized lately that the more you love the more you become vulnerable to pain.. i'm now with this guy for more than a year and it seems that everyday is challenge for me to keep our relationship. but the more i give the more he do'nt appreciate. i even sacrificed career opportunities for him but he's always saying that i should not expect anything in return from him coz he did'nt ask me to so those things for him in the first place.. the more i try to hold on the more he pushes me away.. it is really tiring but i still have to try coz there would always be hope while i'm still alive. i know that i'm insane as everybody say. but i can't let him go. i'm now just trying to learn how to love my self a bit and enjoy things and be with people around me aside from him.
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6 responses
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
27 May 09
It's never right to love someone more than your self. you should really leave something for yourself. But then that's a case to case basis. If you're talking about a wife or a husband, or the entire family, then i guess we should really love them more than ourselves. But not to the extent of neglecting ourselves of our basic needs and social needs. I guess loving just enough is the key. Loving too much could be dangerous in a sense that we can become obsessed with him/her.
@med889 (5941)
•
29 May 09
It is normal to be hurt when you love someone more than yourself.
I love myself the most and when my finger is cut, I can even cry. So when we have the same love with someone we can feel very hurt if something happens so don't you worry you are not the only one to be in this situation.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Well I guess on your part yes it is already wrong when you start loving others more than yourself. You deserve to love yourself more in your case. I believe loving this unlovable person seems to make your life more harder. I do not think that we were born here to offer our lives to someone that doesn't love us.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
29 May 09
Hi cainam, when your in love there is always pain, if your not in love there is no pain, it's usually there together. But even you love him that much you also have to love your self and value it. Not because your in love your gonna forget your self that you still have your own life to achieve.Maybe if he can't see it now, maybe he could see it later how he is important or part of your life. We can fall in love and it helps as to be a better person, learn from this pain. Your not insane, but blinded by your feelings and emotions. Yes his kind a right that telling you that you can't ask for a return with what you show him. But there is also a limit cainam. But it's kind a bad just your life revolving to him. You still have your own life to live and make it. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@gypsywoman344 (214)
• United States
27 May 09
Many years ago I was in a relationship just like this. He said basically the same things. We were together 8 years and I don't regret it. I learned an awful lot from this man and we still keep in touch infrequently. He was always honest about who he was and I just didn't want to listen. I finally knew it was time to move on.He was still in my head for many years after. You have to do whats right for you and in your own timing. Listen to that inner voice and when it tells you you are not benefitting any longer - then make your plans.
Good luck, Blessed be, and listen to yourself.
