Wont be getting married anytime soon

United States
May 27, 2009 12:28am CST
I want to get married but the one I am with is not very dependable. I am afraid if we get married, I will be the one paying all the bills and taking care of everything on my own. That is how it is now. We have been together for 11 years and nothing has changed, so it looks as if I will not be getting married anytime soon. I am a smart woman. I wont jump into a marriage just so I can have a husband. I need to make sure that it is the right decision before I commit the rest of my life. He has asked me to marry him many times but I always say no. Does anyone else have a similar story to tell?
4 responses
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
27 May 09
Do you love him?
• United States
27 May 09
Yes I love him. We have been together almost 11 years. However, unfortunately, Love doesn't pay the bills, and I have 3 kids here to support. I am notone of those women who wants a man to take care of her...but meeting me halfway would be nice. lol
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
28 May 09
Even I am not ready to marry to a girl who is financially higher than I. I would like if my wife will not be working and if she is working she must have not be earning more than I.
@msBetty (84)
• Philippines
28 May 09
somehow, i can relate. I keep my faith of having him changed as years pass by. But guess what? its still the same. We're married now, thats why the least thing I could do is to accept him as he is. And be the strong person that i used to be...
• United States
28 May 09
And that proves my point. That is why I am not going to get married.
• Philippines
27 May 09
I suggest that you have to tell your future husband (current bf) about your situation. You should tell the truth in order to sort things out. I think you are assuming now since you are just afraid but never bother to ask him yet? If I were you, I will ask him since I am frank and honest and I want to make things in order so better to something about it. hehe.. Don't keep yourself if questions are not answer yet. Hope it helps.
• United States
27 May 09
We have talked about it lots of times. Our main issue is money. He grew up in a family as the only boy and the youngest child, so he has been babied his whole life. His parents give him whatever he needs and they still do. Because of this, he hs never had to be the provider and he doesn't know how I guess. He promises to do better but it always goes right back to me being the breadwinner.
@stafei (98)
• China
27 May 09
If you just want to get married to have a husband, that is unnecessary. each girl all need a man love her, can help her,you may not decide when to get married unless you really he is the rignt person can stay together with you for future time.each people has some disadvantage, if you can change him, that is better, if you can't change, just ask yourself, how much you love him and how you can bear him. i'm still waiting the right time to get married, it need a lot of money and energy to creat a new family in China.
• United States
27 May 09
Yeah. I agree. I simply do not see the point in getting married if there is a chance that it might not work out. Here in America, our divorce rte is really high! My boyfriend and I get along just fine right now, and like I always say. If it isn't broke, don't fix it. lol.