anyone afraid of love, after a while?

United States
May 27, 2009 1:06am CST
Hmm.. if you have been keeping up with my post.. it seems i keep on bringing up problems.. :( well i am wondering, that if i will be lucky enough to be with the girl i am for a very long time, i love her, i am sure she loves me, but it feels like we are slowly departing.. and it hurts so much, i dont think its because we are comfortable with each other, i mean we are, but its like.. she isnt the same girl, and i am trying to do something special but its like.. she wont act as surprised and happy when i make her something, or do something for her.. i guess i just need someone to talk about my problems with lol.. well umm anyone ever feel this way?
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10 responses
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
27 May 09
Hi, seems that this subject..about love i mean is ethernal. I say all the time, and i will repeat now again, in a relation, in special in a love relation communication is a must. Who don t want or can t communicate , will lose this wonderful feeling, and he or she will lose maybe the best feeling in the world. Who is to proud, stoborn, or who really don t know to communicate, will lose his love. Maybe in that moment when he lose, he don t know how will be after a while, he will feel terrible, when will know what e lose. So...all of use need to talk with somebody, but most important for you and for all who are in a love relation is to talk each other, is to communicate. If she is not same, as you say, she say about you same thing, that you are not the same. you need talk with somebody, but this "somebody" is your lover. To be ope and talk frankly, will help your relation.
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• United States
27 May 09
thank you for your words.. and i do agree Communication is one of the best things a couple can have.. but recently when i point things out.. she ends up getting annoyed at me, and that bothers me even more.. but i do love her.. and i do want to be with her.. o.o the love i have for her is as strong as ever.. but i am afraid to talk to her.. but i know ill have to and soon.. thank you :)
@justmeh (188)
• Philippines
28 May 09
Well maybe she feels a little bit awkward of the situation. She's afraid on how to deal with her own feelings. I guess you talk to her,admit everything. Never left something unsaid. Make her speechless and ask her directly the other way round to make her be pressurized to tell the truth. That's only a suggestion but if can't do it,you can have another plan.
@callipig (10)
• China
28 May 09
well,to be honest with you, i have just break up with my girlfriend. when we get along with each other for a long tome, i always feeling the same things as you are. at the begining, we fell in love with eachother verymuch, we have gone through the happinest time in our life,but later and later,something has wrong,and it become aggravate, and at last we can not bear the pressure,then we break up. we love each other but we can not operate that love, and now, for me, i am afraid of love, i am afraid to get along with a girl,i think it is a whole life leaning to operate a perfct love.
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• Malaysia
27 May 09
i had never been in love before. but love is like a knife. it is good when you cut the right things but if not, you might cut yourself.
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@stafei (98)
• China
27 May 09
Hi friend,I think love is sweet.Together with my lover,work life have a child,teach him and see him to make improve and help him when he needed.So sweet.Why you think that you will afraid of love.I don't understand.Whether you are a man and you lover is a man too.Don't mind,just is a joke.Hope you can find your love and sweet for lift.Good luck for you!
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@Nahliab (31)
• United States
27 May 09
Remember that things do not stay the same in a relationship wht about those people who been married for 40 years or so do you wonder how they held it together , well an ex-boyfriend of mine always told me that these funny out of touch times are okay as long as we don't both have that falling out of love feelings at the same time
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
27 May 09
I think love and fear never goes side by side. When we truly love a person we will never be afraid. It happened to me also sometimes I had fallen into love with a person and never able to tell it. I think it really hurts sometimes, but most times the person would not be the right person for us. I think when someone love us very much we will be the happiest person in the world.
@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I am sorry but I am not aware of your problem.... but I think you two should talk as in talk seriously about your situation. Tell her how she has changed and I guess you need to know if the feelings are still there for you. If not, maybe its also tiem for you to exit in her life as she is not in to you anymore. I guess you deserve to find a person that will love you back same as you give them the attention, love and care. Love should never be a one way, it should be a two-way relationship a give and take kind of partnership. be hinest with each other and be open for what she is to tell you. And from that truth shall set you free.
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• Indonesia
27 May 09
sorry but i just know u lol so i havent keep up with ur post yet lol..and it is ok actually even if u keep on bringing up a problems in ur discussions. hey treblamon..maybe it's just the season ? the boring season ? i mean each couple have to get through it anyway, we will get bored with our couple at some points but will soon come back again, spreading the hot love season again. try to give her some spaces treblamon, let her be like that for a while. if she's really the right person for u and if she really loves u, she will back to how she used to be. love is not to be forced, it's about understanding.. ganbatte !
• China
27 May 09
I must say that you are really in love,it's very good,Love is sweet,but also trouble?everyone ever feel this way,so don't worry about it?
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