Can ex sweet hearts be friends after the break up?

Philippines
May 27, 2009 2:28am CST
Its an awful situation to join your friends which are ex sweet hearts, you dont know what to say to or how to say to... being thier friend, how am i going to tell them to be friends after the break up? After all before they become sweet heart they became friends first. it a very difficult situation to be in the middle right? Can really ex sweet hearts be friends after the break up?
14 responses
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
27 May 09
yes but it depends the reason of the separation and as the said love is lovelier than second time around so maybe after good friends be loves again,who knows
• Philippines
27 May 09
that was a good point, but what if it has a very bad endings, and is understandings?
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
27 May 09
maybe in that case needs time to each other means step forward then if they miss each other there will be a chance " i gues"
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
27 May 09
opssssss sorry i mean step backward
@russso (1693)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I think it's possible, but this depends on what kind of break-up the former sweethearts had. However, I personally prefer not to be friends with exes. I feel that this will complicate things if ever I am in a new relationship.
@russso (1693)
• Philippines
28 May 09
Yup, that is right. And even if your current partner tells you that it is okay to be friends with your ex, at the back of his or her mind, it is not right. So to give my partner peace of mind, I don't remain friends with my exes.
• Philippines
28 May 09
maybe that true, you might get in to trouble by doing so right?
@justmeh (188)
• Philippines
28 May 09
If they want to why not?That would be a better closure for the both of them. It would be so nice to see ex sweet hearts becoming friends and I would love to see one too.
• Philippines
28 May 09
Well its nice to see such things but it is very rare, LOL
• United States
27 May 09
I guess you could depending on how the relationship ended at one point in my life I dated my brothers wifes brother and the relationship just ened he was my first and sometimes I still see him around and I say hi but not much more but because my fiance doesn't like him I think he feels like there shouldn't be any contact because he was my first I dont know it seems to me that i dont talk to any of my ex now that I come to think of it so i guess in my situation no you can't but i am sue there are people ou there that can
• Philippines
28 May 09
yeah, because some of the respondent tells us that they are friends after the break up.
• China
27 May 09
In my opinion,maybe they will not be able to be friend when they break up. Some sweet hearts have to break up their relationship,because their family against them or some other reasons, but they love each other. If they will be friends and keep in touch with each other, which will affect their future family. Of course, they can be friends, but they cann't contact each other too often. If they break up for they don't love each other, most of people can't be friends.
• Philippines
27 May 09
i got your point maybe tahts why most of mortal enemies comes from ex lovers.
@youngloc (36)
• United States
27 May 09
Dont try to interveine. Its not that difficult of a situation if they speak to eachother . me and my ex girlfriend of 3 years are still very good friends after a nasty break up its the past bury it. thats what we did and we dont go digging for skelotens of the past and we have a wonderful time
• Philippines
28 May 09
Wow nice, i would realy want to see both of them doing so as you are doing.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I think its very much possible, even though it may take some time for the wounds to heal but if they started out as friends before then they can be friends again. I am still friends with my EX, he is married now and so am I, we have moved on beyond the romantic part and still our friendship survived. Of course, we don't spend that much time with each other, we just chat once in a while, updates, talk about stuffs. The important thing there is that we know that we no longer have grudges or anger towards each other. Its also easier to move on that way, knowing that you have been released by your past.
• Philippines
27 May 09
Wow its a nice story, i think they can still be friends but aybe only tie will tell.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Hi making moneysoeasy, For me it's a big no, I rather not be even a friend. I rather move on and forget about everything. I just hate it especially when we just split up and seeing her with her friends. I still gonna wish her all the happiness she deserves.I rather go forward then going on backward. It's enough we tried to work out the relationship and memories just left behind. Then holding on with grudges. Have a nice day to you!
• Philippines
27 May 09
how sad! Anyway its a good thing that you have already oved on with youre life and stikk wishing for happiness for your ex.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
27 May 09
in my case it is never be possible because i will feel jealeous that we have broken up and when ever i will she her with another guy i will never tollerate and i will start comparing all the time i had spent with her with current time so it is better to stay away from ex after break up that will good for all
• Philippines
27 May 09
I got your point there! aybe its just hard to manage that when you got jealous.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
28 May 09
I think if you broke up without hurting much each other, ex sweethearts can be friends. Who knows, beacuse you're friends a reconcilliation may happened. If you are bitter however of the breakup maybe you can be friends but later, when everything has been healed.
@achinthya (1216)
• India
27 May 09
hi, it depends in both of your understandings if your break up is mutual understand than you one have any trouble you can be friends.
• Philippines
27 May 09
but if not so it wont be possible to friends again anymore?
@biman_s (1060)
• India
27 May 09
If the relation between you and your ex was a bit too friendship type and not love matter then its ok to be friends after a break up. But if it wass more serious than that then I think its best just to avoid such a confronting situation. You might never know what might happen with your ex.
• Philippines
27 May 09
yeah! they are too casual and formal to each other and do not know what to say,aybe its the best thing to do.
• Philippines
27 May 09
Yes. I think so. Based on my experience, my ex-boyfriend and I are good friends now. Although, we rarely talk of the past but whenever we do, the bitterness of our break up served us just like an old distant picture. We look at it but we know that we can't come back to what have passed anymore. So there. I do think that it is indeed possible.
• Philippines
27 May 09
hhhhm meaning it is not posssible? how about those things that the have shared together? I men as friends? So sad to hear that.
• United States
28 May 09
Yes ! ofcourse, depending on how their relationship went. I don't see why not.