Do you like for your woman or man to smoke?

By K.S.
@02karen (172)
United States
May 27, 2009 10:53am CST
I really hate that my fiance sometimes picks up a cigg. and starts smoking. Well he hasnt smoke for quite awhile it sure kills you and causes cancer. I did try it a few times which I almost got addicted to it but my fiance stopped it plus before him it was one of my old bestfriends which is a guy stop me before I kept doing it. I quit and dont do it so I try to tell my love one in which I truly care about him so much and dont want him suffer because he has smoke.
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25 responses
@nrn2003 (661)
• United States
31 May 09
I actually think it is the biggest turnoffs that there is. That and chewing tabacco in their teeth. I hate it when there is a group of people that aren't smoking and then someone decides to light up. it smells bad and makes everyone else smell bad too. It is just unhealthy and unattractive. people need to find something else to kill themselves.
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@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
1 Jun 09
My husband use to smoke but has quit for quite sometime now. I hated that he would smoke. When we got a new car I told him he couldn't smoke in it then we got a new house and I told him he couldn't smoke in it. Then I started to tell him that he couldnt' smoke around me. He ended up quitting before we had kids thank goodness. I think people who do smoke just dont' care who is around them when they do smoke. I can't stand that smell and don't want to breath it in.
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@02karen (172)
• United States
2 Sep 09
mflower2053 - I see and he prefer him smoking and making you a bit suffer when you didnt like the smoke. Hmm...he cared more about himself than this love ones. That's good. Well that turned out good after all. Yeah that's true. lol..I dont blame you at all. By the way, have you ever tried it once in your life?
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Smoking is a nasty habit and one that is difficult to kick. I would not want anyone to smoke but it is not up to me and I just watch them smoke. Cheers!!
@02karen (172)
• United States
27 May 09
Underdogtoo - You hate it too. True about that well its people lives but if you have someone near you wouldn't you do something about it besides getting drunk.
• United States
27 May 09
I don't like that my hubby smokes at all. I'm afraid he can't quit he's tried and I can only hope that one day he will be ready to quit forever. The part I don't like is when he smokes in the house or lies about it.
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@02karen (172)
• United States
28 May 09
3SnuggleBunnies - Yeah I bet you dont like it at all but talk to each other. Okay if he doesnt like something from you...then make a promise to each other. For an example, let's say he doesnt like you for you to talk with other men dont do it but he has to promise too that he wont smoke. Yeah they try to lie about it but I always find out when they're lying especially when you kiss him.
@biman_s (1060)
• India
27 May 09
I don't smoke and neither does my partner. Both of us hate smoking and tend to stay away from those who smoke.I think it useless after all it gives you nothing but takes away everything from you. Tell your fiance to quit smoking as og now. It will not make a good future for both of you.
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@02karen (172)
• United States
27 May 09
biman_s - I dont blame you and your partner. Yeah and many that smoke dont realize that they are not just killing themselves but their love ones too. He already did...its been quite awhile that he hasnt done it so its a good thing.
@Colmuc (707)
27 May 09
Hi Karen, I would not like to have a partner who smokes. The smell irritates me. If however you accept someone who smokes as a partner then it is unfair to later put pressure on them to stop. I sympathise with smokers in that it is not an easy habit to give up. I was lucky because I never started so don't face the problem of trying to stop.
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@02karen (172)
• United States
27 May 09
Colmuc - Hello, sir!! You dislike the smell too. Well of course, it all depends on the person and whether you truly love the person and try to find ways for your love one to stop. I understand its not easy. If that person really loves you they sure would stop smoking as long you dont do nothing in return that they dislike. Well then that's a good thing that you never tried it. Yes, it kills you faster after you smoke so much.
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I am glad that my fiance don't smoke at all because i don't like smoking. I have no control of the people around but as much as possible i don't want to be around with people smoking because i can hardly breath. Aside from that if we are around with those people that smoke, its like we are smoking too since we absorb the smoke. We then are much prone to cancer which is scary.
@02karen (172)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Cheenlly - Well that's a good thing then. I wish mine was completely like yours but everyone is different. Do you have asthma or probably too much smoke yeah probably that's it. It causes cancer if you smoke it didn't expect it by smelling it.
• Brisbane, Australia
27 May 09
I am strictly against of smoking. I do not understand why such thing exist in this beautiful world of nature.Any type of smoke harms surroundings and health too. I advise woman to stop smoking because it will harm your inborn child when you will go through pregnancy period and stay away from smokers too. Smoking not giving anything good but ONLY HARMS.
@02karen (172)
• United States
4 Dec 09
Magicalangel - That sure is true what your saying but who knows who started making this. Well we can't stop women they're the ones that decide whether they want to or not but if you care for somebody you sure can help if you care though. I don't smoke plus my man wouldn't get me pregnant but did you know that if the man smokes a lot he can't get the girl pregnant. See...many blame the girl oh its your fault but on the same its the guy too. I don't smoke tried it a couple of years back three times I think yeah but I'm clean. Of course I dislike of smelling the smoke already.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I really do not like the idea of any of my loved ones smoking, but it is a choice that they have made for themselves. I have always said that I like myself better than that and it is a habit that I am happy that I never started, although both of my parents were at one time smokers. My father had a massive heart attack and stopped immediately, and he was only 42 years old. I have had several friends who do smoke and it would never make me NOT be their friend, but I hate the smell of it and how my clothes smell of it later. I also hate the smell of the breath of someone I have kissed who smokes, but if they are important enough to you, you kiss them, bad breath and lingering smells and all.
@02karen (172)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Idowrite72 - Im sorry that I took awhile to reply but yes it is their choice. Okay lets say that smoking kills you and causes cancer. Do you want your love one to die young or do something about it while he/she is still around? See...many stop when they scared in something and they dont think about others which people are getting hurt and scared. They snap right away when something scary happens like the heart attack or cancer. Well what kind of friends did you had; that's not even a friend. I would just laugh. I have friends that drink and party a lot get drunk want me to go too but they first have to pass the wall which that will be fiance and they wont even try. Its disgusting well the good part my fiance already stopped smoking after I wrote this down.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
29 May 09
i'd comment superficially, meaning, i'd not go to smoking is bad for the health because everybody knows that. i don't mind people who smoke as long as they know the proper hygiene that that habit entails. many smokers are not aware that smoking burdens them with more attention to their hygiene.
@02karen (172)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Ritchelle - Oh okay I see what you mean will you let your love one smoke?
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
if they can't really help it i'd let them smoke. as long as they can still do what they have to do and still can pay their bills and have some savings. they say any vice entails money, particualrly loss of it, but i think as long as the person is aware of "life" then everything would be okay.
• Philippines
29 May 09
Nope. Definitely, I won't like my man to smoke. The smell/smoke is suffocating for me. And the side effects are tooo bad!
@02karen (172)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Minniemadz - Oh okay I respect your decision too. Yeah too much smoke huh...dont blame you at all.
• Malta
27 May 09
My friend smoke, however my husband doesn't smoke and actually I really appreciate that since I am allergic to smoke! Also, it would be difficult for me to live with someone who smokes, since I can't resist the smoke smell on clothes.
@02karen (172)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Cbhomework - Well thats very nice of your husband because many people wont quit even for their love one. I sure do understand what you mean.
@alvingb (265)
• Singapore
27 May 09
hi there you are right smoking is actually bad and it causes cancer. well but if my man or woman smokes than i believe we cant just leave that person just because he does something that damages himself or herself. well then that is definitely not love. I think we we shoulf stay by the person and help him or her try to quit. its a battle that both the lovers have to come together and try to stop. leaving the other person is not what love would do. Well it just sounds not right to me to leave a person just because he smokes. I mean that goes for all other bad habits as well. If we find the person do somthing bad then we should tell the person how we feel and help the person to change and not leave the person. This is just my opinion. best regards, alvingb
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@02karen (172)
• United States
27 May 09
alvingb - Yes, true because if you love that person you just cant give up on him/her then it shows that when they do something wrong your just going to walk away from problems which you never loved that person. I really like your response and that's true what your saying and I truly do. Yes, and Im finding ways to help him and thank god he hasnt picked up another cigg. Thank you, very much!!^_^
• China
28 May 09
I start smoking at 13 years old, i enjoy it very much,most of my best friends enjoy this cigg?But now,i would like to stop smoking,because i am meeting a beautiful girl , i like her,and she hate a man who kept smoking!
@02karen (172)
• United States
2 Sep 09
ufmobilehz - Oh wow that's very young. Yes but just because your friends do it doesnt mean you have to do it too. So if your friends jump off a cliff because its cool...are you going to do it too? Its really dumb. If you really like her then change in which try everything in not smoking. Wow that's a good response so far which you really care and doing it for your love one. Goodnightmoon - Thank you, very much for your responnse.
• United Arab Emirates
28 May 09
This ciggarette addiction is controllable, like me that I usually smoke before but since I had a new relationship I stop.
@arkansos (545)
• India
27 May 09
I don't think it will make much of a difference to me. I am a smoker myself. Although I'd advice her to quit, forcing her to do so would be hypocrisy. Ia m planning to quit myself some time. Let's see how that comes along
@02karen (172)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Arkansos - I really do understand your opinion in forcing someone. Im not forcing anyone but do you want to see her soon in 6 ft under your love one when you could've done something before. Okay you smoke and you might live longer than her but you know smoking kills you and causes cancer and etc.
@glesil_00 (1142)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Talking about smoking, i don't want my man to smoke as much as possible. Second hand smoker is at risk much more than the person itself who smoke, but i am not against to him if he do smoking. It is still okay for me if he smokes as long as he will keep away from me.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
27 May 09
none of the above.smoking kills and expensive
@02karen (172)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Bombshell - Good.
• United States
29 May 09
No I do not want anyone to smoke. I do not care who they are and if I really are close to them or not. Don't even come close to me when you are smoking. Can't stand the smell of smoke or even stand the smell of smoke on someone's body. Have you ever had a diaper bag and open it up and smell the smoke in a diaper bag. I could not never do that with my child.
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
28 May 09
While I admit that it is my boyfriend's personal choice to smoke or not, I tell him to stop smoking because I really care about him and I don't want him to have diseases related to smoking.