I feel so inadequate!

Canada
May 27, 2009 1:55pm CST
My fiance and I have been talking alot about having kids. He is going to be 31 in October and I turned 26 in January. So we are not getting any younger. Anyway we have been discussing ever since we first got together we have never had any pregnancy scares or anything even close to becoming pregnant. We both want children now and because I have PCOS I am unable to get pregnant. It truly is a struggle to say the least. I honestly feel worthless at times since I can't give him any children. My questions are how do I go about discussing this with my doctor? Is there anything I should be doing for myself now to help get pregnant? Are there others out there that are having the same problems as me? Have any of you had any success stories? Oh the questions so many to ask. Feeling pretty down on myself to say the least.
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@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
27 May 09
You need to go see a reproductive endocrinologist, and ask your doctor about putting you on metaforim. Often with the use of Met and a lose of weight those with PCOS van become pregnant with no other intervention. and you are not getting old. I had my miracles when I was 35 years old.. You have so many options ahead of you, do not give up hope and do not be down on yourself.
• Canada
28 May 09
I will be going to see him in less than 2 weeks and asking about what I am doing now. I know I'm not that old but I don't think my fiance would want to have kids when he is 40. And honestly we really want to have a child as soon as possible. We will not give up and just take it as it comes. Thank you so much for your comment.
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
28 May 09
I did not tell you to give up. I just told you to not freak out about it at this point. You have time. Life is full of surprises, and you never know you may just get pregnant with out help at all.
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
28 May 09
I was trying to give you encouragement, to help you and show you that there is no reason to give up hope. I was told when I was only 20 years old I WOULD NEVER have children again. I have triplets now and i was not 40 when I had them.. There is time and there are things they can do to help you. Your feelings are normal and something all of us go through who are enduring infertility.
@taraelocin (1139)
4 Oct 09
I am in a similar situation than you are. Not being able to get pregnant is hard. My husband and I suffer from male infertility. The important thing to remember is that we live in a time of age where help is available. Don't be shy about talking to your doctor. It feels embarrassing, but with 1 in 7 couples having trouble to conceive doctors are not going to be judgemental. As you already know that you suffer from PCOS you obviously spoke to a doctor before. Just make an appointment, explain the situation and ask for advise. If you want to improve your chances to get pregnant already now you should start making sure your weight in in a healthy range (between 19 and 30 BMI) and you eat healthily. It's not an easy road to motherhood when you as a couple suffer infertility, but if all else fails, you at least know that you are in a loving relationship. You might even consider adoption, being able to give a loving, stable home to a child. Don't let it get yourself down. Infertility isn't your fault, it is just destiny. And it doesn't mean you'll never have kids.
• Canada
29 Oct 09
Yes I do go and see my doctor regularly and talking and discussing everything and all my options. Thanks for your response.
29 Oct 09
I wish you good luck. I am just about to start my first cycle in IVF myself, so I am a little on edge and nervous!