Will you fall in love to someone who don't have a job?

@larish (2193)
Philippines
May 27, 2009 6:47pm CST
I have known people who stands still with their man who has no job from the start of the realationship. So what happens after they got married is that the guy remains to be dependent to her. She works while he stays at home doing nothing. Why does we have this kind of relationship in the society? Will you still stick with your man despite of him having no job?
19 responses
@eagle_f15 (2052)
• Malaysia
28 May 09
It all depends....when my husband and I were courting, I was working and he was still in the final year of his classes so he didn't have a job. Not only did he not have a job but he was not given any pocket money by his parents as well. So both of us brainstorm ideas on ways to earn extra cash for him. To me it was fun as we see his bank account grow through the little small business we started. But after he graduated, he got a job. So it was okay for us. In my opinion....I don't believe in someone don't have a job....anyone can have a job...it is up to the person whether he is willing to do the job or not...even to sweep the roads or be a garbage man...these are honest jobs...and it brings wages home and put food on the table.
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@stafei (98)
• China
28 May 09
No, I won't.For me, i think should find the one with same interests and school background,otherwise, will have a big gap between us, the outlook of like and the overview of value will be totally diffenent, there will be a lot of conflicts later then, we won't be very happy to stay with each other, this is a series of chain reaction.
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@smileonstar (4012)
• United States
27 May 09
Hi, sometimes he has some special thing that you can't see. I used to fall in love with a man that barely work, but I pushed him from no job to a good job and should be proud of... however, he paid me back with a heart broken. It is hard to see or judge people from outside, sometimes he doesn't have a job but he does house work... it is also a job. But if he does nothing and really depend on a woman then he is not a man...
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@MyzDy19 (919)
• Philippines
28 May 09
Yeah it's possible to fall in love with the guy who has no job but I will not let him to be my bf and of course I will not marry such guys hehehe ^^ What will be my life with him? I can't imagine...it will be difficult to live hmmmm ~O~
• Philippines
28 May 09
No way.. haha all guys should work!!
@k1tten (2320)
• United States
28 May 09
Personally, love is love whether or not you have a job. Sometimes it's just easier for someone to stay home while the other works. There's nothing wrong with that. Unless the person that doesn't work, doesn't do anything to help the one that's working. That's just rediculous.
28 May 09
I agree its the love that makes relationship easier
@asliah (11141)
• Philippines
1 May 13
for me,of course i know myself that i can fall in love to someone who don't have job,because i already experienced that before,and for me there is nothing wrong to fakll in love to a man who don't have job or having a bad status of his life.
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
29 May 09
I and my husband got this point in our life where he is unemployed because he felt sad with what happened with his agents before in our previous company. They were removed so he resigned together with them because he never want them to feel sad with their mass termination. He hated the company for what they did simply because they can no longer pay the agents and they are not producing any sales. He did not want to look for another job because he just don't have the inspiration to do so. So I was the one who finance everything for two months then after that he got a job again. He is a person who never fails in every company he applies to because he is just really qualified and he is good. I understand that my love for him never faded even if he has no job for two months because I know that he will not let himself unemployed for a lifetime. So I guess my husband proved that he really loved me by moving on with what happened with his last job. I can't think of myself loving someone who is unemployed. That is why I hate my mom for letting my father and tolerating him at home and not earning even a single cent for my five younger brothers. My mom is a vegetable vendor and her income is only enough for their everyday meal. So I hate people who only depend with others without a valid reason and being unemployed for more than five years now. I hate it because they just depend and become a burden to others. If they have valid reason to just stay at home then I will accept that. But my husband is very different with my father and that makes me love him more and more. Now I really want to help him and I wish to get a job soon because our son is eight months old and he already needs more and more things. I guess my time to work will soon come now that we have hired a baby sitter I have been waiting for for five months.
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
28 May 09
Well a one usually finds out weather that person has a job before falling in love, during the courtship, but to answer your question I dont think so, I know that money isent everything, but it wouldnt be far for me to support someone who has no job and has no plans or ideas of where he will get a job, but if the guy I was already in love with had a steady job when we met and he suddenly lost his job and if he was actively seeking employment I would support him for a while, becuse hes just going through a short slump, and in that case it would be the right thing to do, to support him, but if I were seeing someone I mean just dating them and they told me that they were unemployed I would be reluctant to continue the relationship, to be honest, becuse in my opinion anyone who enters a relationship without any motivation to work or remain employed dosent seem like a responsible person to me, and when your dating someone you have to take everything into consideration things like if I were to merry this person and have kids how would we support our family is he or she the kind of person who is willing to work hard and do what is necessary to support himself and his family becuse having a job is part of being responsible adult, and if we are a couple we are supposed to work together and help each other, and how can he or she do that if they are not working.
@Uroborus (910)
• Canada
28 May 09
There is love, and then there is liking someone a lot because you feel they are the type that you can have a good partnership with. Sometimes you're lucky to find one person that gives you both these thing, but you search for love first, and that has nothing to do with money, jobs, or how well they can contribute to the financial part of the relationship. Those who consider employment when they try to find a life partner are approaching it as if they were about to start a business.
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
28 May 09
When I started dating my fiance he didn't have a job but I didn't care. He got a job later on. And then he has been in and out of jobs since about four years ago. Then he has recently been laid off twice. What I am saying if your willing to work with it then I dont see nothing wrong with the situation. I work and I hate it because I am not with my son but my fiance has been searching heard for another job and that is enough for me.
@skipper9 (51)
28 May 09
Depends on the circumstances but if its because the person is lazy then I say get rid.
• Indonesia
28 May 09
there are many reason why someone does not have a job. maybe that person is looking for a job, maybe that person is really not having job or unemployee. when i was still studying in school, i did not care about it. but now, i care about it. and i try to look for a man who has a good job. it is very important for the future. i will work too. because i don't want depend on my husband's salary. i want buy everything i want with my money.
• India
28 May 09
you can try to get him a job or maybe you work his job and he work your job if possibale but i think job is not a big matter at all in love i see many couple here both dont have job but both love each other very much its life......evrybudy has diffrent way
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
28 May 09
falling in love is not a choice. however, acting on that love is. i mean risking one's future for love for me is unimaginable. no future for one's self may be tolerable but no future for their offsprings? if that is not a mortal sin then maybe i should go back to my catholic school...peace . we are as good as the partner we decide to spend our life with...
• India
28 May 09
In a relationship there is always an expectation from the other. It is always expected that the man should be the chief earner and should take care of the needs of the household. that is fair. if you love someone, then this expectation is not a wrong thing. it is better to marry a man who takes responsibility of running the house.
@veron044 (75)
• Malaysia
28 May 09
FOR SURE! I will not get a guy who doesnt have a job. I mean when it is the time for him to get a job. I hate this kind of guys. My cousin's husband is such a kind of this! And I hate him very much! They have 4 kids. Only my cousin bears the expenses of her family. Her husband, staying at home everyday, spend whose money? HIS WIFE! STUPID GUYS! Hate the most! And so..I do not talk to him anymore. And I know it will not change eventhough I am so hate him. But, I always pray for her to have a good living condition adter they move to other state to start their life.
• Philippines
28 May 09
I wont fall in love with a man who dont have a job. And who cant support our relationship. Lolz.. I dont want to be the sugar mommy of someone. it's have hard if your the only one spending money for the relationship. There should be a give and take but how can you expect him to give if he doesnt have a job.
@turones (206)
• Philippines
28 May 09
it is possible, i mean, this really happens to some women but most women today are being practical and it's just not right for a woman to work for a man. that's not how things are meant to be. especially if the man is healthy and is very capable to work. i don't think i'll let this happen to me.
• United States
28 May 09
I don't see what having a job has to do with anything. Sure, it's desirable but getting with someone that at the time is jobless isn't terrible. If the person doesn't strive to get a job, to be employeed then I definitely would call that a problem. If you two stay together, you'll be paying all the bills or will be paying the bills and probably taking care of them too because they're probably lazy.