Keeping in touch with "in-laws"

It's just my opinion reiny, but she should be allowed to come if she wishes to do so. I mean the ex-wife comes and she is not his wife anymore either. She may not even ant to go but it's always nice to be asked and given that choice. Like you said your uncle loved her and he was with her. So there had to be something there. She loved and and took care of him in his last days. That should count for something. Of course she will be hurt that she is not asked to the reunion, even if she has no plans to go. I always try to put myself in the other persons shoes and think how would I feel in the same situation? What if I was with someone and his family did not care for me that much. But he loves me and I do him. I'm there for him dealing with the ups and downs and the sickness. I'm the one he is with ...I would be hurt at not being asked. Both women the ex wife and him should be grown up enough about it to be able to deal with each other for a couple of hours one day out of the year. And the ex does have a boyfriend and moved on with her life.

Well, the way I see it, you have two choices, be honest and tell her why you want to contact your cousin and that the g/f isn't invited or don't contact the g/f and the cousin isn't invited. I understand about family and non-family, I have the same problem but like it or not she was a part of your family but she was part of your uncles. No one can say you have to like her or be friends with her but you might consider making her a friend of the family. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]

Plan well, be good to every one and make a move

I dont think it should be a problem. If it is, she can always ask your uncle's daughter if she can go with her. I wouldnt worry too much about it. Like you said, she made your uncle happy and that was what was important. There is nothing that says you have to keep in contact with her. I agree that extended family can be complicated at times! Good luck with the planning!