Are you the type who tends to criticize everyone including yourself?

@krajibg (11924)
Guwahati, India
May 29, 2009 10:58am CST
If you ask me if or not I criticize other I would say "I do but not in excess and I do not back bite". This is human nature and we can hardly get mastery over this. Now who has more expertise on this field is a debatable issue. If I say women are past masters in criticizing others they would bounce over and make the issue other way round. Men too are not the less active on this arena. (Being on the safer side, lol) It is ok if you criticize others and do criticize yourself too. now the question are you the one who tends to criticize everyone including yourself? Rajib. 29.05.09
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@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
30 May 09
Hi. I always expect best from myself and others as well and if I don't get it, I do tend to get annoyed with it. Being a captain of few sports team in inter house school tournaments, it was always important for me to find the right balance between criticism and appreciation, but I always was biased toward criticism then appreciation. Now, I try to make comments that can be taken as positive or constructive criticism rather then demoralizing.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
31 May 09
Hi Raj, that is really appreciating that if at all you have criticism have it positive or have not. Thanks for the response.
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@tundeemma (895)
• South Africa
30 May 09
i don't like criticizing people and make them upset though i do criticize myself but that does not matter because it is corrective and it means i have to change direction, people tend to take criticism as a fight and they often think that they are being relegated when they are criticize so the best thing to do is criticize in a gentle and unsuspecting manner and that is what i do
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
31 May 09
Hi Most people more or less get involved in criticism but it is better if could be positive in our criticism. This is necessary for it helps the task one has undertaken get a better shape. Thanks for the response.
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@glesil_00 (1142)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Criticizing is good, but don't exceed. As far as i know, i criticize others too, but i do not speak it out, it is just on my mind, but there are times that i speak it frankly to the person. I do criticizing myself too often. A small mistake is a serious thing.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
31 May 09
Hi Glesil, This is good sometime to tell people on the face if anything unwarranted was done by them. But this is not to be applied on all for some might take it on the wrong note. Thanks for the response.
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@paula27661 (15815)
• Australia
30 May 09
I have perfectionist tendencies and it is something I am working at changing because it is a stressful way to live, I think. I do criticise myself and I can be my own worst enemy at times! I don’t think I am overly critical towards others because my belief is live and let live. My mother and father are very critical people and I have seen how mean it makes them seem and I vowed a long time ago not to ever come across like them. Who am I to tell others how they should live anyway?
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
30 May 09
Hi Paula, When you are the sort of perfectionist thee would surely arise occasion when you have to be harsh on people positively. Right? And as for criticizing the self, this is the best way to get rid of stress and correct oneself as well. Thanks for the response.
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@Archie0 (5171)
30 May 09
i dont need to be, because no one else is! so i do this to much, and now my friends are even calling me out on it and telling me to stop! so from now on, i will make an active effort to not insult myself. apparently not only does it not help my self esteem, it upsets and/or insults my friends when they hear me critise myself.
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• India
3 Jun 09
Hello my friend Rajib Ji, First thing, what i have observed here, you are of submessive nature. But if want to make study, I recently posted a discussion on Recial' trouble in Aystralia. If you go there you may find some some fruitful out-come. Mu hubby criticises including himself. May God bless You and have a great time.
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• India
14 Jun 09
Hello my friend Rajib Ji, So nice of your comments, emerging out from bottom of your heart and flowing freely. It automatically relaeses your tension and pessure. Keep it up. et that spirit never die. May God Bless and have a graet time.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
9 Jun 09
Hello Jee, Yeas to some extent I am of submissive nature but at time I take up several axes together and go beheading those who are the offenders. lol Sorry for the delay in commenting back...
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@Canellita (12040)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Nope. I am a wonderful and fantastic human being, why would I need to criticize myself? As for the criticism of others, it's a rare thing and generally not worth the time. That said, criticism is not necessarily negative.
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
9 Jun 09
Hi Cannelita, That is the best thing perhaps that do not criticize nor get criticized. But do you think it is possible that you remain uncriticized? Sorry for the delay in commenting back...
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@Canellita (12040)
• United States
9 Jun 09
Oh, I get criticized all the time, LOL! Have you ever noticed it is the person who is the least perfect in their own actions that has the most critcism of others?
@surajben (262)
• India
30 May 09
Yes, I do criticize others and myself. Criticizing is liking correcting a person if taken in good sense. We should point out things for other people to understand. A good critic would be a well wisher. Making fun is not criticizing.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
30 May 09
Hi surajben, You have put it quite rightly that making fun of others is not criticizing. True criticism emerges positive outcome and if one could criticize oneself that is the best thing I feel. Thanks for the response.
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@carpenter5 (6784)
• United States
4 Jun 09
More so to myself than on somebody else. I am exteremely hard on myself. And will often get in trouble with hubby for putting myself down and always feeling like the things that go wrong in our family are my fault, even when they have nothing to do with anything I've done.
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
9 Jun 09
Hi there, That is far better to axe your own tree than trying at some one else's. This is not so in many people and from my observation it came to my notice that people see less of their own fault and more of others. Sorry for the delay.
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@salonga (27787)
• Philippines
29 May 09
I am a perfectionist so I have the tendency to criticize those who do not meet my requirements. Nevertheless, I assure that I do not go beyond. I know that there will really be imperfections which are beyond the capacity of humans to solve so I am leaving some sense of understanding. I make sure my criticisms are constructive and not destructive.
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
30 May 09
Hi, So far the criticisms are constructive there is no such problems. But what we see is mots of them are back biting sort that is none the better foul mouthing. To criticize to make some sense in some people is not an issue. Besides the best weapon to rectify oneself is to be self critical. But we have very few people with this traits. Thanks for the response.
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• United States
31 May 09
i can be overly critical if i choose to be.. im a stickler for details so i mean if i watch lets say a movie and notice a flaw it will bug me but i dont freak out or anything and im much harder on myself than anyone else.. usually i dont even mention when i see something to criticize in others i keep it to myself
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
31 May 09
Hi Moon, Better be careful lest I should not fall in the bitterness of yours. lol. This is amazingly good if one is equally able to see his/her faults or flaws and take the positive criticism on the right vein. Thanks for the response.
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@rymebristol (1809)
• Philippines
30 May 09
no, i don't have the right to criticize others cause in the first place i am also should be criticize so why bother. people have the tendency to criticize others, it can be through looks, status in life, accomplishments, talent etc. but in the end they can't do anything about themselves. there are so many things in life that is happening right before our owns eyes, so why bother having the time to criticize others, is there a benefit from it?
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
31 May 09
Hi I do not think that this involves one's having or not having rights but mostly this is an ethical issue that we criticize people but do it in the right vein. What say? Thanks for the response.
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@glords (2614)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I find that I criticize myself. It was accepted and even praised as "modesty" in my family growing up. My husband hates how I always put myself down. He says that I would never hold anyone else up to the standards I set for myself. That is true. I think I better change my ways before I teach my own children to put themselves down.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
9 Jun 09
Hi glords, Seeing and trying to amend thing in yourself is good but lowering self image is not good as it hampers your entire personality. Sorry for the delay in commenting back...
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@abanerji (1026)
• India
9 Jun 09
hi dada... how are you..? i criticize myself a lot. at every mistake i tend to blame myself. this does not mean that i don't value myself.when i citicize myself i don't tend to criticize others. i look into my own weak points and mostly occupied with them, so i don't get time to think about other people and their weaknesses.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
11 Jun 09
Hi Sis , I am fine. Thanks. Yes I know about you. The self dissecting one. That is not so good all the while. There is no harm I feel to make harmless fun at others cost. lol.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
30 May 09
yes, i critcize but if u mean that criticize from bad angle, then no. i mean from all sides. i wish if i would be criticised by some one that it would help me not to commit mistakes. once i read that criticism can make a person better perfact. but i think criticism and back biting are not same. what do u think?
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
31 May 09
Hi Shibham, Yes that should be the true spirit but you know how nasty people could go to give a setback to your good venture. It is therefore better to be off this kind of people and go your good way. Thanks for the response.
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@mentalward (14692)
• United States
29 May 09
I don't criticize unless asked to and that's pretty rare. I know that every single human being has their own story, their own problems and everyone has a reason for being the way they are. If I don't approve of something coming from another person, I usually avoid them or whatever specific thing it is about them. Oh, sometimes I'll see something that's just too funny NOT to comment on, but I wouldn't dare say anything to them or within earshot because I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings. Everyone is entitled to look the way they want, walk the way they want, drive whatever they want, etc. I'm sure more than one person has said something about me behind my back. It doesn't bother me at all. I am who I am and it works for me. If they don't like it, that's too bad. I've known people who criticize everything and everyone. I would never call them my friend! People should care more about improving themselves instead of seeing faults in others.
@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
30 May 09
Hi there, You are on the dots. Many a time we lose our mental peace thinking that some one has criticized us or the like. Even the king is criticized on his back but who dares do without valid points. I too take things almost in the same way. Well I have heard you talking ills of me on my back but why do not tell me on the face. You are not on the right track and hence this. This is natural that to a considerable extent we talk of other people not that we do not like them or has ill feeling, it is just on the flow as people are on talks so I have said yes or no at certain point. And the best thing is to be self critical. Thanks for sharing.
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@apples99 (6556)
• United States
29 May 09
Well as a child I was very opinionated and sometimes people would mistake that as being critical, and now that I'm older I'm still opinionated, but I learn that sometimes accept for when I'm on sites like this, a person in the real world has to keep there opinions to themselves, sometimes and not always say things out loud becuse people can be really sensitive and misinterpret something as a criticism that in fact is not.
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
30 May 09
Hi apples, You are right to put that many people do not like the bare truth unveiled about them right on their face. So why to offend people unnecessarily and add another enemy sort of in the list. Better see what is wrong in me, afterall this is my life. Thanks a lot for the response.
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@PrarieStyle (2487)
• United States
30 May 09
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• United States
30 May 09
OOps, sorry about that, I copied and pasted something but it didn't turn out right. But no, I don't criticize many people. I try to live and let live. I realize people make mistakes, even me...
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
30 May 09
Hi, That looks strange mixture of letters and punctuation marks. Well, as for criticism it is really better to be on the front side. And yes humans make mistakes. Thanks for the response.
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@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
You are right that that as human as we are we tend to criticize others in whatever aspects of their life.We always heard that there are two criticism one is the constructive criticism and the other is the destructive criticism.Most often, we throw a lot of destructive criticism but it is worst when people love to criticise to feel seperior than others. In reality check there are really people who loves to criticized and give bad feedback to feel that there are more important compared to others. Everyday i always heard and recived criticism but i am too picky to let it sink in my mind. I dont let someone's criticism to let me down.
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• United States
29 May 09
I wouldn't say that I criticize persay but I do always have an opinion. I mean there is always right and wrong but then there is logic and dumb too. I have friends who ask for advice all the time and I am not Dr. Phil or anything but I believe I give pretty good advice but it seems like they never listen so then I start giving my real opinion. In regards to myself I tend to criticize and enjoy other people criticing me because I learn from it. Ever since high school I always wanted to be an editor of a magazine and write. I didn't write much in high school but lately I've started writing and I need people's opinions about what is good, bad, etc. Some people who are overly confident are the ones who tend not to take criticism well because they believe they are the best and when other people tell them to their face there not its hard for them to handle.
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
29 May 09
Hi well said. Even if we try to refrain from taking negative of others we tend to do this sometime but there are people who are hell out into it. To criticise on the positive note is welcome and it is still better if one could criticize his/herself. Thanks for your nice input.
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@phyrre (2320)
• United States
29 May 09
I tend to not really criticize anyone except myself. I'm pretty laid back and I don't like getting involved with other people's business. The only time I really criticize others is when their actions effect me. For example, I might criticize a colleague if they fail to do something they were supposed to at work and I have to do it instead, which adds to my workload even though it was their job to being with. But, other than that, I try not to worry myself much with others. I do criticize myself, though....quite a bit.
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@krajibg (11924)
• Guwahati, India
29 May 09
Hi phyrre, That is great. It is really difficult to digest criticism from outside as most of us tend to feel flattered by nice words. But the reality is something else. It becomes really a fun if one masters over self criticism. Thanks for the input.
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