50 Is A Dangerous Age For A Woman?

@zandi458 (28116)
Malaysia
May 30, 2009 3:02am CST
Many women regard 50s as a breaking point. They have reached a period where domesticity may well be off the line. It is a dangerous age as marriage and children no longer seem to hold the appeal they once did, and a heady cocktail of hormones kicks in to make them feel restless. Many people I know of has ditched a stable relationship of a marriage to lead a liberated life. Having spent years in raising children and being a good wife and a stable career or business, they suddenly opt for the unpredictable future on their own. They seems to be driven by conflicting feelings and to make good the experience and knowledge they gained from life to another new chapter in life. At 50 they want their passport to freedom, free from the clutches of men and feel the me-time again. The urge to find personal fulfilment is overwhelming even if it conflicts with the interests of hubby and children. I wonder whether this is what we call mid-life crisis. Men are no difference as they can be worse when they hit the golden 50. Do you think 50 is a dangerous age?
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31 responses
• India
30 May 09
who say its dangerous for women beaing 50 ? hah? you know my friend's grand mother are 95 and more but she can run behind a bus more faster than me LOL when we did a race in past and difintly i loss in that race so 50 mean danger is not true its depend on past life and health and food, meditation and manything more...
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@mysdianait (65059)
• Italy
31 May 09
I can just imagine your friend's grandmother and good for her! You are so right that it depends on what has happened before we reach that age and I hope I will be running like that lady to if Ireach that age! Great!
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
Your grandma is full of stamina and wish that I can be of her strength when I reach her age, if I can manage to reach that age. Maybe it doesn't apply to everyone but that is the normal perception of women who reach this age.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
30 May 09
NEver thought of it that way . But for men always looking for something younger. Myself I alwaays lived very independent and did most of anything I wanted to do and I still do. WOuldnt have ever thuoght og getting away from family at 50. Still dont at 69 . Have had no midlife break down. Most times I think people put it in thier head that we are to stop living at that age . HEck NO you forge ahead and live life to the fullest!
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
Good advice from you Lakota. Like you am also a very independent women and hope to remain that way as long as I can.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
31 May 09
No matter if ya marry you have to stay your indepent self so you do nt lose your Identity (sp)
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 09
We do not lose out our identity even after marriage.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
30 May 09
U are 99 percent correct,, the other 1 percent is that we still need each other on many occasions and in many ways, The people I have met in such situations,, do appear happy,,but also have days when they appear to be as if there is no life in the body,, personnlly I wish u all the best,, wise girl
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
You have put down the graft to 1% of needing each other which is much too low. But the huge tendencies of women in this age bracket feel the need to be detached and revitalized their self worth.
• Trinidad And Tobago
31 May 09
Maybe u will now know That I Respect All the Ladies( believe me),, And I do agree ,in an arguement The Woman Is The BOSS,I do not waste time to argue,,( it doesn't at all mean I lose the arguement,, I win without spending the energy),, In your case I do respect your views all the time as everbody knows themselves,,and u have the right to decide for yourself,, Just do NOT RUSH in whatever u do,,
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 09
Yes sir, thank you for respect. I always appreciate men who respect women.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
30 May 09
Hi zandi, I feel this is an exceptional case that women start all new life of their own as they reach fifty. The hormonal imbalanced at this age does change the behaviour of the women but going a rebel sort of is not so natural. I have not seen too many or many women to break away from the family as they are reborn with restlessness in their sweet fifty. As I know women show abnormality as they reach their menopause but that is a temporary phase and things finally settle to normalcy.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
Hi Raj, looks like you are quite knowledgeable about women and what may come of them in stages. .
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
No wonder, its all at your fingertips.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
30 May 09
Thanks lol.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
30 May 09
GOOD MORNING ZANDI, I had no problem when i tuened 50, thanks heavens. i did feel sort of ancient & couldn't believe i was 50 years old but i was already on my own, my children were at a good age, i was working trying to make a living fot myself & the one son i still had at home so didn't really have time nor desire to worry about it. i think people put too much emphasis on age , change of life etc. it is what it is.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
Hi Lady, I agree with you that there is nothing unusual about turning half century and like me who has just passed that age, it was just as normal as the change of day to night. But many have experience life changes when they are reaching 50 but will come to normalcy once they have adjusted to the new age. Maybe as you put it too much emphasis on age and change of lifestyle.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
31 May 09
IT IS WHAT IT is & u just make the best of it.
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• China
30 May 09
Hello,first ,i wanna say that your music is wonderful,i enjoy it so much.Then i wanna say i am too young to discuss the topic ,but i found you are too nervous to face the comming age.It is not necessary to be so nervous.you know, as my age many of my eldership have been older than 50 years,but they don't seem terrible at all.Naturally ,the older the worse the health will be.Lastly,wish you stay good heath all the time.
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• China
30 May 09
i wanna say that your music is wonderful,the music in your profile.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
Am glad you like the music in my profile. I agree you are too young but not too young to understand and learn from those who are much older than you.
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@Vickiq (52)
• United States
30 May 09
Speaking as someone who has passed the 50 mark by 10 years, I don't think that turning 40, 50 or any landmark age necessarily brings on discontentment with one's life. If you are in a loving and caring relationship/marriage turning any particular age doesnt' set off a switch where you automatically change how you feel. I think that there are many men and women that at the ages of 40, 50 etc tend to look back on their lives and sometimes regret the things they have not done or goals they have not achieved, but for the most part, I don't think they abandon their spouses and children to go after them. If someone has left a stable relationship, especially, I don't believe that age is playing the major role in the decision to abandon it. There is more to it than that. I don't think that a woman's hormonal changes effect anything more than body changes such as heat flashes, being irritable etc which can be a strain on both the man and woman. The woman for having to go through it and the man for having to deal with her up and down mood swings. Besides, many women after turning 50 and having raised their children, take advantage of not having the ties that bind, so to speak, and go after an unfullfilled edcuation, profession etc, but do so without abandoning her family.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
I have in fact seen many women as they are approaching 50 years old they change and needed more space of their own. After years of prioritizing families and husbands, they want to feel the freedom of being single again.
@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
30 May 09
Hi. I think it is to do with the up and downs in our life more then a specific age. If there is something happening in one's life all the time, that keeps the person involved and occupied then at any stage of it, they won't feel 'bored' and if there is nothing happening, then it turns boring. At that stage, I think it is the responsibility of the family and children to provide them what they need.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
Maybe it can be considered that life influence has much to say in the behavioral attitude of women when they reach the age of 50. They become bored with the monotonous of life they had and chose to change the course of their life.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
30 May 09
My children are reaching 50 and it is effecting them in many of the ways you mention. One of them has decided that she wants fun in her live and is living what I would call a loose life, I do worry for her mental and physical health, but understand each must make their own choices in life.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
I didn't know that you have children of this age. Well, if she chose to lead a carefree life then that is her choice. She knows what she is doing and wants to make the most out of life.
@shibham (17019)
• India
30 May 09
hi zandi. it may be a matter of hormonic change which throws a femal to mental fustration. but there are many legends who have done some activities crossing 50. if we think positivly that we have gained 50 years's experiences and now it is time to distribute it to my fellows, then it's normal. positive thinking is the best medicine for every mental deseases. thanks.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
yah...yah....I agree with you. Men should learn to understand the phases of changes that occurs in women.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
31 May 09
There's men that go through the same thing...they call it a mid-life crisis. He suddenly chucks the old wife and marries a 19 year old halfwit, starts dressing like he's in high school again and parties like theirs no tomorrow. I think it's more the person then the age though. I also think that when someones gotten married at a younger age, after so many years of raising kids and cooking meals they start wondering what they've missed. Their stuck in a rut and wanting a change. I didn't get married this time till I was like 35 so I had plenty of years of freedom and independence...it's kind of nice to have some stability and security in my life now. Ppl thinking about changing their lives need to remember that change isn't always good. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
I think people who chuck of their wives in midlife should look at the mirror before doing it. And the worse part is refusing to accept that they are no longer young. Dressing up like a teen in those tight jeans is craziness.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
1 Jun 09
There's actually a woman in our town that is in like her late 60's or early 70's that wears hotty shorts, halter tops, go-go boots and has tatoos and piercings. It's like seeing a car wreck, you don't want to look b/c you know your liable to be sick but you can't keep from looking b/c you just can't believe what your seeing. I remember a discussion I joined quite a while back where a guy was talking about how his g/f was getting old (she was about to turn 30) and he was going to break up with her and find a younger one...he said he didn't like old women. I reminded him that he was also getting old (he was in his early 50's) and he had better have alot of money b/c once his looks and body started falling apart that money was the going to be the only thing to keep his new hot number hanging around. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 09
That is funny. Looks like there is a short circuit in her brain.lol Men are always after young women. They should remember the saying 'no money no honey' before trying to lure young ladies by their sides.
• India
3 Jun 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, You are very much right, I remmeber my time just 15 yrs back. Also, a big change is expected from nature's side at this age. I remember, whenever, we went to play 'TAMBOLA', they shouted, "WOMAN GET NAUGHTY , AT THE AGE FORTY' for striking out '40'. So I think, you too have to be careful. May God bless You and have a great time.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
ha...ha..ha....there are times when I feel I want the key to my freedom. Yes, trying to be naughty huh!
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• India
13 Jun 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, So you ar about to grab freedom key from Nature. Be happy. May God Bless and have a graet time.
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@jdyrj777 (6541)
• United States
1 Jun 09
No i dont. I was a single mother. Im 53 now. Im still single and i love it. I didnt feel all that stuff. All i ever had was night sweats. Sometimes still do. So i dont even know if i done changed already or not or even when it started. I never had all those hormone problems. Or emotional problems either. I had night sweats before and after my final period. Dont miss that part either. Especially. I still have men friends. They say for some reason its important to remain sexually active. So ok i will. I do believe that 50 is the beginning of middle age. Although my life is a whole world different that it was when my children were at home. Its still a wonderful world to me. I have grandchildren now. Except for a few aching joints i dont feel much different that i did at 20, 30, or 40. Im excited to see what the future brings next. Its like "when one door is closed, another is open."
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
Like you, I don't really feel any changes in myself except for the yearly changes in the numbers of my age. Memories are still vivid and I still feel young at heart.
@jdyrj777 (6541)
• United States
12 Jun 09
I guess its just what you make of it. I have read having a good attitude about the change makes it easier. I never had anyone tell me the facts of life yet. Im just figuring stuff out as i go along. All of the women in my family have had hysteroctoimies (misspelled) so they never knew.
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@Citychic (4071)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Fifty dangers or not? Hello there, I wouldn't say that fifty is a dangerous age. I would however say that it is a time where life becomes more meaningful because one knows that there end is just that much closer than it was 50 years ago. A person will begin to look within more and they begin to try to look at their accomplishments in fifty years. Like had the children, went to college, got married etc. Hopefully the hormones don't rage too much which will cause them to make poor and faulty decisions.Happy Mylotting!
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
Yes, nearing to the end of the rope might be one of the reasons for women who have passed the child bearing age to feel the freedom once more. They have spend most part of their lives to being a mother and wife, a little freedom is worth a take.
@Citychic (4071)
• United States
16 Jun 09
5o is a dangerous age!No doubt, I agree with you wholeheartedly on this one. take care and have a happy mylot day!
@dismalgrin (2606)
• United States
31 May 09
Well, my dad had his midlife crisis at age 40. He went off the deep end and started going out and partying like he was a teenager or something. My mom divorced my dad over it. She is 44 now. I don't think I could see her having a midlife crisis, not a heavy one or anything. She is very even keel and she knows what she wants out of life. If she ever were to have one, I'd say that brief phase where she panicked about being a grandma at 37 and started wearing my little sisters' clothes would be her 'midlife crisis' Haha. She is so weird, but I love her!
@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 09
Life happens and it is unfortunate that midlife crises has caused many marriages to tumble. If your mom have tolerated him, the marriage might have stayed on.
@mysdianait (65059)
• Italy
31 May 09
I had no problems turning 50 at all. Nothing has changed except my age every year but I still feel the same as I did before and I still do the same things too with even more freedom because my son is now grown-up and married. No meals to cook unless I want to and more or less I can do things when I want without having to consider others and get home at a certain time like when he was smaller. One day I will have grandchildren I hope and then I will be available for them but for the time being I am enjoying this new found freedom and this decade is definately giving me more than those of the past on many fronts. I have no health problems so I am aware that I am lucky but I am not bothered at all about being in my fifties and I'm looking forward to the next decade too!
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
That is good news diana. I hope to remain as I am for many more years to come. Even though I have reached that golden age, I don't feel any difference at all and am also blessed with good health and fairly good memory. No sign of going slow yet. Still vibrant and active.
@mysdianait (65059)
• Italy
31 May 09
I think there are too many rumours about it being rough and lifeless after 50 - maybe it was 60? I doubt it at all!
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• Philippines
12 Jun 09
I see 50 not as a breaking point,but an exciting point for me.I know at that age I won't be able to bear children anymore,so I'll just focus my attention on my husband,my elder kids,and my business/career.being old doesn't mean that you're brittle and needy.being old means you're wiser.by that time,I have learned a lot of lessons about life.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
At 50, you take it or break it. No longer burdened by child bearing and the onset of body changes. More space to breath. A period of relaxation.
@geniustiger (1696)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
Might be true because this age is quite time to have also understanding with someone else. Others got easily angry with no fair causes. Hot temper and hard to get and understand . They said that this age start to have care also like a child. They wanted the attention for everyone and if not notice easily back out and regrets. Not all but I know some of it woman ages 50 above.
@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
Maybe the hormonal changes caused women aged 50 to be short tempered.
• United States
1 Jun 09
I think as women we should embrace every stage of our lives. I think alot has to do with when we get married, when we have children, when our career begins or ends. We have to listen to our bodies and know the differences in them in all these stages. I know I have several girlfriends in their 50's and they are having the times of their lives. One is married and one single. But they are well adjusted, capable women who are embracing their age. We all have successes and failures along the way, it's all in how we handle them. I think we become of an age after being married and having the children raised, that we fill like we can have our life back. That is a normal feeling. Myself, 44, two boys 20 & 22, was married for 18 years (married at the age of 18), now divorced and living alone. Loving my life. Did I give up my younger life for marriage and children, absolutely. But now I feel young enough to do what I want to do and feel I have made mistakes along the way but have had a great life. I am in perimenopause right now and definitely feel body changes. But it is just another stage. Embrace your stages!! Now that you know my life! LOL
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
What ever happened, need we regret of our past? No point in looking back. Life happens and embrace the present situation with full of hope and joy.
@dsrtrose (166)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Unfortunately, I have had some negative career changes since age of 50, but have started back into school to begin AGAIN. My son , who is 20 is still at home, so have not felt the "empty nest" although, he certainly needs me MUCH less! My husband has been FANTASTIC support for ALL things I do, and I would never be able to do half of what I try to accomplish without his support and praise. So... I am going nowhere!. I do however, find myself missing that youthful skin, body, etc. But, on the other hand, I guess I earned each wrinkle and they all stand for something. At least I have NO grey hair!! LOL!We cannot stop the years from coming so we may as well face them head on best we can, and keep on keepin' on.
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@zandi458 (28116)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
Thats great you have a supportive husband who understands you well and the process of bodily changes for a woman who reaches 50. It is always nice to stay in a comfortable surroundings with immediate family who cares.