If you have siblings, where do you rank in order? Oldest? Youngest?

Family - Sisters, brothers, and sibling rivalry
United States
May 30, 2009 3:20pm CST
I have seven brothers and sisters. I am the oldest. It has had advantages and disadvantages. I think oldest siblings have more responsibility earlier, thus they tend to grow up faster. As the eldest, I was also expected to set a decent example for the younger kids. At times, I took on part of the "parenting" responsibilities. But aside from that, my parents also seemed to have more respect and trust for me. Where do you fall in the sibling pecking order? What have been the advantages and disadvantages?
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
30 May 09
I'm the oldest of four, one brother and two sisters. My brother is 18 months younger than me and was very bad when we were growing up. Like you, I grew up with the responsibilities of looking after my siblings and setting a good example...something I resented and rarely felt appreciated for because both of my parents worked and my siblings were anything BUT cooperative with me. We had chores to do and I was the one who had to hear about it if they didn't get done. The little brats would rat me out in a minute if I laid a finger on them, and I would be punished for that, so I became pretty good at the art of intimidation in order to get them to do what they were supposed to do...threatening to "get" them later and swear it was an accident or suggesting that a favorite toy could vanish off the face of the earth. This helped a lot when my brother hit puberty and was suddenly bigger than me! One big advantage though was that I got to do everything first. I was VERY popular with them once I had my driver's license and could borrow my father's car. I started working part time at 14 (to get out of the house) and when I was about 17 my little sisters stopped being such pains in my butt so I used to take them to the mall and out cruising. I was the first one to get married and have my own apartment and the first one to have a baby. When my sisters' kids were growing up they would ask me for advice which made me feel like the wise older sister. I was the first one to experience the joys of being a grandmother and now I'm a step ahead of them as we get older....although I'm fighting it tooth and nail!
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• United States
30 May 09
Your experiences are very similar to my own. And yes, there are advantages, such as gaining a certain amount of respect from siblings as you reach each milestone in life first : ) Thank you for sharing here... Karen
• United States
1 Jun 09
Hi Peaceful,,,the same here. I had five sisters and two brothers, but I have lost two sisters and a brother. I am next to the youngest, but that didn't mean that I got spoiled. My mom and dad both worked when I was growing up so I had to learn how to do things at an early age. I also got a job during my junior year of high school so I could help out with being able to get my class ring and graduation things that I wanted to get. My grandchildren can't believe I only made $1.00 an hour when I first started working, but that dollar went alot farther back then than it does now thats for sure. All of these facets in my life made me the person I am today and I don't think I turned out half bad...LOL flutterby
• United States
2 Jun 09
LOL, from what I can see, you did indeed turn out well. I think most of us in large families had responsibilities that made us grow up a bit faster. Thank you for sharing your experience. Karen
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• Philippines
2 Jun 09
same with me.. i am applying good things ive learned from my parents. what they taught me when i was young really helped me a lot especially now that i am married.. if not for them, i wouldnt be able to cook, do the laundry, etc.. but most of all, i've learned how to properly take care of children, specially babies..
• United States
2 Jun 09
Yes, indeed we did, but I would not trade one year of my childhood for anything. It made me the person I am today and I like who I am and who I became. I have no malice in what responsibilities my parent s gave me becasue they had a hand in making me this person. flutterby
@savypat (20216)
• United States
31 May 09
I have been the oldest of two now there is just me left. In fact I am the only one of my family left, it gets lonely sometimes.
• United States
31 May 09
That would be a lonely feeling, Pat. Hugs!
• Philippines
30 May 09
i have 5 brothers and 4 sisters. im the sixth. the disadvantage on my part was when i was younger i do most of the household chores because i am the 3rd girl. my eldest sister got married and moved out. my 2nd sister was studying i college so she spent most of her time in the campus. then followed by my brothers and as we know most boys are not that useful at home..
• United States
30 May 09
True that the younger siblings are often the last ones to leave home, and as their parents age, many chores might fall to the younger siblings. It is good to have your take on this, so thank you : ) Karen
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
yah. especially if older siblings are failure..
• United States
30 May 09
I'm the youngest son of 3... And it STINKS. It always seems like I'm getting the short end of the stick. There really isn't any benefits to being the youngest person in the family, seeing as people seem to think less of you for it. Of course, I'm willing to bet some of the world's best revolutionaries were youngest sons, because they wanted something more than anyone else, and they would do whatever they could to get what they wanted.
• United States
30 May 09
As time goes on, your may be viewed differently. Some youngest children become the family "pets" so to speak. And I can see where, yes, youngest siblings would strive harder to make their mark in the world. Motivation. : ) Thank you for your input! Karen
• United States
2 Jun 09
Phew, I'm one of six children, and I am number four. I was the baby until 6 years after me. It made me emotional and a little offset. But now I love my siblings. But I do have four sisters, which sometimes is a drag but great for shopping.
• United States
2 Jun 09
Things do often change and balance out a bit once we're all grown. Thank you for your response : ) Karen
@Keikou (1)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 10
i have an elder brother which makes me the youngest. There hasn't been much advantages or disadvantages since my parents treat us both equally which is great!
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
I'm the youngest. I'm the baby in my family. Even if I am the youngest, I still get a lot of responsibilities such as household chores since I am the only girl so I am the one expected to do all the house chores.