He is ready to leave me

I put up with the same thing from my ex (the guy in the pic) for 7 years. We just recently split up. Day in and day out I was defending myself. I lost a few jobs because he didn't like me working with men, so he would cause problems for me at work until I gave up and quit. We couldn't really go anywhere and have any fun because he would always think that either I was looking at other men, or they were looking at me. No matter how much I tried to make him understand that I wasn't interested in, or even attracted to, any others, nothing worked. And as for them checking me out, let me tell you..I am very overweight, and know for a fact that I am not attractive. But in his obsession, he just could not see it. I finally had defended myself all that I could, and I left. I will love him forever. We have two children together, and I will see his face every time I look at either of them. As you can see from my pic, our daughter looks just like him. Our son does, too. But I just couldn't live like that any longer. Sometimes, you have to take a deep breath and cut your losses. It hurts. You will cry. But the pain will start to go away. And then one day, you will realize that you are actually happy. It takes a load off your shoulders when you don't have someone constantly accusing you. You shouldn't have to defend yourself time and time again. He should love you and trust you. That is what a true relationship is. Without the trust, it will never work. Maybe he can change, I don't know. But I tried to change Josh for 7 long years. If you decide to stay with him, then I pray that he does change. If you decide to leave him, I pray that you find someone to truly love you. Either way, I pray that you have a wonderful and happy life. God bless.

This is what an abuser does. Even if it's not physical abuse... Do you love him? Are there children? Are you afraid of him? Do you want to work it out? Are you willing to stay even if he isn't willing to change his behavior? Honestly it doesn't sound good to me at all.

dianamunoz1 leave him now, he is becoming an abuser, he wants' to control you and that is not love,love does not hurt and love is trusting.he does not trust you, he wants to control you, get out he is becoming a wife abuser and next thing he will do is hit you, take whatever kids you have and call the police for the location of abused womens shelter and get out now.You deserve'a man who trusts you, respects you and loves you for who you are,not a man who wants to control you and make you his puppet. please do not wait around for him to start getting physical. you owe it to you and your children. let us know what happens.

The only advise I could give you was to go to counseling but you already did that. My husband starte doing that same thing to me and I have a two month old daughter with him. I started getting really frustrated because he was bothering me more after I had our baby, as it turns out, he is the one who is having an affair. He was just looking for an excuse to leave so now that I have grown the nerve to tell him to leave he does not want to leave. He apologizes and says that there is nothing going on with him and the girl, but I do not believe him. If I were you I would check to make sure he is not the one cheating and trying to turn the pages onto you; because a lot of guys do that, to stop feeling guilty.